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Hey guys, procrastination is a huge obstacle in my life. I'm sure I am not the only one here. I spent some time today thinking about the issue and I think, I discovered the root cause of my problem: I think I am lazy! Not all the time of cause. I have productive days and I feel great about myself. But after a few of those, my addictions and homeostasis kick in and bring me back to a place of unfocused distraction and procrastination on what I wanted to accomplish. I then hate myself for being unproductive and lazy. I guess, I identified being lazy as a "bad" part of my personality and that belief generates a self-fulfilling profecy for me. Basically, being lazy is a part of my self-image, that I hate, but since its part of my self image, my self creates the behaviour, that reinforces that self image. In the past, I tried just to brute force myself out it by setting goals, having todo lists, accountability systems and whatnot. But it seems, that this didn't adress the root issue. In fact, I think, that this may have made the problem a lot worse. What can I do? Do you think, that affirmations and vizualizations may help here to change my self-image? I want to solve that problem once and for all and love to hear your tips and suggestions.

"Welcome to the post-truth world. You know it's not real. But you accept it as normal." -- Adam Curtis Hey guys, I want to share some documentaries with you, because I think they are essential to understand the world, we live in. I like Adam Curtis' films, because they bring together lots of detailed information from mass psychology, history, politics, economy, technology... to draw an extremely high level picture of how the notion of truth looks like in todays society. (Not Absolute Truth though, but relative truth. But I think understanding the mechanims of relative truth is crucial to act in this world.) I want to especially recommend HyperNormalization and The Century of The Self. These are a must-see for everyone interested in systems thinking, politics, history and understanding the collective ego. I know, a 2.5 to 4 hour watch is a big commitment, but these films literally have the power to shatter your paradigm so much, that you arrive at a place, where the only possible modus oparandi of your thinking is that of spiral dynamics stage yellow. So prepare for a test in open mindedness (it was one for me ).

@stevegan928 Research permaculture http://inhabitfilm.com/

I suppose, a martial art that provides you with the whole spiritual background, that it is based upon might be most enjoyable for you. I find, that most martial arts got out of touch with that and developed into a set of combat techniques, especially in the west. But the philosophy virtually all eastern martial arts is literally bulit upon nondual traditions, such as daoism or zen. The ones that tend to most "intact" in that sense are aikido, kendo and shaolin kung fu. You could also try Cheng Hsin, the martial art, that was developed by Peter Ralston, if that's avaliable in your area

Thanks for sharing!! Can anyone offer some background on the movements and hand gestures, he is making?

@SuperLuigi I agree with @Dragallur. If you keep track of what you eat, there shouldn't be any health problems. In fact you should be way healthier on a vegan diet. Get into the work of Michael Greger, he has a lot of videos, that adress specific issues, associated to diet. And I can recommend his book "How Not to die": www.nutritionfacts.org

@h inandout Music! Because it's non symbolic!

I think suffering is one of the forces, that pushes us towards growth. But I think there are other forces, like compassion and pure joy, that can do so as well. Compassion is the desire for the end of suffering, so it's sort of the other side of the coin. I think the one thing, that keeps you from making great art is complacency and avoiding suffering. If your art is not meaningful enough to you that you would go through hell for it, it's probably not very meaningful to others. But I wouldn't assume that torturing ourselves automatically produces great art.

Some general advice: Fist, get your own shit back together, THEN help out others. Don't beat yourself up! The path is long and you will stumble a lot. Growth actually happens by failing a lot! So don't worry about that. Every time you fail an feel like shit, say to yourself: "This is only going to make me stronger!" Then get back up on your feet and start walking again. Some specific advice: Make a clear decision and stick to it! Your ex is changing her mind a lot because she is confused and doesn't know, what she wants. And actually: You don't know what you want either! So make up your mind and then tell her. Don't justify or explain yourself, just tell her! Then go do it and stick to it! (Hint: Anticipate, that this is going to be very hard.) Go watch Leos video about self acceptance! Watch it at least once a week for the next two months. This will completely change you! Send it to your ex so she can also go watch it. Give her a sense of deep acceptance and space. Yes she hurt you a lot and you want her to stop. And yes you probably can't bear to see her suffering any more and you want her to change and grow for her own sake. But if you want a person to grow, the most important thing they need is space! One of the most beautiful definitions of true love I ever heard was: creating a space to grow. She should not feel obligated to you in any way!

