Vytas

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  1. @Shroomdoctor thanks for the input. @Psyche_92 I am not watching tv. Much worse, I would watch something like h3h3 or pewdiepie... Basically what happened. From mid January til mid February I was doing no-fap challenge, was studying for my degree, doing yoga, even getting into kriya (before Leo mentioned it ), but than in the late February when I was doing huge changes in my diet, do to big failure (lack of knowledge on KETO and intermediate fasting) I had super big ego backlash. Basically, failed/ stop doing all these routines, hobbies, commitments. Now, starting to pick momentum again from zero. Just thinking if this challenge won't be too much and whether it is worth while. As changes in diet/ hobbies are already enough 'weight'.
  2. @Shin Do you think after 90 or 120 days of no PMO it is possible that the concentration skill will get better? This is probably the most important aspect. Because for me what happened after a month of no PMO it was super hard to study when my mind was jumping from object to object like crazy. And one more thing, do you give any rewards for your ego when you reach small goals like 30, 60 days and so on, for example a day to slack off and watch tv? I feel like on this road one could get really pissed off on the world, as there would be less sources of pleasure. Am I wrong here? Again just wondering what are your mindsets and action plans? Maybe even some of you are doing no PM challenge but with some weird ass tantra technique are getting some internal orgasms. Just wandering whats out there
  3. As a guy who lacks motivation for this challenge (have done a few streaks of 30 days in the past), I wonder if here are any guys who have gone through this and could approve that no PMO in a long run really boosts mental clarity, concentration and energy levels? As for myself those 30 days didn't seem to help with concentration. Just the opposite sometimes. I wonder if this won't just make me anti-sexuality dogmatic. Would appreciate the input P.S Currently struggle with the choice - which one to pick: 1)forceful action mode (like no PMO) and 2)"take a chill pill, go with the flow" mode. Which one is more healthy and fruitful
  4. Damn dude, this kind of reminded me some old stupid/upsetting times I lived through. When I was in a 9th grade, first days in highschool (14 years old) some girls came up to me and said, "you entered the wrong school, this is for high schoolers" asked my age and said I looked like a 10 year old. Basically from that day I started to notice my 'young look' and felt inferior from that day up until 19. Also had many more bad experiences from people (peers mostly) relating my age. I mean now I am 20 years old and could easily blend in a group of teenagers. From my experience, no matter of how much I went to the gym, changed outfit there was no perfect solution, these things helped only in miniscule. Best thing I learned was to accept this physical body. Now, I take it very lightly. When people ask my age and I tell them, I laugh or smile with them as well, joking that I am also surprised. I noticed there is nothing negative in this. Some are genuinely surprised. The only regret is that I can't change the past. If i could I would go back in time and tell myself, chill, don't worry. Pay attention to things that matter, not this. Place your worth not on your looks but on actions and don't take life too seriously. It is a play. Have no fear. The only negative thing was in school, when it was very hard for me to pick up girls, and in work interviews when an employer thought 'he is just a kid'. But apart from that all good. Plus, some people look old at their 20s, old kins of shit happens. Friend got bold at 19. With every month I am just more and more grateful for what I have. Hope these lines give you some comfort on your journey. Good luck. (And ofcourse if you have a lush solid looking beard, grow it )
  5. @Psyche_92 as a guy who succeeded at 90 no porn challenge, how are your unconscious life going? I mean, arent you constantly dreaming about girls? At least with me: if i succeed 1 week no PMO, my dreams go bat shit crazy and I fail, or worse, dreams ignite that compulsion and I relapse in my waking life...
  6. Due to internet data limitations I will not give you the link, but you can search in youtube "joe Rogan experiens with Jordan Peterson" ,open the latest interview and at about 2:12:00 he talks about diet and his and his daughters experience with 'greens and meet'. Its mind blowing story. Hope it gives you some sense of it
  7. I find this topic very useful thanks@WildeChilde . Btw from my last meditation insight i really resonate with your wisdom Joseph Nice advice!
