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Are you sure then that most of what you think he has lied about aren't really lies, but you projecting that is lying ? To confirm your past experiences ? I don't think you can ever be sure that someone isn't lying, that is why trust is important ?

Watch your language in front of my screen master. What did he do to deserve such hate ?

If you have to ask how to be sure someone is honest to you, don't you think that implies he already isn't ? Unless you are paranoid and feel like that with several people, otherwise it's your feminine intuition, and oh boy it is rarely deficient about men lies ?

Yes couple theray seems a good idea ? Just promise yourself that you won't stay with someone because maybe he will change into someone you think you could be satisfied to be with. If you're not satisfied with how he is, and it doesn't make you happy, then you have the right to leave. Too many women gets the idea that the guy will change for her, the reality is they rarely do, and if they do, it's because they wanted to change anyway (and it usually take years or more).

I don't think it's about you, he's just addicted and or has nothing better to do with his free time. He might be using it as a coping mechanism for some trauma or stress he is under too. In any case, that's not really about you, even though being controlling doesn't help, it's like the thing we hate the most ? I think the question you should ask, is whether you want to be with someone who lies to you, because it's not something that changes like that, it takes serious and hard work to change. If he lies about little things like that, he probably is or will lie about bigger things. Lying is fundamentally a lack of courage, and to assert oneself way of life. That is a very shaky foundation for a relationship in my opinion.

The bias is there because actualized.org is heavily turned towards enlightenment. When you first start hearing about it, it seems like it's the only thing that is important to do in life, and in a sense it is, but that obviously doesn't mean everyone that awakens should be a teacher. First reason is, because for most people it's a messiah complex, and an ego trip, not much different than wanting to be President or a Star just to be powerful or famous (with the excuse of helping others). Second reason is, if everyone genuinely wanted to teach, then there wouldn't be awakened people in other, important professions, which would limit the impact possible to the rising of our consciousness. If there is one purpose to life, it is whatever you love to do the most op. By doing what you're passionated about, and turning it into your lifes work, you will, whatever it is, brings infinite love to the whole. It doesn't need a mystical explanation, you will just be ecstatic most of the time, and the people you are in connection with will feel it and share it to other people as well, by an infinite chain of cause of effect. So if you want the maximum effect and influence you can bring to the world, do what you love, don't limit yourself to be a copino pastorino version of something that already exist, that seems important. You're here to live your life, not anyone elses ? @Sleyker

If we emphasize too much one aspect, we either become like 99.99% of the population, which is highly disfunctional (doing doing doing), or we spiritually bypass and just get emotionally disconnected from everything (meditating nonstop). Needs both.

Meditation will make you more conscious, but that's all it will do. You still need to solve the situations you need to solve. It's unlikely you will truly solve anything if you're blind though.

Good luck then ?

Let her go now. I don't see love when I read what you wrote, I see toxic attachment. You don't need to be with someone to love that person, and there is another person you should love unconditionally, and it is you. Which means taking your own well being first, and in this case, it means breaking up, because the trust is gone. That would be another thing if she is totally honest and thoughtful about your feelings, but she isn't. That's not love you see, she doesn't care enough to even acknowledge your own pain, what kind of girlfriend is that ? Do you trust someone like that to be your life partner, the mother of your children ? That specialness you feel is just your brain being addicted to her, attached as fuck to her, trying all it can to make yourself stick with her. But that's just fear of being alone, but sometimes, being alone is the way to go, especially if you become more and more conscious. She's not special, you'll find another girl that is waaaaaaay better in no time if you focus on yourself, and finally let her go

I don't know, but I guess you want to be happy, and toxicity isn't gonna make that possible.

It wasn't really cheating for her I guess, since the relationship was dead for months, at least not consciously. Even then, she uses shit excuses, instead of being honest, and the fact that you directly says it's toxic as hell should make you realize she's not good for you, at all.

That kinda just prove you're not mature at all. The part where you say it must be the way you think it is, is also a lack of maturity, because it's just your point of view.

Hope you will understand, Otherwise, good unnecessary suffering ?

It's not that they don't talk about the deepest level that they aren't there, it's just that they understand it's pointless to teach this since most seekers haven't even awakened once. It's useful for the ones that are extremely wise and woke, but totally useless for most people, because what most people need is first to become conscious. When Leo says that he has gone where few teachers has gone, he has no way to know that, it's at best intuition, at worst arrogance.

Infinite love IS You !

Who cares about what Taoism says, or even what Leo says. Are you gonna listen and believe shit someone else is telling you, or are you gonna directly experience what you are ? This is the only thing that matter, Everything else you're doing but this is mental masturbation and you distracting yourself.

I am very happy that Leo is ejaculating straight into my mind though.

Don't act, be true to how you feel and think. That'll kill you though, but that's the point.

You are god bitches ! Wake up ! Hallo !

You're not a human being, you're imagining you're one. Even if you were a rock you could awaken, no shit.

Read the Power of Now, he basically say what every other teacher says though, but it's better explained.