Lynnel

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  1. Stop spreading social conditionning and slut shaming. 1) Yes, it's important. You get bonus points if you do it because It means you're free and not oppressed by the society. 2) Who would not be groomed shaved etc ? 3) Slutiness doesn't exist. It's a concept created by people who can't get laid to try to shame others for doing so.
  2. @Naviy @PinkLadyApple Hold the horses guys. Most of the results most likely come not from nofap itself but since I Was using masturbation to numb my emotions, the results came from the energy cleanse and the work on the un-number emotions I was now able to feel. Just to clarify. Also I've invested a lot of work, been meditating for a year, so it's normal that my energy levels are higher than usual
  3. I will give you props for being really self-aware. You can indeed use that as an excuse and be like : Oh I only want this type of girls so I won't try to geet the ones that scare me. Unless you have tried everything you don't know what you actually want. Actually I like your way of thinking. You will INDEED have no chemistry with CERTAIN GIRLS, but the more attractive you become, the more girls you will have emotionnal, or at least sexual chemistry. There is an old saying that if you are really attracted to someone on a physical level, that might be because of the compatibility on a genetical level. IT SEEMS TRUE, but there is no scientific proof of that exact fact (aside from the fact that genetic compability indeed helps mating) , but use it to your advantage => In the end, don't be too specific, if you feel attracted try it out. And be honest to yourself. Those are limiting beliefs. You can meet LOTS of different people. In one year, I met like 5 girls twice, out of let's say 1 thousand approaches. Girls with HUGE BIG OR AVERAGE boobs are not rare. They're all out there. And what if they like alcohol ? Almost everyone drinks time from time. That doesn't mean that they are in love with alcohol and that they are therefore lower value...I mean to feel good and free you have to do a lot of shit like meditation and energy cleansing, hence lots of people take the easy way out. Exactly. Don't use techniques, but go to the places with the higher volume to get more references. It is indeed not sustainable, because it takes a lot of effort and calibration. I use it sometimes to get attention simply because girls don't respond to anything else But yeah, you got it right. Like I'd do the same kind of right. Ahah. Would love hearing back from you about your progress ! Good luck mate !
  4. This only means you did it wrong which is...quite...sad. Why did you choose those ressources ? A great fondation, what for ? I will check those and report back.
  5. Couldn't agree more. I wanna meet her myself. To everyone not relating to the more mystical and spiritual stuff, it simply means you simply, or more precisly your ego is not openminded enough. I can relate to that one some level and it isn't mystical at all. It's one of my inner chearleeders, along with Eckhart Tolle and RSD Tyler
  6. When I really started pick up, it was a break up from a 11 month relationship. I was 21. Before that I only had crushes and small failures. Basically me idealizing the girl for month and doing nothing, like simply trying to talk to her and then fucking up. I also had a small group of friends, and a very fucked up mind. A bad habit of gaming and depression with sometimes suicidal thoughts. Everything was a struggle, because it's like fighting in an arena. You always have your elbows in the mud. Once you get used to it you become seriously ICY which is a really nice state. The biggest ones are always : understanding what's going on. WHY something works, WHY something doesn't and WHY in similar cases sometimes it works and sometimes NOT. There is an overhelming lack of logic because the whole pick up world has a logic of his own which if you're not used to it doesn't make any sense. You have to solve paradoxes, understand what and how and when something is important and when it's not, etc etc, it's simply insane. Another big sticking point of mine was not being totaly at ease and relaxed. Another was and still is outcome independence. And neediness. Okay seriously now that I think about it let's ask the reverse question, WHAT WASN"T A BIG STRUGGLE : Having almost infinite motivation, writting field reports, being seriously invested in this, going out a lot, finding a minimal amount of okayish wingmen, optimizing the whole process to evolve faster, finding relevant pick-up ressources. Everything else was a big struggle Never ever. Once you stop, you're done. So no. No. It sounds as a really good excuse not to talk to girls. Your social skills will TREMENDOUSLY improve as you talk with girls OVER and OVER. So stick talking to as much girls as you can you're welcome
  7. @Will Why is it a limiting belief ? Happy to be alone ? What ? You can't find what wants you back. It's the opposite, you have to find what you want and attract it. A better question would be to ask " Why can't I attract the girls I'm attracted to " ? Is it beliefs? Lack of experience ? Putting them on pedestals ? State + Shock formula works sometimes, if you wanna be more advanced, remplace it with : Relaxed,at ease, cool and sensual. Lack of comfort is quite often a big issue.
