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Ok then I want you to take a 30 minute walk in a suburb area of your town, everyday for 1 month. In this walk you have to smile by looking in the eyes of everyone you see and say hello. Then come back here after.

Describe your problems in detail.

Well if you could stop being that fucking stubborn you could actually work on yourself and becoming your own best friend. You would never feel alone anymore.

Then what's the point in participating on a personal developement forum if you truly think you can't do anything to change yourself for the better ?

Explain why ?

@moon777light I doubt I have anything to say that hasn't been said, but if it can help you for just a few seconds to feel better, I was in the exact situation as you a few years ago. I know how hard it is, but you really don't have to worry, you will get through it if you're patient and dedicated. No way you'll stay stuck if you work on it, stay strong !

As long as you refuse to, yes. Nothing about you is set in stone, everything about your personality can change, But not until you stop playing the victim role in your life.

I was as "beta" as you, probably worse. There is nothing insurmontable to get rid of all those traits, you just need to start facing yourself.

For how long do you meditate and try to stay focus on the present moment during the day ? You're describing the experience of 99% of people on this planet, albeit maybe in a more extreme version (but essentially the same). Don't panick, you are conscious of it, that's already a HUGE step. It will take time but your mind will still itself.

They also say there is nothing that can fulfilling you because you're already 100% complete and talk about a deep sense of peace from which comes a permanent joy. So, I could be wrong, but isn't it all about happiness and fulfillement ? ?

Then why Jesus, Rumi and almost every spiritual teacher of our age talk about divine/unconditional love ? Are they just lying to bait us ? ?

Sorry Couldn't resist

I really hated when you told us answers like this some months ago, now it's funny because it can't be otherwise, but it's still not obvious

So I can attract enlightenment ?

Where does he says he doesn't ?

Because you're maybe just at a point in the relationship where the commitlent part actually means something. It wasn't always gonna stay amazing, that's a childish dream, you got to work on a relationship to make it work. My point is, unless you have 0 affection for her left at all, it's just the honeymoon stage finally coming to an end, and that is going to be the same with every girl you will meet afterwards.

How do you want to distract yourself if you don't lie to yourself about your priority ? If he actually took care about his emotional life, he would have a clear mind to pursue enlightenment. That would actually help him to free himself. He can't do that, therefore he must lie to himself and pursue only enlightenment ! Therefore never reaching it because of his constant incapacity to focus and lack of will. Can't you see the beauty of it, the ingenuity of it ? Isn't it marvelous ? ?

Didn't you tell you that several times before ? Where did it lead you ?

See how you word your entrance in this relationship. Get out of it lol

He's only saying the same thing as any other enlightened dude. It kind of make sense, more sense than being separated from everything. See that in your dream you're rarely a separate entity, but rather a spectator of an unfolding story, with lots of characters, or you experience a dream as a spectator of an entity (which change quite often) and even then there is no such distinction, not until you wake up. This life is the same, except we're totally asleep in it.

»»» Sarcasm ««« ?

Buy the Leo's book list and read the 3rd book you see when you scroll down on the emotional mastery subsection. I'm intentionally not giving you the name of the book, because you will gain so much from having this list of great books to buy at anytime on any problems you have. Like Leo said in his last video, you have all the info in the world to solve your problem now, it's one click away if you know what the problem is. Even if you don't, you just have to describe precisely on a forum (like you did) what is your problem. Then reading about it ( for real don't be cheap, we are talking about your emotional life here) from different authors, and watching lots of videos about it. The goal is to have a broad perspective on the matter then doing the actual work necessary to eliminate your problem (it's not enough to read/watch about it).

I don't think it's a good idea to go into a relationship for you now. You seem to need more personal developement to get out of this endless loop of attracting/being attracted to guys who will abuse you/who aren't the guys you deeply want to be with. This will naturally happen if you work on your inner world for a couple of years. A new relationship or more mindless sex isn't gonna solve anything and will just distract you from the work you need to do. @tashawoodfall You need to read more book on emotional mastery, consciousness/enlightenment, practice meditation daily and really become aware of your mind (shadow work will help a lot). If you also find your life purpose and start to align with it, that will also make you more healthy psychologically in the long run. There is no shortcut solution though, you can try but it won't work for long.

You can't be confident if you have insecurities about attracting women. Find why and how to eradicate those insecurities, otherwise they will dominate the rest of your life. Don't focus on women so much now, you need at least as much internal work than dating/relationship experience if not more. I see a lot of men still having issues about dating and with relationships even though they had lots of them, so clearly the main problem isn't there.