How to be wise

Well, for happiness. It makes me happy when I stop believing painful beliefs.

What a big beard.

In the ‘How to shop for healthy food’ episode, Leo said: “When you stop eating wheat, it will be very very difficult for you to put on weight, no matter how much of it you eat, as long as you also avoid lots of sugar.” 29:53 So, as long as I avoid wheat and sugar, it will be difficult for me to gain weight. Does this mean that, if I stay within the recommended daily calorie level of 2000 kcal, that I can have chicken wings with French fries, every single day and not become fat? I’m dying to try this out. As far as I know, neither contain significant amounts of wheat or sugar (if at all).

Of course I eat some sugar. Can’t imagine life without it. But I don’t overdo it with the sugar. I eat it in moderate levels.

Today I had the most profound insight ever. What if I’m experiencing reality through thoughts? Everything you see in your daily life, the entire external world. What if all that was just in your mind? That’s the experience I had today. It lasted a few seconds, but was extremely profound. I had the insight when I heard Byron Katie saying that same thing. She was saying that “there is no reality outside of your mind. Absolutely nothing is true.” Of course I believed her, but I never really considered it because it was too obvious to me that the external world is real. But a few days ago, when I heard her say this, I thought about if this was actually true. All of reality, everything, is just thoughts and beliefs. No such thing as ‘being’? If ‘being’ is real, it is not what I’m seeing right now, the world of forms. In the ‘what is perception’ episode, Leo said that the external world is undeniable. I disagree. What if things are so radical, that even the very ‘obvious’ external world is completely unreal, and just your beliefs. Is that how much our mind is deceiving us?

I haven’t done any exercise in many years. I can’t even run for the bus. But I’m not ‘overweight’. If you ask people, they’ll say I’m normal but bordering ‘fat’. The one thing I do do right, is that I set a daily calorie limit for myself. Around 1600kcal per day.

Carbs ≠ Sugar. Carbs come in different types, some of them sugar. But the carbs from potato are not sugar. They are just carbs. A more proper way: carbs ⊃ sugar. Carbs include sugar, but also other things.

@Edogowa Conan Good work! You seem to be going deeper and deeper with The Work! Don’t stop till you reach full emotional mastery.

Leo Gura: “People think that fat makes them fat, it doesn’t.”

@tsuki But if I say to you, “as long as you don’t eat x, it will be very very difficult to gain weight,” I took the precaution of staying within the recommended calorie level, is that still not enough? Clearly the phrase ‘very very difficult’ was not appropriate, (assuming that you think Leo is telling the truth, which I am).

In the episode ‘subtle addictions’, the first addiction that Leo mentioned was the addiction to love. It means needing love from somebody, even if it is very subtle. You may tell yourself that it is spiritual and good, but if there is even an inkling of wanting somebody to be around you, it is needing love. It hurts.

@jivvie As good as this may sound, this is attachment my friend. I’ve been there before. It feels good, but it is also painful. You can never have her. End of story. If you see anything more special than anything else, you can be sure this is attachment. In true Love, everything is seen equally. All of life, equal. What I’m hearing from you is that she is more special than other people in your daily life. Do some spiritual work, and let go of that attachment. It’s painful to want something, because you know deep down that you can never get it. You only like your story about her, not her. In reality, she doesn’t even exist!

How much of your 13 awakenings did not involve psychedelics?

Of course. I don’t know the potential of vipassana since I haven’t done it long enough.

@Surfingthewave to see that you are responsible for how you feel, not other people.

I’m speaking from direct experience. Yes.

Once you have worked through all dark memories, there is constant peace & bliss. Nothing will be able to move that. You will be living in heaven, literally.

The two are the same. All suffering comes from a misunderstood past, which is why The Work is extremely helpful. We look into the past, into our most painful experience, and come to realise that only our thoughts about the situation was causing our suffering.

Yesterday, I experienced nothingness for the first time. It was amazing, but it’s impossible to describe. It wasn’t nothingness like ‘a black hole’ or some empty void. No, everything was still there, but it was nothing. The best description that I have so far is that: everything was still there, but nothing could be said about it. To even say that it exists is already just a belief. Nothing could be said about it that would be true, therefore it is nothing. But the ‘perception’ didn’t change; I was still looking at the room, but there was no belief. There wasn’t even a me looking at the room, because that itself is another belief. It’s a very slippery notion to talk about. For some reason, I wasn’t even surprised when this experience came to me. The only thing interesting about it is that, by definition, it cannot be explained. Amazing. Btw, no psychedelics were involved in this experience. I’ve never taken psychedelics before ever. This was a ‘clean’ experience.

I don’t really think this was an awakening experience. It’s been slowly building up over many months. These days I feel very blissful and joyful. I’m always smiling and laughing for no reason. A lot of people get quite puzzled with why I just have a big smile on my face for no reason.

Good question. It’s not true that “I don’t understand”. That is what the thought is saying. What the thought says isn’t true, but it’s true that it said it. ?

Well, from what I understand about psychedelics, you can’t retain the experiences that you have. After the trip, they leave without any trace left. The experiences I get from inquiry are different. It’s pretty weird, but the experience is semi-permanent. What I mean is that the experience stays with you permanently, but you have to concentrate to experience it. It’s not 24/7. Anytime I like, I can focus on that experience, and it returns for as long as I hold the concentration. I can usually do it for about a minute.

I don’t understand what you mean ?

I will make a post about it soon, including how to do The Work super effectively.

Let’s analyse what a concept is. A concept is what the thought is telling you, not the thought itself. For example, a thought says “Everything exists.” Note that this isn’t the thought itself, but what the thought is telling you. I’m saying that what the thought is telling you is false. Everything does not exist. It’s not true that everything exists, but it is true that that is what the thought said. Thoughts are real, but their claims are not factually true (it’s true that they said it though). So now, here’s the mind twister: a thought said that “thoughts are real”. The claim is false, but the fact that the thought said that is true. So what happens if you stop believing what thoughts are telling you. Unbelievably, the world stops existing, and only ‘nothing’ is real.