  8. regarding latest Leo's blog about professor Noam Chomsky (https://www.actualized.org/insights/noam-chomsky-exposer-of-self-bias) I found a funny interview with him and Ali G, enjoy
  9. @MarkusSweden I think Sadhguru has a daughter, and to be honest talks in depth about raising kids. A month ago I watched this talk and would recommend for you as well : Definitely moving speech. He has some great insights. If you cant afford an hour watching this talk there are many more shorter videos on youtube. I feel like general message of his is this: do not pour garbage (basically anything) into the child's brain, as the intelligence within him/her will find its own authentic way of how to navigate through life. Best way to help kids is by being an example yourself of joy love and health Hope this helps
  10. There are thousands of articles in the internet on concentration, you can research how different school view it. For example, approach to concentration from a yogi; zen master; tantric man and so forth. Here is one of my favorite quotes about it: "M started doing puja and meditation as instructed by Maharajji. Maharajji had given him a mantra and told him to start any way he wanted; it didn’t matter. After some time, when M and Maharajji were traveling by horse-drawn carriage, M asked Maharajji about the wandering mind during meditation: “It won’t stand on one point; but many ideas come in. What do I do?” Then suddenly a small child ran across the road and the driver pulled the reins to stop the horse just in time to save the child. Maharajji said, “Like that,” pointing to the driver holding the reins. “As the mind will travel here, there, and all directions, you should always try to pull it to one point. You should center it with continuous practice, then automatically it will go to the one point on which you want to meditate. Ultimately, after years, the mind becomes quiet.”" - Ram Dass "Miracle of Love"
  11. @Afonso , my man, its beautiful to see how much you grew from the first few trips of 5meo keep it up. Also, happy Christmas to all of you guys let the love flourish! Spread the inner joy
  12. @thehero I will repost an image somebody on this forum posted a long time ago. Good luck with your poetry. Btw we all are wandering on this earth and trying to figure it out what the hell is going on, you are not alone
  13. What can I say, I feel like I have the same mindset. It feels terrible when you try even unconsciously to live up to your persona thus sacrificing your own happiness. It is funny because just 2 hours ago I watched this insane video which really hit me. It penetrated me soo deeply. Basically what it says is that base your worth not on the outside things. But on what you truly are, and above that be courageous. Even though you may look stupid, be yourself! Thats the quality which is definitely above fear. So there is the video. Hope it will touch your heart too
  14. Mother of God, True Mastery right here
  15. @Shin Thanks for the recommendation Just a few chapters in, but already amazed by the wisdom of author. BTW as I am reading I notice that I am just at the beginning of the first stage, in your opinion should I get a gf? even though I don't have much to share, at this point in my journey it is pretty much only trials and errors. I am asking this because I am going on a date on Monday and cant stop thinking what am I able to give/share/talk with her. (ps. I am 20)
  16. Ask yourself how do i know that i exist? No, seriously. How do i know? When i go to sleep it feels like i do not exist and now i do. If you can become conscious of life that is running through you will instantly become more peaceful and super grateful. These conscious experience happens very rarely for me. Only when I am just after or during meditation some kind of a yoga or just heightened awareness. To know life just ask yourself existential questions and you will get there. For example: where do my thoughts occur? Or how to prove myself/others that I exist? (Note that you cannot prove it, you can just be life)
  17. So yesterday I was just contemplating life and similar things, as the minutes passed by and the more I tried to figure it out the more confused I was. At the end of my contemplation I was even angry in life, why I cannot know, but today I discovered this video and was totally amazed by the insight of Sadhguru on mind and confusion. If anyone else is very confused or even angry for that definitely check this video!!! (9:27- 10:50) " You can become life and know life, you can never figure life" After this video I was finally at peace with my confusion
  18. This is my one of the most favorite videos on the youtube!!! Every word every idea is so deep. Every time I watch it I hear something new, something more spiritual than the previous time. Give it a try
  19. Just some random old sketches I drew
  20. you may want to check out this topic
  21. OFFTOPIC, WOW, I have just watched the video about the power of addiction by Gabor Mate, Thanks to you @JustinS after I watched the psychedelic science video, youtube recommended for me another video of Gabor Mate and it was beautiful, the whole video is very deep. I mean the man knows what he is saying, just watch it, amazing speech! Here is the video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=66cYcSak6nE
  22. "Once it happened…Four men were walking in the forest. The first was a gnana yogi, the second was a bhakti yogi, the third was a karma yogi, and the fourth was a kriya yogi. Usually, these four people can never be together. The gnana yogi has total disdain for every other type of yoga. His is the yoga of the intellect, and typically, an intellectual has complete disdain for everybody else, particularly these devotional types who look upward and chant God’s name all the time. They look like a bunch of idiots to him. But a bhakti yogi, a devotee, thinks all this gnana, karma, and kriya yoga is a waste of time. He pities the others who don’t see that all you need to do is know that God exists, hold his hand, and walk in trust. All this mind-splitting philosophy, this bone-bending yoga is absurd to him. Then there is the karma yogi, the man of action. He thinks all the other types are just plain lazy. Their lives are pure self-indulgence. But the kriya yogi is the most disdainful of all. He laughs at everyone. Don’t they know that existence is just energy? If you don’t transform your energy, whether you long for God or for anything else, nothing is going to happen! There can be no transformation. These four people customarily cannot get along. But today they happened to be walking together in the forest. Suddenly, a storm broke out. It grew fierce. The rain started pouring down relentlessly. Drenched to the skin, the four yogis started running, looking desperately for shelter. The bhakti yogi, the devotion man, said, “There’s an ancient temple in this direction. Let’s go there.” (As a devotee, he was particularly familiar with the geography of temples.) They ran in that direction. They came to an ancient temple; all the walls had crumbled long ago; just the roof and four columns remained. They rushed into the temple—not out of any love for God, but just to escape the rain. they moved closer and closer. Finally, there was no alternative. They just sat down and embraced the idol. The moment these four people hugged the idol, suddenly God appeared. In all their minds the same question arose: why now ? They wondered, “We expounded so many subtle and arcane philosophies, worshipped at every possible sacred shrine, great and small, selflessly served so many people, did so much body-breaking penance, but you never showed up. Now when we’re just escaping the rain, you turn up. Why?” God said, “At last you four idiots got together.”" This is a quote from the book of "Inner Engineering" by Sadhguru. This story might be irrelevant but what I wanted to say is that, he is talking about 4 ways of attaining enlightenment and reaching the ultimate. I don't know, it might be true that there are only two ways: through mind or heart. Either way it is interesting that there is no 'only path' everyone has his/her own unique journey. By the way if you are interested in the bhati yoga I would definitelly reccomend reading a book "Miracle of Love" by Rom Dass. Great stories about amazing saint Maharaji, give it a try.