Spiral

Yesterday I spoke when an old colleague(as in from a previous job). He mentioned that he was going to grab a drink after work with one of his current colleagues. Not as invitation but rather because it suited the conversation. In the end he invited me to join. However let’s imagine, someone you don’t know very well tells you they have plans. You would like to join however preferably not come off as “desperate” or have them invite you even tho they would have preferred not to. How would you go about asking/implying your interest? Or would you just simply not do anything?

Motivating myself to make an effort.

While I don’t care about a girls sexual past. The only girls I’ve considered for long term relationships has technically been quite chaste. Not to the level of requiring marriage tho.

Sleep with enough girls and you’ll get fucked over eventually. Doesn’t even have to be the girl being malicious.

It depends on the situation. Desperation never appeals to me.

I’d would not care. Assuming she still acts and looks feminine.

One should obviously not cheat however imagine you’re married, have kids. Yet living in a sexless relationship. It’s actually quite common. Now let’s say you tried anything you could think of but to no effect. You don’t want to break up the family and preferably not lose half your shit. You feel terrible and unwanted. Then one day a colleague shows some interest in you. Surely feels tempting. I’m neither married or with kids but can empathize with people in this circumstance. Especially since I grew up with a single mother.

Tease her about a imaginary need for a rebound?

Try to spend 25-50% of your income after tax. It’s good for the economy. Remember! You don’t get rich from saving.

Must say, I’m a bit skeptical. How does this play out in practice?

Some place warm, beach could be a great non-drinking opportunity.

Doing an actively you really enjoy and with people who really enjoy it as well makes this sort of thing waaaaaay easier. I don’t like dancing for instance so clubs aren’t a good match for me. No wants to hang out with the bored guy.

Tldr: it’s a difficult and complex issue. If you tax the rich, they often leave for greener pastures. If they stay they care less about making money especially if you take more than half. Which creates fewer jobs and less prosperity. Furthermore it promotes tax evasion. Lastly they are powerful and influential which makes it more difficult to ‘go against’ them.

That is what happens when men want the affection of women. As oppose to the respect and approval of their follow man. The latter leads to the former anyway.

The opposite of conservative is progressive. Conservatives typically are quite liberal. Liberal and conservative are both right wing. While stage yellow is right wing it’s technically more similar to stage green progressivism/socialism than some stage blue conservativism.

It’s completely fine as long as you‘re clear in your voice that’s it not actually friendship you’re after.

The average woman will leave the average man. Who cares? Just don’t be the average man and you’ll be fine. It’s not even difficult. Here is my three step program to be top 80% 1. Have a job. 2. Don’t consume porn. 3. Don’t play video games.

Do you agree or disagree with the videos message? Haven’t seen it, but I’m guess I won’t agree.

@aurum As a Swedish person I’m amazed that I didn’t know this was a think. Guess you learn something every day. I suppose the thai don’t call it a Thai massage either.

I typically hang out with the girl’s friend(s). They are waiting and so am I after all.

No, some are quite tasty actually.

I’m 26. Got friends, a pretty good job, eating alright, doing alright with the opposite sex. Family situation is alright. However, life’s boring. I’m not enjoying anything anymore. Got no libido, no interest in socializing. Alcohol or similar drugs don’t interests me. I’m not spending time on social media or watching porn either. Life is just meh, dull and repetitive. I lost about how to change it.

@something_else A programmer and a software engineer are two different professions. That may have been your point however

I’m all for it.

Back in the day, I lost my virginity thru these sorts of apps. That was many years ago. I am however a good looking guy and never struggled with girls.