Shin

Did you consider this possibility: What if sometimes, apologizing is how more ego is created ? It can happen, I guarantee it ...

I don't know what to think about that. Bu I can tell you what he thinks ...

That's what I feel too, I don't even remember the last time I was bored. And I'm clearly not self-realized.

Isn't boredom impossible if you're centered ?

That's a great thing to practice, just be careful not to get addicted to it. Would be better to practice that with a gf though, because in the end it's still about you getting pleasure.

Depends if you truly grasped that a relationship can't fulfill you. Do you feel needy for a gf/bf ? Do you feel you need that love to be truly happy ? How do you feel when you're near a gf/bf material person ? Is there only sexual attraction or something else ? I'm not asking what you think But what you feel.

«YOU KILLED MY ENLIGHTENMENT !!!!!! WHY ARE YOU ALWAYS SO MADDENING ???!!!»

So on point @Shanmugam

What kind of spiritual practice do you entertain ?

You'll always want to fuck other girls The only way that worked for me is to meditate a lot on those lustful thoughts, at some point you don't really care that much. Also consider that you may have way too many sexual drive to be in a classic monogamous relationship and that in time it will both harm you. There are just people like that, and those people should really consider some alternatives. But be careful here, it could just be you being lazy and lustful as fuck, really investigate this, take your time both of you. So the questions are, what do you really value (putting your fears and conditioning asides): Sexual exclusivity ? Emotional intimacy ? Both ? Also consider that your current gf, could be not compatible with you in the end. She could tell you that it's ok and let you do what you want, but internally she is suffering and really don't want it. If you're really that attractive, you're most likely very masculine and she just wouldn't want to loose a guy like that, even if it means great suffering for her.

That deserves some serious spanking lol

I just have to

Just smile in a very sheerful way, several eyes contact for like 1/2 seconds intermitted with 3/4 seconds of "I'm too shy to hold your gaze", if the guy has enough balls he will come to talk Like seriously, it's that easy (and so few women does this lol). And just a single tip that will save you some trouble (if you don't already know): If you sense a "bad" vibe in your stomach when you talk to a guy, even if you're extremely attracted to him, that's a huge red flag. He probably wants to use you, your choice if it doesn't bother you, but it could be worse than just meaningless sex ... If you keep having bad experiences despite knowing this, then you need more consciousness work to be able to feel this more clearly, it's like the number one thing to know for a woman.

The loveissue and the likability is the same problem at its core. It's feeling a sense of lack that you want to fill with either approval, or love, which is the same thing, just different in intensity and context. He needs to center itself inwards, then he won't need that anymore (ideally, but it can take a lot of time). What do you mean by that ?

If you want to ask something, just ask. If it was really a stupid question, you wouldn't just ask it in the first place

It's not just that. News fills your head with lots of subjects, and we already have enough monkey mind to deal with to want to add 20 differents stories on top of it everyday. There is also the "articles eating" bullshit, where you read too much articles on different topics, but those articles aren't substantials enough to have a deep understanding about anything, unless you laser focus on a certain topic. Even that isn't enough, there needs to be books to read on top of that.

Enlightenment confirmed ... ... or acting career found

I think he thinks that you can experience the absolute suffering entirely for a lifetime, and not just as a ritual passage. @Ocean We could say there is the one soul The beloved ! RUMI REINCARNATION INCOMING !

I'm just using the most common term used ...

@SgtPepper I feel the same way as you, but If I'm honest, I can't say I really know if that's what I really want ... As long as there is fear, how can we really know that ?

Probably Not working though, it's hard but I feel that going through this without going back will be worth it. @Sevi From your perspective maybe, from mine you're like 3000km away

I wouldn't have use shame in that quote, but I don't know for what word I would have replace it.

Well yeah, but you won't experience that. If you're talking about the dark night of the soul, not everyone goes through this (from what I read).

How is that terrifying ?

@Source_Mystic Did you try headspace ?