Shin

That depend what you mean by emotional mastery. If you think at some point you'll be able to choose to feel an emotion or not, that's not possible. If you think at some point you'll be able to feel the emotion fully, not act on what it wants you to, and let it fade away quickly, then that's what you'll get.

@Ilya Sit on front of a wall. Let your eyes open. Focus on your breath (be uninterested of your mind activities). (You do that at least 20 minutes a day, more like 1 to 2 hours after a year) Wherever you go focus on what you see instead of your mind (don't label things, just look). (You do this untill it becomes a second nature). Rinse and repeat. ...

You think ? Because since I found mine, everything else became relatively important, and I mean everything. It's not about your inner game, your inner game is like a child dream, it's so shallow that even if you get every pussies you dreamed off, it won't satisfy you. You'll much better served to focus on your life purpose, you'll naturally become magnetic to women given enough time, because to be the kind of men you need to be to realize this purpose, is exactly what women are attracted to (confident, edgy, detached ...). If you got a big dream, then you can't pussy around, you got to become a real man, and that's not at all what a real man is seen these days, "real men" these days are pussies in a muscle suit, with a big mouth and lots of cash, but that's not being a man, that's being an achievement whore. So it's a win-win scenario, except that the need for pussies and affection for women will drop to 0, which doesn't mean you can't enjoy that if you want, it's just that you'll know they are just distractions and they will never satisfy you for more than a few months/years.

Because we need a reason ?

Ori and the Blind Forest

When you realize you got to stop trying to try, and stop trying to trying to try, and stop trying to trying to trying to try, while still trying: When life feels magical again:

When you'll look retrospectively at how social pleasing was stupid:

Check with a doctor, but it doesn't really matter if your back is straight or not, you can even meditate lay down on your bed. Having your back straight is important IF you're tired though.

Just meditate untill you can only be aware of awareness itself, it becomes obvious very quickly if you do it for quite some time.

Holy molly, this shit goes deeper and deeper on a daily basis now. So this morning after a hour long meditation, I was interested on how to astral project, because why the fuck not. I just laid down, and affirm myself 20 times "I will astral project, I will astral project". The first 20-30 minutes I just relaxed my body, and entered a no-thought zone, while still being lucid (eyes closed). Then after these 30 minutes, the first experience happened: I was looking at my window (I could only saw my hands), but I could clearly feel I was still on my bed. This was already a step further from the last time, because this time I knew for sure I wasn't dreaming. Then I got an another experience just after ... I saw something that is literally, physically, rationally impossible ... My body split into two ... just like before, except this time I was opening the door of my room. I could see, from my bed, a hand opening the door. I COULD SEE AND FEEL A SINGLE HAND OPENING THE DOOR.

The thing is, if you don't embrace your loneliness when it arises, you will never know yourself. You're actually all alone in this universe, it's you talking to yourself right now, and it's kind of beautiful once it's totally accepted and integrated by your mind. Untill then, you'll suffer from loneliness, of course you will, you still think you're separated from everything else. lol right now I'm alone in my house, but there is the lamp, the keyboard, the plant, the sofa, the door, the windows, it's all presence, it's all myself, I'm never alone, you're never alone, you just got to realize that

Just looking at them playing is a bliss in itself. When they talk to me or play with me, it's even more palpable, the emotion is just too strong. I guess it's because they still experience life freely in their mind, which makes them vibrate way more than adults. They don't think about the future, they say exactly what they think, they use their imagination all the time, and of course they engage life fully without any fear. Yeah, that's seems pretty similar to something else RIGHT ? The goal isn't to become a responsible adult, no, it's to become a child who's fully engage in the thing he love the most.

I wish I was in hell like some of you. I'm in equanimity for so long now that I start to doubt I'm even progressing anymore. Probably have to do a dark room retreat, lots of meditation aren't doing shit. @Sevi My avatar explain it pretty cleary, HMMMMMM !

Let yourself bloom. Yes, hmmm !!!

Details, we need.

Yoda !

Because otherwise there wouldn't be any experience, so you must be there somewhere, don't you ?

There is a brain, we're just saying that's not what you essentially are. Think about it for a while, if you were the brain, you will literally believe everything it says. Except you can be the observer of your own thoughts and not act on them, even when they scream you to do something. If you didn't experience this, well of course you believe you're the brain, since it's what you're experiencing.

As much as a concept as you thinking the earth is round, or that the world war 2 happened. It's data in your mind, you don't actually know if it's true, same for your brain. It's "common sense" (society/culture) that tells you that, there is no evidence in your direct experience that's true.

The same thing brother.

Start by developping a 20 minutes meditation habit. Then in 2 months a 30 minutes self-inquiry habit. Read The Power Of Now from Eckhart Tolle, then when you've disidentify from your mind, read The Book Of Not Knowing from Peter Ralston.

Well, I want to hug them really hard yes, but not that way no

Everyday after my consciousness routine

If you had a neurosis about not being worthy of woman or that something is wrong with you, it can help to realize that's not the case. If I didn't take care of my virginity I would still idealize women, now they are just people that I can (very rarily) be attracted to.