ajasatya

@Mu_ yeap, it's very easy to choose sides here. very interesting to see how some people agree with me and some people do not. i'm fine with both. even though i know that there is no such thing as "superiority" in reality (just in imagination), i was intentionally outputting a tone of fantasized superiority just so that she could see her own flaw in my words. sometimes it works right away, sometimes it doesn't. but i'm sure her experience here hit somewhere it should hit and she'll spend some time thinking about it. the memory may even haunt her for a while on her search for validation. the internal journey is often unpleasant. sometimes we see things we didn't expect to see. sometimes it smells more than we think it would! what she is seeking cannot be found anywhere else. it's not that people should understand her. it's not about finding a new system of beliefs. it's certainly not about building up her way to dissatisfaction and isolation by identifying herself with a "superior stage". peace of heart is rare because humility and self development are tricky/paradoxical. love is not always soft and warm. the words of a true friend can hurt you in the first moment.

because you're still attached to beliefs. you want your beliefs to be your fortress. sad/happy news: beliefs can't be your fortress! beliefs are just prior knowledge about the world without any fundamental truth to them. if you try to build your foundations on a set of beliefs, it will be like building a castle on the sand. this is why you need validations for your beliefs. you're trying to feel safe while standing on a mental construction. don't build your foundations on thoughts. build your foundations on the present moment!

good stuff. i agree with the main message but i disagree with your methods/didactic. keep it up!

start doing it already. your long-term plans are obfuscating your short-term actions. you're basically living in your mind and not actually doing what it takes to experience new things. if you don't manage to come up with practical actions from your introspective moments, you'll end up like a mental zombie that fantasizes a lot but doesn't really live life.

this is gold. not sure if you're going to read this, but you should investigate what part of you felt ridiculed and attacked. it's time for another part of the armor to go.

nobody else can have the wisdom you need. oh, the suffering! please please, i want to feel understood! how is that yellow?

look, lack of humility also causes suffering. are you self-proclaiming yourself as yellow? yellow is a tier 2 stage, which means that one at yellow has fully grasped the necessity of different stages in everyone's life and in every culture out there. if you're feeling lonely, then let go of the place you think you are and go back to the basics. talk to people, hug, make eye contact. tell someone that you feel lonely. human connection does not depend on "stages" or "beliefs". a silent and deep eye contact can break many barriers.

too many words. are you having problems with your husband? are you missing the excitement of the 20's? do you have relationship problems with your children? or are you just struggling internally with conflicting beliefs?

@Shin a lot of times little harshness is exactly what people need to shake them out of their mental cycles @Yellow_Girl i will be even more straightforward. how would the world have to be to please you? what would have to change? do you have the courage to make that statement? do not allow the mind to take all the space. if your heart can't be heard, we're just wasting time here. the mind is a prolix thing and has its place. but the heart is ALMOST SPEECHLESS.

@Yellow_Girl to me, it sounds like you're overusing rationalization to bypass emotional issues. you said a lot of big words, but in the end, you're just afraid of opening up. repressed traumas? i don't know. you should know better.

you can say that they don't want to vote

there is no thread littering in INFINITY. INFINITY is EVERYTHING.

it grows 0.1 mm everytime you say "yes or no".

@RawJudah the 10 days solo retreat if you plan it well. the trip is more prone to having several sources of distractions. even the solo retreat can have a lot of distractions if you're careless.

@Dimi you need to contemplate why you exist in the first place. why are you alive? what have you forgotten? learn how to investigate these matters for yourself. this is very different from the common studies, where you listen to a teacher tell you "the truth". Truth is your own very nature. study your own existence... nothing is hidden from you. you're the only one blindfolding yourself, like GOD playing the ultimate trick on itself.

we'd need to go a little deeper. feel free to send me a pm and we can take a closer look at your life. yes. these are my accomplishments in chronological order: dropped toxic habits enlightenment a wonderful marriage an amazing job what i am working for (also in chronological order): moving to canada having children being an amazing father and building a lovely family getting involved in big philanthropic causes, like reforestation, education and world hunger this is my journey: i work hard. this is my daily schedule: i'm either sleeping, eating, working, studying or spending time with my wife. if you're still wasting time and fooling yourself into thinking that you want to live well, it means that you haven't fully grasped what Life is. who are you?

simply put, my experience is as follows: i had no idea about how good life could get. my addictions were: porn, masturbation and alcohol. life feels much better when you can live as an open book. contemplate how it would be like if your heart weighted as much as a feather.

no, children are more like ambulant egos. for a child to be cool/happy/content, everything has to be exactly as he/she wants. that's the opposite of Love.

then you're not hungry for Truth.

do you like oranges?

you should not believe it unless you experience it for yourself. note: there are VERY FEW true lovers of life on this planet.

excellent questions. such questions are worth a few years of contemplation. nobody will be able to answer those for you... not because they don't know the answers for themselves. but because such questions can't be answered by someone else. this is the best part of self-inquiry: there can be no other authority than direct conscious experience. anything else is merely a belief. good luck.

@Dylan Page only the mind can be confused. drop the mind even for a few seconds and you'll have a glimpse of true freedom (freedom of mind, spiritual liberation). go to retreats, embody mindfulness. stop trying to grasp no-mind with mind.