Spiral

This thread seems toxic. Perhaps banning the “gender x is terrible and y is wonderful” sort of topics could be a beneficial approach.

Facial hair seems to be a big factor also.

The whole struggle of which gender is more terrible and oppressive seems to me to only be escalating. Making the life’s of everyone involved worse. Victim mentally runs rampant on both sides. In more metamodern(aka strange yellow) circles I’ve seen that this isn’t really a problem. How do we move past this here on the forum and have a positive effect in society as a whole? P.S No gender complaints please!

Morally its better to get out so she doesn’t get needlessly hurt if someone wants something more. Although I’m an ass so I wouldn’t have done so either

Sorry to hear that. I this is actually a common and tricky unintuitive issue that’s a bit outside what can be communicated on a forum. Listened to great podcast about I couple of weeks back featuring post-feminists. Unfortunately it’s in Swedish.

Vagueness like “not looking for anything serious” is less of a turn off. However a lot of girls just want some dick as well. People hurt themselves or others when they sleep around. Harm reduction is mostly kind bonus. Don’t get me wrong, sleep around but don’t assume that there is a way to it completely harmlessly.

Great more options, heard guys know their way around dicks a little bit better too.

I find this stuff creepy af when it happens. Power outage is annoying also.

Can be a surprisingly big rush even with strangers

Glad I can offer some extra joy to your life On a serious note, I'm sorry you perceived me as antagonistic/toxic, that was not my intention.

Although we are going thru a paradigm shift so it’s bound to be messy, bloody and terrible. Harm reduction is something we should try to aim for.

I do also think that people take offense to critical observations on a gender as a attack on themselves. Most people have a relatively strong gender identity. So if someone is critical of men for doing x, other men get offended needlessly and try to justify themselves even if they don’t do x. This obviously doesn’t help the situation and leads to needless bickering. So careful wording criticism of the opposite gender definitely help. Saying most men do x is naturally better for the sake of preventing needless bickering. In addition people tend to assume their opposition is a way more homogeneous group than it is. Feminists, anti-feminist, red pill guys and incels are all groups of people with all sorts of subgroups. Some of which you probably don’t have much against. Yet people tend to assume all feminists for instance are all the same. Which definitely isn’t true.

Both have their own struggles. Women tend to be more neurotic. So you could say men by default are more present. Men are more likely to shot up schools, women cancel and engage in destructive gossip. Men however tend to more materialistic. Violence isn’t bad by default, only when goes out thru poor outlets.

Androphobia causes a lot of issues in society. As a guy it’s certainly something you can take into consideration when for instance walking home from a night out.

Girls are different and like different things clothing wise. Confidence is more important. So dress in a way that makes you feel confident. Although clean and well fitting clothes are a minimum. Looking neat and well groomed is a bonus. Colors is also something to take into consideration. Darker is better for winter than summer for instance. Matching colors is good while all blue is not.

I do think culture plays a role here. Personally I wouldn’t commit without having had sex yet.

I struggle with the way this video is made. Although I absolutely see the value in the message.

The no compliments/approval approach is effective although it’s kinda mean long term.

Although a more metamodern(yellow) perspective is way more useful and introspective.

Responsive approach to employees and your business. In regards to the environment and treating them as actual people.

Is the distinction between extroverted and introverted people as meaningful as people (especially here) make it out to be? I get the feeling it’s often an excuse and a identity people have which often leads to a victim mentality. What are your thoughts on the matter?

I should elaborate and say that I mean in ones ability to make friends and find sex/romantic partners.

Haven’t even thought of that perspective.

Start doing new things. Meet new people(not just for sex and relationships). Moving can help. Getting a new job can help. Change you life as much as possible compared to when you were together does wonders.

I’d be careful setting up expectations or intentions beyond things like having fun, meeting new people and perhaps getting experience.