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@Ampresus transcend religions altogether. instead of limiting yourself to a particular religion, be aware of the practical goal of all religions.

@kieranperez why don't you talk to your parents and try to come up with a plan to pay the debt? after you pay the debt, consider yourself free to go live in a monastery for a year or so, without ever needing to look behind your shoulders. that's what i would do.

@Spiral hello there. i resonate with you here. my relationship with my parents is very weak but it's been strengthening up since i left their home. it happens because i leave the door open for connection. this is my plan: i don't want this pattern to go on so i'll do the opposite with my future children. i'll work really hard on honesty and empathy with them and as they grow older and older i'll let them know that they need to perpetuate this healthy practice of parenting. in resume, i don't try to solve it asap with my parents... i just let it happen. my true effort is related to my future children. i want to see my family thrive!

@MM1988 it's not a different pattern. it's the same toxic self-talk as before.

lemme help you deluded related:

@bejapuskas hi there. i suggest that you choose a style that works. i've tried the yogic life and it works really well food: ayurvedic diet exercise: hatha yoga (asanas) now i'm trying the gym style and it's working nicely as well food: everything i used to eat on the ayurvedic diet + B12/BCAA/vegan protein + lots of water exercise: classic gym stuff it's a faster style. eat more and burn more. so, in resume, have a specific goal and mimic what already works well.

yes, useless information is addictive.

oh c'mon. this isn't the proper session for this topic. maybe not even the proper forum

@Beeflamb sorry, there's no ultimate authority other than your direct experience. you cannot rely on leo or anyone else to tell you if you're doing the right thing. feel the quality of your life and let it alone be your guide.

my first retreat was a small sesshin in a zen center and it lasted 4 days. what should you do? just sign up, show up

when i want to ditch a habit that i find toxic, this is how i measure my progress... instead of counting the days i stay clean and restarting everytime i relapse, as if i were expecting some kind of prior perfection, i find a way to see my progress on the long run, avoiding losing data. suppose i want to quit porn, but atm i watch porn every 2 days. my goal would be to increase the gap between the days that i relapse. a systematic way of doing this is by using bars to plot those gaps: x represents the gap (1st, 2nd, 3rd etc) and y represents the number of days that i was able to do what i want to do. this is how a steady progress looks like:

since i'm very familiar with numbers it's easy for me to keep track of them in my memory... so i don't have an example spreadsheet to share .

it depended on the degree of attachment. when the craving was too strong, i only picked one. yeap that's why i chose a picture with a curve, not a straight line, to represent good progress. the progress can be quadratic, cubic or even exponential (the best one imo).

this does not contradict what i said

there you go. no urge to be known as enlightened and no self-promotion of any kind. i wonder if the "ask me anything" series of topics that are popping up on this forum are doing more harm than good for two reasons: they're distorting enlightenment into a highly intellectual and conceptual thing, misleading those without enough discernment it may strengthen the egoic illusion of those who start such threads as an attempt to seek external validations there are reasons behind the fact that nobody is allowed to claim themselves "enlightened" in monasteries. i don't know what leo and the moderators think about it, though.

infinite source of more gibberish: https://accesstoinsight.org/ good luck

@Wisebaxter related:

@Charlotte you need to understand that the VAST majority of people are highly identified with their thoughts eager to start conversations out of the blue just to feel less lonely have some compassion for they are suffering.

i'll be planting trees and working with sustainable energy. i'll be eating healthily and practicing yoga. i'll be even more deeply connected to my wife than ever and our family will be filled with love. my children will inspire the world!

oh, the suffering. the best fuel out there! it smells like poop under the surface. lots of inner work to do. here's a tip: pick one thing you want to change and implement it consistently. don't be the rushing fool that gives up too early because he couldn't do everything he wanted to.

it usually takes a few years of meditation and self-inquiry. how long have you been doing this for? you seem pretty anxious about it, which is an indicator of inexperience. i don't know how to actually help you at this point, since your mind is quite made up about the upcoming LSD trip. i think the best i can do is leave you the following food for thought: any concept about your true nature is profoundly wrong.

@Wisebaxter Truth can be scary and frustrating, depending on the steadiness of the mind. Truth is not a visual effect. be careful with what you expect. don't attach yourself to any belief.

@cori you need to understand what makes you angry. notice the pattern that takes you there... even before the anger trigger.

@Santiago no relationship will ever work if there's no sense of construction. are you building something together? do you have plans? are you willing to face difficulties together? difficulties can be a blessing in a relationship. they make the couple realize how they need each other in order to achieve what they have planned. if you're dating just for pleasure and convenience, it will certainly lead to frustration and demotivation at some point. you gotta learn how to face challenges together. teamwork!

@Butters as long as you don't fail due to repeated errors you should be fine.