Shin

"Love is the bridge between you and everything" Rumi

You must be so bored

That's the problem right there, you now think I'm defending her because your ego needs a nice counter argument. The reality of it, is that I don't, I'm just trying to help YOU. Why would I care about her ? You said it yourself, she could be a fake, "she" could be a guy ...

I would suggest to deeply investigate what you're feeling right now, because it is extremely egotic to impose your beliefs on other people. What are you trying to do ? Making her realized that polygamous lifestyle is bad, why are you doing that do you think ? Maybe you're doing that because you think women should be treated like princess and they have no right to be dirty and sex driven ? Maybe you think (very inconsciously) that you're not worthy of her, and so your ego goes apeshit to hide his old scar ? Seriously think about this, you're not gonna be able to really grow if you don't. @ajasatya Thank you

And I think you're projecting ^^ Even if she was a troll, this topic is useful and interesting to many of us (I just bought the 2 books mentioned here). If she's not, it's helpful for her. @STC Why would you care ? Don't you see it's your ego being hurt in some way ?

You also need to be comfortable with the fact that currently, you're not attractive to the women you want. If you don't, you're not gonna be able to be authentic around girls, and if you can't be authentic, you won't be able to spot and resolve the root causes of your lack of attractiveness. So be authentic, it's the only way to attract the right kind of girl for you. @The Universe I would also add that if you aren't authentic, you don't really know what kind of girl you want in your life.

Or she could investigate why she's hurt and wants to leave. There is only one reason you want to avoid a certain topic, Fear

You know the feeling of a lucid dream, when you know it is a dream, but at the same time it appears very real ? Well, It's the same thing you're experiencing right now, you just think it is real because it last longer, because your monkey mind tells you you have this kind of personality, and of course there is no magic shit going on. If you dig deep enough, it's the same feeling, there is no difference, at all !

Alan W. Watts Jesus Christ

I'll probably update it, with deeper sources (especially for Sufism), if you guys could share some sources, it would be easier

Sorry to be an ass, but it's because I care EDIT: Ok, so now it's time to date this girl who looks like Loreena ...

When you'll start to align your mind and your life to your authentic self.

And it's fucking free. Just do it guys, what do you have to loose ? Less cheetos and 4k porn, and more spiritual work plz !

Yes. I don't know you personally, but from this post I can sense a deep need for authentic friendship, maybe you need to dig into that. If you're not already doing it, start to meet some people at some spiritual events, every week there should be something near your city. People will be more mature (both in age and in their head), so it will be easier to find authentic relationships.

Do you feel this way all the time, or these kind of thoughts only manifest rarely to you ? I can remember feeling the same before, but it all fell down when I've started to meditate more than 1 hour per day.

He actually did a video, my bad: https://www.actualized.org/articles/how-to-have-amazing-sex-for-women

Right now, SEX ! I need to be a fucking SEX GOD, because one way or another I'm gonna meet extremely hot girls and I'll have to interact with them. I just can't allow that to be a problem, It's not that I even want to be a sex god (If I'm honest, I don't even care about sex), it's just that I need to feel 99.99% uneedy. Yeah enlightenement blablabla, but this could take years/decades guys, that's not an option for the short term. The thing is that I'm demisexual, so, having sex with lots of different girls would be kind of awful to me, I need a stable relationship. So, in a sense, I have to master both Sex and Relationship. That's gonna be funny, weird, and funny, and challenging EDIT: Wow, it's hard as fuck to take a selfie, how do you do that girls, seriously EDIT*: Ok, that's the best I could get, too bad it's raining, apparently outside selfie are cool.

You don't need to know, you don't need a label to put to your personality. Just explore your personality very honestly and consciously, and see what works or not. The problem with the Myers Briggs test and others like that, is that your mind will find all the excuses in the world to be like the description of your results, and you can't be EXACTLY what they tells you. Even if that was the case, you'll still limit yourself to experimentations, since you'll believe deep inside that you don't need to prove something you're so sure you are, and so you'll never know for sure, by first hand experience.

To master sex, wouldn't it be better to do that with a long term boyfriend/girlfriend ? As a male, and girl perspective plz, not just one side of the coin @tashawoodfall If that's a thing you want to experiment, you clearly need a one night stand, it's not like a lot of guy are into this kind of stuff anyway. Just make sure (well as much as you can) he's safe and not an asshole who will beat you and do horrible things to you. Not sure how you can do that though. Concerning mastering sex as a general rule as a woman, try to search some youtube channel for it, and there should be book for it too. It's not from Leo that you will learn how to do that I guess (well maybe in a future video, but I wouldn't count on it, and he's not a woman so..). And thanks, seeing your pretty face (dark hair and white, I think I have a fetish for this ) and talking about this kind of stuff made me realize I'm far from having resolved my sex/relationship issues concerning women. I can feel this weird anxiety/shame emotion in me, but the paradox is that I see that as a good sign, that I have cool shit to do in order to resolve it. I see it as an external part of me, like, this emotion is there and it isn't nice, but I don't identify to it, and know it's just a temporary feeling. This is why it's important to meditate and taking spirituality seriously, don't think it's something you can ignore ! Also, don't think your problems will dissolved magically too (well, unless, maybe, if you get enlightened, but that could take years/decades ...) ! @tashawoodfall Yeah I know, don't worry, I'm kinda excited to feel discomfort ^^ You look like a girl that used to humiliate me when I was younger, might be one of the reason. Oh, and the white knight syndrom, when you think women should be treated nicely, whatever the situation is, but that's not what you want in reality when it comes to sex.

The fact that you choose to try again 9 times with the same person, shows that you didn't grow at all during these 6 years. I would be more concerned by your lack of growth than your ex, your ex is just a good excuses to shift your focus elsewhere from what you really need (and if you broke up 9 times, you REALLY NEED IT), which is to focus on personal developement. You might think this girl is the one, what I'm going to say will seem horrible to you, but this is the truth, This girl is just another girl, there is billion of them, no, she's not special, she's quite average, otherwise she wouldn't accept to get back 9 FUCKING TIMES TO YOU. Watch these video entirely (especially the first one), force yourself to, this is what you have to do if you don't want to feel the way you do now, because this is how you'll feel your all life if you don't take serious actions:

Marcus Aurelius

I don't know, I'm not dating Natasha yet ! *sneaky winks*

My ego after every meditation session: @Loreena Why do you say that ? EDIT: Ok, well I don't understand your humor then

This is your ego finding good excuses and projections about your girlfriend to rationalize your smoking addiction. You have someone who loves you and wants to help you curing your disease, and you're complaining about it, man, it's time to grow up ... @Cesar Alba Also, think about all the people that smoke passively because of you, some of them will get cancer because you didn't have the balls to cure your addiction. It is not only about your health, it's about every person that is near you when you smoke ... And lastly, do you realize that you are literally paying to die prematurely ? You are PAYING to get a BETTER chance to DIE !!!!!

With that kind of mindset, every tricks and tips that Leo gave us, is like cheating too. I would still be a virgin nerd without any perspective on life if I didn't "cheat".