Enlightenment has to be a strange loop. It can only exist as a strange loop. There is this description in zen of enlightenment being a gateless gate. You walk through the gate and realize, that there was no gate to walk through in the first place. On my last AL-LAD trip I was mindfucked by this paradox of enlightenment being a "state" that can be reached vs advita nonduality tells us that we allready are enlightened and can't get any closer to it. The psychedelic confronted my mind with the question of how it's possible to reach a "state" that I am allready in. What I now know, after watching your new video, @Leo Gura , that I became conscious of the strange-loopieness of the concept of enlightenment. There is this description of the substance of enlightenment by Peter Ralston that captures this, that rings very true with me. The insight here is, that there is no difference between enlightenment and me. That's were the metaphor of the cat unraveling the yarn unraveling the cat comes in. I am enlightenment, I just have to realize what I am.

Young children learn much more through absorption than through teachning. They automatially adapt to the environment, they're in. They absorb the behaviour and emotional vibes of the people they spend time with. So the endeavour of raising high consciousness children really is much more about becoming a really great and inspiring role-model for them. And also its about you facing, that you're children can be any way they want and don't have to live up to any standard what so ever, you set for them.

No, it isn't a goal of mine and it will never be. Doing the work, that will get me there is my number one goal.

I've been using Evernote for commonplacing and so far, I am happy with it. I have no experience with MS OneNote. I'd appreciate some thoughts from someone who worked with both, weather it's worth switching to OneNote.

@egoless Get into permaculture! Here's some inspiration. Watch the whole movie:

Ask yourself: Do you spend quality time in the evening? I have the exact same problem like you and I struggle with it till this day. But it has improved a lot recently, because I know, that I will benefit from forcing my self to go to bed earlier. Most of the time, when I was staying up late, it was either because I was doing some neurotic work for the next day, that I procrastinated on or I was just wasting my time with watching movies or playing computer games. But, I know people that are at their maximum productivity when it's very late. You have to judge by yourself weather you are just wasting your time staying up late or if you are a natural night owl. If you are, forcing yourself to go to bed early might just be a waste of time. But if you aren't, going to bed early is a extremely useful tool for productivity and controlling your bad habits. If you find, that you're just like me and you waste your time in the evenings, then you're right, there might be something off with your motivation. Notice that most of the time during this post, I was not talking about waking up early, but about going to bed early. I think, that going to bed early is far more crucial and motivating, than just waking up early. I go to bed, knowing, that I can now put to rest my efforts for that day and regenerate myself for the next one, not because if I wouldn't I would only get 4h of sleep till my alarm clock rings. Positive motivation is crucial here. You have to see, why this is good for you. This way you ensure, that you get a healthy amount of sleep (7-8 hours minimum). The one big trick here, is to force yourself to go to bed at about the same time each day. Then after a few days, waking up will be much easier and you need a little less sleep after you adjusted. Positive motivation for pulling this adjustment off. You need a very clear picture in your mind about how this habit can improve your life. Don't let yourself be forced out of bed, because you think, by fear. Let yourself be inspired out of bed by the vision of what you can accomplish that day. If this is hard for you, work on your goal setting. Write your long term goals on a piece of paper that you put next to your bed. Then, every evening, take a look at that piece of paper and think about what you want to do tomorrow to get closer to your long term goals and write 3 short term goals for tomorrow on a post-it. Put both of them next to your alarm clock and look at them, first thing in the morning. If you're still struggling with motivation take bigger action, the life Purpose course offers great leaverage on motivation problems. One other thing, that helps greatly is having at least one appointment every day, pereferabely early. That way, you have to get up, and, if you have a morning ritual, that takes up some time, you have to get up early. You can also schedule your workout early in the morning or talk to a person, that should hold you accountable.

@Serge Here's a key insight for you: The feeling isn't in the music, it's within yourself. If you want to learn to "feel" the music, start feeling yourself more and start to observe how the music makes you feel. It is very much a learning = observation type of endeavour. Here are some tips for how to pull that of: While listening to music, observe your physical body sensations and your emotions. Feeling bored, uncomfortable or disgusted are also emotions, you can tune into. If you feel nothing at all (at first), thats ok, tune into that. Use sound only! While music videos offer more sensual stimulation, they tend to put you in a very absorbed state. Headphones are great for this.c Go to concerts: Music, that happens right in front of you has some sort of special power. There is something about the in-the-momentness that amplifies the emotional qualities of that particular music. Get yourself to a concert, go to the very first row and allow yourself to be moved by the musicians. Dance! This one is huge! Allow the sound to move your body. You can do this in some sort of concert of club setting, but also alone at your place (where noone is watching you ). Some music is more suited for dancing than other and everyone has his own preferences here. E.g. my body moves best to percussive, non melodic , minimal techno. Find your own way to dance, there are no rights or wrongs here. Consider to listen to lots of different kinds of non-mainstream music: Most mainstream pop music is emotionally very dull and tends to stimulate your most basic human drive. Getting into other styles of music may take some time to develope a taste, but the emotional pallet you can discover here is vastly more rich, than in mainstream music. Here are some random examples of music, that I consider highly emotionally charged. Depending on your musical taste, this may also be an exercise for open mindedness. Don't worry, if you dislike some of the music, that's ok, I want to challange you. Remember the first tip of observing what you actually feel. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R97hOKP-iUw&t=32s https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vIVrCZ5sNwE https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zNaUv_XYFGg https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fktwPGCR7Yw https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D7KXq6RJ0PA https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K9INsERNFUo https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2e21NOp69hM

