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It is siad that passion cycles go every two weeks. According to my observations it is more or less true. First week was hard. Then 2nd and 3rd was relatively easy. Currenty in the 4rth week and its hard as hell. Lust came back. Have horny dreams and thougths. Damn. Still staying strong. Try to witness dreams without indulging in them. Also some physical work helps to stay sane. Lets do this! I am the master of the body, not a slave! It is time to regain the freedom of choice good luck to all

Here is the list: (brackets will include my understanding about these movies) 1. Whiplash (a guy with a vision. Loses grip on surroundings, very ego-centric. But its good to see what it takes to reach a goal, its not easy. Sacrifices are made) 2. Shape of Water (its also about the energy yin and yan; sick masculine and healthy feminine) The Big Sick (struggles of love, relationships are messy) Erernal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind (lovely story) 3. Requiem For a Dream (my favorite movie, 11/10. About seeking happiness with wrong methods) Whiplash (this category as well ) 4. Intern 5. Forest Gump (I love this movie so much; the dude just lives authenticly, no mask, no pretending. Just an innocent beautiful life) 6. Waking Life (ouu man this is deep, many philosophies are cramped in this movie) 7. Sicario (different environments, different morals. Clashes between the two opposites) 8. The Matrix (Classics ) 9. 12 Angry Man (about open-mindedness, and the importance of discussion). 10. Split (cool movie but idk if is self-actualizing...) American History X (its also about ideology and dogma, also psichology, maybe its more about 9. category) The Hunt (could be categories 3. 9. 10.)

if you are serious about this topic or simply genuinely interested I would highly recommend dedicating an hour in watching this discussion. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o2aAx3wk6dg&list=FLe7QqtkN4ljwDZT0r2nl7UQ&index=1&t=0s The first question is about consciousness but the rest of the talk is about AI, what are the benefits and what are the negatives. What I like about this particular talk is that the speakers in it (3 there are) are highly educated with a lot of knowledge. Hope you find it interesting

@MarkusR Is this you singing?

Heart-melting performance. This man just nails life purpose. What a master of music

Day 9. Feeling confident in social interactions. I had taken a nap this afternoon, just after waking up there was a strong urge to fap, maybe because of some sexual dreams, but I didn't. Yes! Off-topic: @Ether About the energy levels. I myself find hatha yoga very helpful with that. Do surya namaskar (google the technique, try it out) just after the night when you wake up. After a day or two you should be able to see the difference. Also it might be your diet. Maybe you lack some nutrients. For me lack of energy may as well signal that maybe I am in a stressed or melancholy period in my life. Throwing out all the negative /self-defeating thoughts helps. In particular J. Peterson's books first chapter/rule for life uplifts: "Stand up straight with your shoulders back" . That book may even increase motivation for noFap, taking 100 percent responsibility for life.

Idk if any of you have shared this, so I will just drop it. The video may help you to to find the inner strength. I like his quote : "... if you wanna get over this, you just, you gotta stop being a little bi**h. "

@Shroomdoctor thanks for the input. @Psyche_92 I am not watching tv. Much worse, I would watch something like h3h3 or pewdiepie... Basically what happened. From mid January til mid February I was doing no-fap challenge, was studying for my degree, doing yoga, even getting into kriya (before Leo mentioned it ), but than in the late February when I was doing huge changes in my diet, do to big failure (lack of knowledge on KETO and intermediate fasting) I had super big ego backlash. Basically, failed/ stop doing all these routines, hobbies, commitments. Now, starting to pick momentum again from zero. Just thinking if this challenge won't be too much and whether it is worth while. As changes in diet/ hobbies are already enough 'weight'.

@Shin Do you think after 90 or 120 days of no PMO it is possible that the concentration skill will get better? This is probably the most important aspect. Because for me what happened after a month of no PMO it was super hard to study when my mind was jumping from object to object like crazy. And one more thing, do you give any rewards for your ego when you reach small goals like 30, 60 days and so on, for example a day to slack off and watch tv? I feel like on this road one could get really pissed off on the world, as there would be less sources of pleasure. Am I wrong here? Again just wondering what are your mindsets and action plans? Maybe even some of you are doing no PM challenge but with some weird ass tantra technique are getting some internal orgasms. Just wandering whats out there

As a guy who lacks motivation for this challenge (have done a few streaks of 30 days in the past), I wonder if here are any guys who have gone through this and could approve that no PMO in a long run really boosts mental clarity, concentration and energy levels? As for myself those 30 days didn't seem to help with concentration. Just the opposite sometimes. I wonder if this won't just make me anti-sexuality dogmatic. Would appreciate the input P.S Currently struggle with the choice - which one to pick: 1)forceful action mode (like no PMO) and 2)"take a chill pill, go with the flow" mode. Which one is more healthy and fruitful

