Shin

It's been thousands of years, if not more. They all say the same thing ?

Moderators ? Is that even a thing here ? ?

You can with self inquiry.

I put this here because it fits a bit more to this section of the forum, but I don't only want advices like "just become more conscious" or "who is being manipulative" … Please don't only give that kind of advices, but also pro-active techniques, books and documentaries/videos to watch on YouTube (or somewhere else). Not just being conscious when it happens or looking back at it when you finally notice you were being manipulative, I already do that quite intensively. I noticed that I do this in rare instances, especially in critical instances, but also sometimes on mild instance too. Critical instance can be like, manipulative blackmail on someone I really care about to make him or her out of a critical situation he or she can't deal on his own (that's how I perceive it on the moment). On mild instance, it can be to have something I want regardless of someone else, it rarely happens that I actually act on it (I might say something though) and I usually am quite conscious I'm doing it in the moment, so I drop it and make excuses if necessary. I know logically that it doesn't help and only make things worse, sometimes I even lose those people trust because I have to be honest afterwards (I want to, I feel filthy not to say the truth). The thing is, I became totally sucked into the emotions in those moments (not so much in mild situations), and even though it might not happen in a while, I really don't want it to happen again, because: It pains both side quite heavily I don't want to manipulate anyone It doesn't feel right (not in a moral way). Thank you very much

---------------------- Forget about the top one, already shared, but mobile forum ... Tunnel vision world domination incoming ?

The only way to know is by realizing you're it. Not by doing mental masturbation about what it is/could be/someone or some authority says it is.

Wake up ! Except you will wake up nowhere

Go on, it gets fun after that

Where do you live ?

Why Don't we just answer seeker questions on the topic they create themselves ? I mean, at some point there will be more and more people which will awaken, so if everyone create their own topic about it I don't see the point of having a forum anymore.

I think you can try solo. When you'll be in a new commited relationship, I highly recommand to sneakely ask him to watch that video of Leo, it will be Worth it

I think it's slightly different, but I also confirm it works really well

She might be scared to feel weird/putting your masculinity down if she ask again. So open the discussion and tell her she can be honest about it.

Yes. Every men as a part of femininity Inside, and every women has a part of masculinity Inside. So if she like to dominate sometimes, let her do it. Just start slow, and if you like it when it's softcore and she wants to go further, let it happen until you aren't comfortable anymore. Now of course, if she ask it everytime, or more than 25/33% of the time you can start to Wonder if she isn't actually more masculine than feminine at her core, and was just in denial about it.

I second that, I was depressed for almost a decade, and I only knew when I looked at the symptoms and some meditation work.

I think @Danielle did it this way. Lots of self-inquiry too.

Because as long as you think you're a separate self (ego), you will always feel disconnected to reality to a certain degree. I know that by direct experience, the few minutes I have been totally egoless was when I was the most happy in my life.

How do I know what ?

No you can't control what pops in your head, but: «I try to dismiss these thoughts» That is what make them stay. It's the same principle with emotions, what you reject, you attract. You need to let the thoughts be there in your mind, While being conscious of them, That will actually dismiss them for good in time. The only way I know to do that is to meditate a lot, and to force yourself to be mindful all day.

That's your problem right there. What you constantly thinks will stay in your subconscious, and you will brings situations and people to you that confirm those thoughts.

He has a lot of red flags, wouldn't let him in your life again, especially since you probably will always feel something for him since he was your first.

I mean when you're alone and think about girls and your past/luck with them, not when you have one in front of you.