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Dating is a game. Both sides want different things. Men want to fuck, women want a partner. The male game is appealing to female desire as much as possible and satisfying male needs. The female game is appealing to male desire as much as possible and satisfying female needs. Females desire confident, charming, humorous, strong men so that's what men do. Men desire slim and pretty girls, so that's what girls do. Since most men are not confident and strong, they fake it. Since most girls are not pretty, they put on make up. Both sides play to maximize their chances. Survival in a nutshell. That was an example of going meta on dating.

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The general rule is that whenever you see a girl you like, you approach. If you take more than 3 seconds to decide, you're done. I felt utmost fear and dread when I did my first approaches. There is no way around that but doing it. Also, you first 2-3 approaches should be warm-up. You have to give no fucks and just say what you want. That puts you in the mood. A great pick-up artist called these 2-3 girls sacrificial lambs because you know you'll fail so at least use it for something.

Interesting. I don't know whether chess or most games could be redesigned for that purpose. They're innately dualistic because the main aim of the game is competition, not cooperation. Unless you're playing team games. I think that's the closest you can get. In such games you might sacrifice yourself for the team. It can be but it's going to be difficult. If you really want to build a game for people, you have to study game design and logistics as well. What use would such a game have if nobody wants to play it in the first place. Wish you all the best, just sharing my thoughts.

Practice Vision Logic in life. That's what it's for.

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Because others stuff themselves all the time with whatever they can find to escape feeling empty. True. It's the negative interpretation of emptiness that creates the problem. There's an assumption that feeling empty is somewhat bad or undesirable. But it's the best thing you could ever experience. That's enlightenment right there.

Everything in our day and age is designed to be addictive. Especially American stuff.

Good. You awaken when you do. IMO, better early than late or never.

Don't forget inaction or passive aggressiveness where you fake forgiveness and deep down you want revenge. Which is the worst IMO. True. What's interesting though is why it happens. That's usually the fake saint disguise where you act that way only because you think that people will accept you and love you more. So counter-intuitively and quite ironically it's coming from the same place of selfishness and survival needs as in other people.

Sounds like smth you have to endure until you move out.

No fear.

Don't know about youtube channels, but a simple exercise that lets you release tension throughout the day. You can wear a wristband whenever you look at it scan your body for any tense parts and release the tension. Usually body parts like jaws, forehead, stomach and shoulders are the culprits.

Because these labels represent as accurately as possible things Leo talks about to as many people as possible. Labels don't matter, they only point to what is important. Like the finger pointing to the moon analogy. You can use whatever labels you like, but choosing the most descriptive and easy to associate ones is always better.

Conscious/Mindful Suffering = Growth

It looks like you're on the right path. You're conscious of what's happening and oftentimes you just can't do anything about feelings because they're stronger than rationality. For me the solution here is to just live through it, suffer through it, if necessary and you're going to come out wiser. That's life.

Can be, depends on the delivery. You have to be good at it. Depends on how and when you say it and on the other person's knowledge of consciousness and such. It's all relative. You couldn't understand your client because he was probably in a different context or frame of mind than you. It's important that before you try to communicate anything you kind of synch up to the other person. Give him some base to work with. In his vids, Leo always takes like 5-10 minutes to make a proper intro to a subject. IRL you would gently ease the person in by telling them about consciousness and how everything is one and explain some theory and then you might say you're a train or chair.

@fridjonk Good for you. Sorry I misjudged.

@fridjonk It depends on what you use it. You can use it to play video games. Then you can get good at playing video games but suck at everything else. I guess a lot of teenagers nowadays illustrate that point. It's the same with chess and anything else really. Look, it's a tough pill to swallow, but all those similar games like Rubik's cube, Go, etc, they're smart people's drugs. Again, I've got nothing against them, but they'll ultimately waste so much time of your life you could have used for more valuable things. I get why you're getting defensive. It took me a long time to realize this as well.

Companies pay billions to answer those questions. It's a big maybe.

Just sharing a very unpopular opinion. Chess can still be good as a hobby and I'm not hating on the game. But getting good at chess means ... getting good at chess. Nothing more. That strategic thinking you develop - you develop it only for chess. Memorizing move sequences does not make you smarter or better at anything else but playing chess. Have that in mind. I'm going to leave you with a quote from Einstein here to illustrate my point: "Chess holds its master in its own bonds, shackling the mind and brain so that the inner freedom of the very strongest must suffer."

Both I guess. It really depends. Some people are really bad at articulating whatever it is they want to say. Especially if you're meeting them for the first time. I find that there's like a couple of hours of fine-tuning where you understand how a person thinks and really make sense of what he says. That's the case because there's always implicit communication, or subcommunication. In some cases that's even more important than what's actually being said. Consider a PUA who tries to pick up girls. He won't make any logical sense at all, cos he tries to win the girl emotionally, not rationally.

What is your question exactly?

Best time for that self-development work. Just stay conscious and continue. You can only burn off old patterns with conscious suffering. You have to investigate for yourself where these feelings come from. For me, journaling is a good way to do that. Sit down and ask yourself why do you feel needy. Why do you feel insecure? Where do these feelings come from?

Welcome to real life. You have competition here. Girls can choose the best of the boys on campus. Of course they're going to be flaky.