  8. Why do you want one in the first place ?
  9. @Niki Of course. You will upgrade yourself endlessly attracting more high value people. You will also learn to communicate better, and most importantly for relationships, build it in a NON-needy, WIN-WIN way, which unless you've done QUITE some work on yourself will never happen. Most of the concepts are either to upgrade yourself or to be able to have a better experience with someone else, so yes it helps quite a lot
  10. I have exactly the same, but it's litteraly 50/50 ! But I'm considered as INFP. I can also switch to E because I trained myself to gain energy with social interactions.
  11. Sorry, the answer may seem harsh but : it's because you're a match to that. You attract what you are. The way you framed the problems makes me think that you are not in fact positive, because it's like : I LACK HIM where is HE frame, which is a form of neediness. Do not worry : with enough progress you will attract many great people into your life.
  12. I've been on nofap for 5 days now, benefits : - More confident - WAY MORE energy. Can sleep 4 hours less and be full charged. - Way more present, smoother. - Mood is EVEN more stable. - Meditation is even easier. - Emotionnal healing is also made easier. (Finally can see images while working with emotions). -> 100% recommended and approved.
  13. @azlatev9 Thank you will check that and report back, seems really cool
  14. @Endew Learn pick-up, spent like 1 hour a day for it to geet moving with A. At the same time fix whatever issues you have with B since A is being taken care of.
  15. @Jesper Watch : shift ( aka making a shift) by RSD Julien. It covers your issue entirly. 100%. From start to finish. Feel free to ask any questions once you're done Also, I have started really really low and built myself up quite high, so I will tell you right away : it's doable. It is doable. But there is a price. I will tell you a bit more about my journey so you can understand. While in school, I had only 2 friends, and girls wouldn't even give me the cheek to say hi. I've never got a girlfriend till I was 20. I've had many many devastating hearthbreaks. After my break up, thinking I would never get laid again I got into cold approach pick up. And I got laid again. It took some time but I did it. I had litteraly the GREATEST experiences of my life. I won't spoil you, but you're gonna be amazed at the possibilities of life. AMAZED. You're gonna look at the sky in PURE AWE and thank god you were born. But, since progress is quite...painful...most of the time, you will be in pure pain and trauma and wish you could die. It's not easy. Here I've been gifted with optimism, and in the darkest times it helped me a lot, being able to see the light at the end of the tunnel. But the more you evolve, the more you overcome, the more happy, solid, and overall great you will be. And you will feel pride in what you've accomplished. I choose not to stay as I was because I felt truly miserable. What about you ?
  16. @Free Spirit Yes of course, I simply meant to warn that just being nice isn't gonna help you getting a relationship in the first place. I love being caring and gentle but those are mostly irrelevant in making a women attracted by you. (Unless she sees a lot of value in someone who is caring and gentle, depends on her blueprint).
  17. @JSeuss @cena655 Yes : - Shift by RSD Julien for the blueprint of learning pick up - PIMP by the same guy for learning what to do exactly => Gives you more than enough information to start Once you have some degree of experience, watch the RSD blueprint, it helps with social conditionning and such. + The hotseat at home should be insane. I've studied RSD in some depth, because I loove tyler and I can relate very well with him, and all of his youtube videos helped me understand a lot. In terms of other ressources, well, you have to select content based on your experience. You have to indetify what you struggle with while doing pick-up, and look up content for that only. Simply if you are unsure whether something (product, coach, video) is quote on quote good or not ( because well let's not lie, people are sometimes full of shit) stick with RSD, it got the most effective and sophisticated concepts. But after some time with enough experience, you'll see immediatly whether what's been said is retarded or not and then you should look into any materials available to extract the most useful data possible #scientificapproach
  18. @Sarper It does not. You're looking for something on a logical level but it's not what you actually emotionnaly respond to. On a baseline level women are NOT attracted to anything specific, like doing this or that, but more precisly what it's subcommunicating. What is important is value. Anything that helps you survive, aka traits such as confidence, manliness, etc. Look up the RSD Blueprint if you want more data on this. Aside from that, good emotions. The rest does not matter at all. Reckless or insensitive or muscles don't work by themselves, simply they allow the person to act in a confident manner Don't be fooled by the superficial Careful there : The evolution is HARSH. If you are not getting laid, you don't deserve to from a biological standpoint. Hence, no matter how you treat them if you can't get attraction is irrelevant to a great extent.