@Alexo45 Also, check this video:

Truth is the most obvious thing there is! It's like right in your face for 24/7! But the problem with this is, your intellect has nothing to contrast it with, that's why it doesn't stand out! Peter Ralston explains it greatly in this video:

@Alexo45 Firstly: You're perfectly alright. I guess many of the folks here including myself have been through a phase that is similar to what you are discribing. When you get into existential territory and start to question meaning itself it's possible that all of life (and ego driven personal development) suddenly looses meaning for a while. Your mind is learning right now that meaning is something artificially constructed. Your ego is triggered by this and wants you to stop, because egos thrive on having meaning. But in fact there doesn't have to be a you for personal development to happen. If you hold that paradox of "development is meaningful" vs. "there is nothing to develope" you will reach a stage where you find, that becoming a great human being is highly spiritual. That's usually when the compassion aspect of enlightenment kicks in.

@Extreme Z7 Thanks for sharing, Nietzsche's Thus spoke Zarathustra was one of the books that planted the seed of self actualization in me, alongside with some Freud. Nietzsche actually spent huge ammouts of time alone, contemplating and walking, so I guess, that he has some level of realization in the domain of consciousness work.

Addiction to communication and internet devices is one of the most common ones, especially for personal developement beginners. It is also one of the most obstructive ones when we start to pursue serious growth of consciousness. Most of us own at least 2-3 machines that offer constant distraction 24/7, which makes serious consciousness work basically impossible. Of cause technology has its upsides and growth is all about balance. So lets find some ways to learn to use our devices rather than being used by them. I just want this to be a big sharing and discussion thread for step by step practical techniques that help us to habitualize using our devices consciously. So post whatever you've got and discuss what works and doesn't work for you. Here are some of the techniques, I stumbled upon: batch your communication Have designated time slots throughout your day for getting to your communication. This keeps you in a proactive state, rather than in a reactive. have device free time in the moring and evening Give yourself some time with yourself at the start and end of every new day. have deliberate intent Before you touch your device, connect with what is your good reason for touching it. This gives you some leaverage on the negative force of distraction that your device offers. Get in touch with your feelings All addictions root cause is for your ego to find something, to distract you from a feeling or experience, that your ego doesn't want to experience fully. Observe your feeling during your meditaion to get in the habit of allowing every feeling just to be, rather than having to distract yourself from it. Mindfullness meditation is a great way of getting in touch with experience. Technology shabat Unplug for one whole day, every week. Shut your devices off satureday night and leave them off until monday morning. This gives you one whole day every week to just be with yourself and the stuff, that is most important to you. Unplugging Have a longer period of ceveraly days or weeks without your devices and internet. Retreats are a great opportunity for that. Here are some videos, that elaborate on these 5 techniques: JP Sears - Winning Your Mind Back! Ending Slavery to Devices Tiffany Shlain - Technology Shabbat Looking forward to hear about your ways of combating device and internet addiction!

@krazzer Definately improved my phone habits as well, by turning off notifications. Still, I find, that I tend to check my phone and messages way too often and most of the time just for the sake of checking them.

If you're a nature outdoorsy kind of person, and want to grow your own food Iwould have the following suggestion: Get yourself familiar with permaculture. It's basically a very systemic way of agriculture, where you design ecosystems by remodeling existing, stable, functioning ones, like the forest, that don't require tons of fertilizer or water input to produce food. Rather than imposing on the earth, its about finding our place in it. You could sell most of your stuff and buy a piece of land and turn it into a garden, that produces most of what you need. Other stuff you can barter. If you want some inspiration, watch the movie Inhabit.

@Wouter Then tell me: How on earth can you solve the issue of overthinking by thinking about it?! At some point thinking has to stop, that's what you want to achieve. There's a Fritz Perals quote about this that I really love: Doing highly physical activities like sports and especially body awareness related exercises gets you in touch with your senses. They also tend to provide you with that "Just do it, don't think about it" mindset, that you can't possibly get by reading or studying more.

@Wouter Reading a book about overthinking will only result in more thinking hence will not solve your problem. Do something practical instead. Get out of your head by going into your body. Imo opinion the root cause of overthinking and trying to understand, is the belief, that there is something that can be understood by thinking about it, in the first place. But in fact thinking and understanding are orthogonal at times and you need to stop thinking and work into some other direction to understand, e.g. do something with your body on the physical level. Martial arts, Tai Chi or yoga are great for that matter.