Spiral

Its not 100% bull, because when you growing up the people you are around aka your classmates have big impact on you development and you future personally. Imagine almost being a year older then someone other people when you are seven it makes a big difference. Now can it predict what's going to happened today? no, but it can follow certain models for what problems people born in a similar time of the year often experience.

Are you still living with her?

I would be careful talking about psychedelics, at least early on.

@BjarkeT Not necessarily but enough questions now. Long story short yes.

@BjarkeT Ego: Look if you identify with being a bald guy and you consider that to be a bad thing, you'll consider that a problem. Enlightenment: wow i'm everything and everything is perfect the way it is. You won't care, just like you don't get emotional when you see someone random bald guy on the street. So you can kind of skip this kind of issue at least if you are enlightened, although you still need food and so on, so you can have problems. @Shin haha correlation not causation!

@BjarkeT Well I don't really feel like we disagree here, there are a few options to dealing with a problem here are a few. Example: You losing hair and growing bald. You get someone kind of surgery or product to fix it.( short term solution). You learn to deal with it by resisting the emotion, and pretending the problem does not exist(not really a solution at all) You get past the problem and growth instead(long term solution). Killing the ego, automatically puts you at option number 3 because it does not matter. Because you have no ego. P.S moral of the story if you shave your head you instantly become enlightened.

@BjarkeTWhy do you want to resist your emotions anyway, you don't want to resist them. You want to change the once you get in the first place P.S enlightenment is also about experiencing more and deeper emotions and the once you like. So you don't really in a sense care about you old problems they don't "hurt" the same way.

You can resit your emotions either way, getting rid of the ego helps as you no longer consider them "yours"

Well for I'm instance flatfooted, this would a problem for me either way. Now does effect my life in any way worth mentioning? no. This is the kind of situation you'll find your self in if you have become enlightened.(pun intended)

Northern lights is pretty sweet too.

@Azote Yeah the likelihood of you becoming a vegetable from you internal problems, within the next 14 days are rather slim. But there is always that chance, so try to improve yourself at a reasonable rate.

Do try to go on dates with a girl who just broke up, rebound relationships normally don't work out. If all you want is sex, don't date the girl, or you'll get the fuckboy reputation. Also a girl who want's a relationship she will delay the sex, to "keep you around". Best you'll get in this situation is rebound sex. Although kudos for being cocky.

I think the most optimal time is shorty before finishing high school or you local equivalent. No need to get too deep too early but like the basic, get your habits, social skill and so in order. Does it hurt to so earlier no, but you get the most out of it you have some life experience.

@BobbyLowell For me the biggest positive changes in life, come when the people in my life changes completely. In other words you're kind of locked into a certain way until then, so learn new stuff and figure stuff out but you can't really embody it yet, because there is to much resistance, this is one of the reasons people say that you start to discover yourself in college(or at least after high school). As per confidence you'll discover that achieving things big or small, will make you more confident. This could be as simple as staring new habits one at the time. As you get those down, you start to feel like you are worthy and able to get the good stuff in life. Start small, so that you know you can do it. The thinks you can achieve in 6 months is rather amazing. In high school, at least I was very limited in term of finding new people to hang out with, perhaps a new hobby or sport could do the trick?

"What was, will be. What will be, was" "The Worm who loves us. It will always love us, and thus it always has." You can really find this stuff everywhere I'll leave you with this one: umop S! dn (hint: you're reading it the wrong way)

It's very common don't worry about it, stuff is happening.

@Shakazulu To which degree a man is careless of how much of a man he is. Now don't get me wrong most men care and that's is only normal, even I ponder it.

Slowly try to reduse one of them at the time, I would start with porn, then fap, then sex. Once you reach 3 weeks move on to the next one. Example: stop watching porn, like this limit your self to once every 3 days and do that for 18 days. Then do once every 6 days for 18 then 9 days for 18 days then stop completely.

Backstory There is this girl, that I grown a liking for. She has recently started doing personal development, which is great. But I found that whenever there is a problem in her life she resort to weed or want to cuddle and be intimate with me: to feel better. Now I'm all for cuddles but I'm also all for growth and overcoming problems long term. On one hand I get it, she is feeling down and wants to feel better so she seeks out something that will. But on the other hand this is not how you solve problems, doing this only delays them and you don't learn anything if you just run from your problems. For me the best approach has always been to suffer though it and have faith it will get better, often this will require action of some kind. Now talking about the problem with someone that understands and cares can be very useful, but that's not really wants she is after here. Now I can't do anything about her smoking, I wouldn't even tell how I feel about sense we are only friends after all, the cuddles I can but wouldn't that just be cruel? Don't get me wrong this does not happens often, maybe once every 3 months. So what would you do in this situation?

@AilinKyung It's all about your age, when you are 40+ you'll probably really enjoy family reunions. Either way it's not like you have them every month anyway I presume, so maybe it's bearable. Although I do agree with you, all those questions and boring topics are giving me IBS.

@Girzo Look i'm not saying it's impossible to spend to time together, I've had a couple girlfriends in the past and a have a few female friends right now. I mean a problem long term, it's fine the first few months, because you are getting to know each other, but you can't barely spend 10 hours talking about for instance "studying at school" or "finding a job" it feel even less relevant if you studying different things or already have a job. I mean do you really care about what specifically she did at work today? Imagine you spend 9 hours a week together and how fast you'll exhaust topics like that. And yes that kind of girl is great, but really rare

It's not really my biggest challenge per say, but i don't think my biggest challenge is the kind of rabbit hole you want to delve into. Also this is probably applicable to a lot of people The challenge: Finding common ground, outside carnal pleasures. I'll elaborate more, let's imagine a guy who is completely new in the dating scene, a guy who's only hobbies are video games that wants to find a girlfriend. He will struggle because he probably does not have anything in common with girls, sure there are some gamer-girls but let's say that he does not have any around him. What should he do in this case, if his life is all about video games what can he talk about or do together to even get to the dating stage, or even worse on the date. He can learns pickup and use "practical tricks" to get the girl anyway, but that doesn't really solve the problem, because he still don't have anything in common and so it's unlikely to last. For me personally, most of my female relationships be it friendly or not, at some point boils down to carnal pleasures and if so it generally only last until we get bored or we find someone else. So to wrap up, this is a problem for both genders, regardless of how good you are with the opposite gender.

@Emre Well she is just doing something she enjoys and It's a solo activity right. Now I can imagine this would feel disrespectful and inappropriate for a girlfriend to do. Although it's kind of somewhat unfair to ask her not to because not directly cheating on you, I would look at like this she likes to twerk regardless of if there are other guys around. But it's bothering you so what should you do? In this kind of situation you need to work on yourself to attain the confidence and none-neediness to be don't care to this type of stuff. I for one would not consider it cheating nor disrespectful per say because like I said, it's a solo activity. Although I would find it distasteful regardless of whether or not she was taken, that could just be age thing though

Can absolutely imagine that works. Another fun way to do it is to, flirt with them and let them have a good time with you as a costumer and then leave you phone number in the paying thingy. This way there is no awkwardness at all she can make up her own mind if she wants to contact you are not. In my country girls are often a bit outgoing so maybe I'm just biased. I have never done either though, it's a tricky situation.

@Emre Do you feel like she is cheating or do you think it's in poor taste?