  19. @zenny Alert ! As stated previously : there is no magic pill. Your authentic self will not be attractive unless made attractive !
  20. @Scarlett_A HOLD the horses : COLD approach doesn't mean that when you go talk to someone you're COLD and HEARTHLESS to them. It means that you are trying to initiate contact with a stranger. The modern version ( quote on quote high consciousness even ? ) of the definition of pick up is " Endless process which thrives to make you as attractive as possible and "getting" women as a byproduct of that process ". You have to learn to convey your personnality and SOMETIMES you will sound fake or seem unauthentic only because you have to learn new behaviours. The goal is to be able to express yourself freely and be love for who you are, so it's the opposite of authenticity.
  21. No, unless you have a standard good looking profile, and even then it's not really worth it. Go for afterworks, bars and clubs. You will have to screen a bit but for that all the major events have pictures. Don't forget to reach out and find wingman if you need some PS : RSD Tyler break up video has helped me tremendously over the years. PSS: Feel free to ask any question in the FAQ.
  22. Hold on : I meant that you always need to question whatever beliefs your society has put into you no matter what society it is. Nothing else. Honestly at this point it comes down to self-image preservation. Do I wanna see myself as I person that has light-hearted sex ? 1) Seriously ? I never mentionned true freedom. But someone who doesn't feel the need to preserve his self-image or doesn't feel judge is MORE free than someone who isn't. 2) Having no sex at all gives you no experience at all. Not much is always better than nothing At least for me ahah. Everyone has his own idea of sexuality and if your requires emotional trust and deep admiration go for it, but you can't speak for everyone. I do agree that it's a huge factor, but it doesn't encompass the whole sexuality in itself. It doesn't make you good but it makes you better. Practice makes perfect. For me it's exactly the opposite, the more experiences you have the more you are able to create connections and have great sex. One of my best sex was a one night stand which later evolved into a relationship with the best sex of my life. You don't sleep with RANDOM people in 5 seconds, you get to know them at least on some level, and it can be really deep sometimes. 3) I feel really sad reading this because you imply it takes effort to stay with someone. Comitting is not a skill and you cannot be good at it. It's simply enjoying the relationship and investing in it because it's the best you can create. And to know what to cherish you must have experience. Having experience prevents cheating because you know that there is NOTHING better out there simply because you have tried everything ( to some extent, there is no absolute) and you know what you exactly want. Practice is really different from theory, and what you feel you want may not be what you actually want once you try it. This is why I believe experiencing is key and you should be free to do so no matter what. To conclude, the question should've been different : Is it beneficial or detrimental to me to sleep arround ? Everyone has to answer that for himself.
  23. @Harry 1) Prerequirements. It's a book often quoted in the pickup community because it helps round out the angles if you will. 2) Everything. You have to be attractive in the first place so you have to be on top of everything that can make you more attractive. Basicaly instead of the usual Hi, chat, and moving arround, and dates you can cut the thing short and be like : look I'm attractive let's make it happen. If you're not, well...what did you expect ? Black magic
  24. @SenshiAna@Natalya @Baby We are on a self-actualized forum. It includes (and even for me implies) being above social conditionning. Imagine you have slept with 30 guys at 25 years old. Unless you have told it on your facebook page, no one is judging you besides yourself, and more precisly your own mind. Nothing and no one. It is simply a thought in your mind which was implanted there by society. Can you prove in any way that sleeping with that many guys is bad in itself ? If you view it simply as a thought there will be no more problems. Society views sex as bad because from what I've seen and learned, guys cannot settle nor marry with a women which had more experiences than he does because he will feel uncomfortable/miserable which doesn't help monogamy. Or it so happens that marriage and monogamy is a pillar for society. (To some extent). Therefore by not repressing femine sexuality we can achieve also more confident men and move society towards a better future. I've had a very close female friend who thought sex was special. She viewed sex as giving herself, like it was the biggest deal of all. When she said that I almost died inside. I found something inherently toxic with that. The more you make sex into a big deal, the more repressed and fucked up your society will be. Also, it's not special by itself. Sex is special only because of the connection you have with the partner. No matter how much sex you've had before. You can find someone you connect so well with that even after having been with 40 guys before that you'll experience something absolutly new. Why I believe women should have many sexual partners or at least as much as they want : - They should be free and not repressed => Quite a valuable factor in terms of happiness - They can explore themselves and their sexuality - Less likely to cheat because they know what they want