Damn dude, this kind of reminded me some old stupid/upsetting times I lived through. When I was in a 9th grade, first days in highschool (14 years old) some girls came up to me and said, "you entered the wrong school, this is for high schoolers" asked my age and said I looked like a 10 year old. Basically from that day I started to notice my 'young look' and felt inferior from that day up until 19. Also had many more bad experiences from people (peers mostly) relating my age. I mean now I am 20 years old and could easily blend in a group of teenagers. From my experience, no matter of how much I went to the gym, changed outfit there was no perfect solution, these things helped only in miniscule. Best thing I learned was to accept this physical body. Now, I take it very lightly. When people ask my age and I tell them, I laugh or smile with them as well, joking that I am also surprised. I noticed there is nothing negative in this. Some are genuinely surprised. The only regret is that I can't change the past. If i could I would go back in time and tell myself, chill, don't worry. Pay attention to things that matter, not this. Place your worth not on your looks but on actions and don't take life too seriously. It is a play. Have no fear. The only negative thing was in school, when it was very hard for me to pick up girls, and in work interviews when an employer thought 'he is just a kid'. But apart from that all good. Plus, some people look old at their 20s, old kins of shit happens. Friend got bold at 19. With every month I am just more and more grateful for what I have. Hope these lines give you some comfort on your journey. Good luck. (And ofcourse if you have a lush solid looking beard, grow it )

@Psyche_92 as a guy who succeeded at 90 no porn challenge, how are your unconscious life going? I mean, arent you constantly dreaming about girls? At least with me: if i succeed 1 week no PMO, my dreams go bat shit crazy and I fail, or worse, dreams ignite that compulsion and I relapse in my waking life...

Due to internet data limitations I will not give you the link, but you can search in youtube "joe Rogan experiens with Jordan Peterson" ,open the latest interview and at about 2:12:00 he talks about diet and his and his daughters experience with 'greens and meet'. Its mind blowing story. Hope it gives you some sense of it

I find this topic very useful thanks@WildeChilde . Btw from my last meditation insight i really resonate with your wisdom Joseph Nice advice!

regarding latest Leo's blog about professor Noam Chomsky (https://www.actualized.org/insights/noam-chomsky-exposer-of-self-bias) I found a funny interview with him and Ali G, enjoy

@MarkusSweden I think Sadhguru has a daughter, and to be honest talks in depth about raising kids. A month ago I watched this talk and would recommend for you as well : Definitely moving speech. He has some great insights. If you cant afford an hour watching this talk there are many more shorter videos on youtube. I feel like general message of his is this: do not pour garbage (basically anything) into the child's brain, as the intelligence within him/her will find its own authentic way of how to navigate through life. Best way to help kids is by being an example yourself of joy love and health Hope this helps

There are thousands of articles in the internet on concentration, you can research how different school view it. For example, approach to concentration from a yogi; zen master; tantric man and so forth. Here is one of my favorite quotes about it: "M started doing puja and meditation as instructed by Maharajji. Maharajji had given him a mantra and told him to start any way he wanted; it didn’t matter. After some time, when M and Maharajji were traveling by horse-drawn carriage, M asked Maharajji about the wandering mind during meditation: “It won’t stand on one point; but many ideas come in. What do I do?” Then suddenly a small child ran across the road and the driver pulled the reins to stop the horse just in time to save the child. Maharajji said, “Like that,” pointing to the driver holding the reins. “As the mind will travel here, there, and all directions, you should always try to pull it to one point. You should center it with continuous practice, then automatically it will go to the one point on which you want to meditate. Ultimately, after years, the mind becomes quiet.”" - Ram Dass "Miracle of Love"

@Afonso , my man, its beautiful to see how much you grew from the first few trips of 5meo keep it up. Also, happy Christmas to all of you guys let the love flourish! Spread the inner joy

@thehero I will repost an image somebody on this forum posted a long time ago. Good luck with your poetry. Btw we all are wandering on this earth and trying to figure it out what the hell is going on, you are not alone

What can I say, I feel like I have the same mindset. It feels terrible when you try even unconsciously to live up to your persona thus sacrificing your own happiness. It is funny because just 2 hours ago I watched this insane video which really hit me. It penetrated me soo deeply. Basically what it says is that base your worth not on the outside things. But on what you truly are, and above that be courageous. Even though you may look stupid, be yourself! Thats the quality which is definitely above fear. So there is the video. Hope it will touch your heart too

Mother of God, True Mastery right here

@Shin Thanks for the recommendation Just a few chapters in, but already amazed by the wisdom of author. BTW as I am reading I notice that I am just at the beginning of the first stage, in your opinion should I get a gf? even though I don't have much to share, at this point in my journey it is pretty much only trials and errors. I am asking this because I am going on a date on Monday and cant stop thinking what am I able to give/share/talk with her. (ps. I am 20)

Ask yourself how do i know that i exist? No, seriously. How do i know? When i go to sleep it feels like i do not exist and now i do. If you can become conscious of life that is running through you will instantly become more peaceful and super grateful. These conscious experience happens very rarely for me. Only when I am just after or during meditation some kind of a yoga or just heightened awareness. To know life just ask yourself existential questions and you will get there. For example: where do my thoughts occur? Or how to prove myself/others that I exist? (Note that you cannot prove it, you can just be life)

So yesterday I was just contemplating life and similar things, as the minutes passed by and the more I tried to figure it out the more confused I was. At the end of my contemplation I was even angry in life, why I cannot know, but today I discovered this video and was totally amazed by the insight of Sadhguru on mind and confusion. If anyone else is very confused or even angry for that definitely check this video!!! (9:27- 10:50) " You can become life and know life, you can never figure life" After this video I was finally at peace with my confusion