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Hello, I am currently experiencing this problem for several days or maybe or week or week. I actually take too much time to fall as sleep because my mind is bombarded with thoughts. Here's what I do before going to bed: Reading for 1 hour Meditation I don't use screens at night because of the blue light effect. Do some of you have the same problem? How did you overcome it? Thanks

It was ok last night, however I had this problem when waking up this morning. Maybe I should work on some specifics issues in my life to stop thinking so much about them

@Salvijus I go to the gym 5 times per week in the morning. Today I was there at 6 AM, and now I'm planning to start my workouts at 5:30 AM

@TruthSeeker47 As I said, I don't use any screen at night. I'm reading using physical books for the moment. So, when I go to sleep I already stop using any screen for at least 1h20 before. By the way, I am already using app to diminish to blue light effect.

Hey @Dan Arnautu, I have a question about The Six Pillars Of Self-Esteem's sentence completions exercises. Would you recommend finishing reading the book first, then doing Nathaniel Branden's program at the end of the book? Doing it while I am still reading the book? Or doing sentence completion exercises given for each pillars while reading the book or after finishing it?

Be also carefull with things like Quora or Medium. They are very similar to this forum and have even more addictive potential

Having a hard time to conciliate that life is completely useless and no matter what I'm doing I will die with the fact that as Nathaniel Branden said "Your life is important. Honor it. Fight for your highest possibilities" and that I should take actions to make myself feel better, have a life purpose, create and contribute to making awesome things happen in the worl I know that starting any new kind of business is challenging, I'm not expecting that to be easy at all. Why will it take twice the amount of time that I think it will take? Where should I look elsewhere? I have heard several times that one of the fastest ways to become financially independent is to create a blog and/or youtube channel; deliver free content regularly, and sell quality affiliates information products and/or my own information products at an expensive price, but still affordable. Concerning the money itself, I live in a country where $ 700 - 800 is enough to live financially independent. After having stable revenues in this range, the next goal would be to increase them. I find this kind of conversations more interesting, I usually get bored when people spend most of their time speaking about nonsignificant things. I hate small talk. I didn't think of that this way, but most of the time it was more like they didn't appreciate me because I was different. However, it's quite interesting, thanks, for the insight. Same as before, and I also remember a pretty powerful experience where I had a deep talk with a homeless man in the street. After that, we became friends and he even invites me to a restaurant and pays for me. I don't get it. It's like the most counter-intuitive thing ever for me right now. I don't understand why they need to test if I'm weak or strong. It seems to have something to do with the need of power. Are they even conscious that they are doing this to "test me"? What if I stand for myself in this kind of situations and say no? Why is this not strong? Should I then accept everything like washing their dishes? I this is the solution, how do I do that? I have already experience that several times. It's like I am very calm and say nothing for a long period of time, then they push my buttons too far, and then I explode in rage and furiousness. But I also had an experience where I did nothing, stay calm, and control myself no matter what. I found out that they will slowly stop because they got bored of not seeing me reacting. I will try this one if I get in a dislikable situation. Thank you.

I'm sure that you all know this kind of people. However, let's be clear by what I mean by 'Donald Trump' style of people: Stubborn people who never change opinion even if they know they're completely wrong People who treat others as shit, humiliate them, put them down People who get angry quickly, who are bipolar People who can start doing illegal things People who know how to subtly manipulate others to their advantage You got the idea here. The fact is that I've recently started a new job as a software developer and our boss is making us working from 8 AM to 6 PM, and also making me work Saturday with the same schedule. I don't get paid a lot, and feel like it's unproductive and making tired. At the end of last Friday I've asked him if it would be possible to stop at 12 PM or 1 PM, he told me that he already answered this question to previous employees. Saturday morning he didn't even let me the time to ask anything and start clashing me about this and conclude for everyone that it will not be possible. So now I'm planning to find a new job that gives me more time for self-actualization. However, the fact is that I'm also like this kind of people sometimes. I got critics in the past and I'm trying to change that even if it's sometimes very hard for me. I have been educated by a father who had the same behavior, so I had a lot of personal issues while growing up and still have today. The problem is that there's a lot of different people on earth and I will never be completely safe from not meeting this kind of people in the future. So what can I do to start to manage them? When my boss clashed me, I was feeling a lot of fear and my heart was beating a lot. How can I learn to face this type of people and not let them dominates me? I don't want to be a victim forever in my life. Thanks

@Dan Arnautu I forget to tell you that I am experiencing an existential crisis for almost two years now. Quick money in order to become independent fast. It's not so much about the passion, but it can also be very interesting for me. The concept would be to create a youtube channel and educate me on different subjects. Make videos on what I am learning and after becoming good enough in one domain create a paid online course. After that, I would like to invest the money into traveling, personal development, discovering myself, and creating more interesting businesses. I am already reading The Six Pillars Of Self-Esteem and I downloaded How To Win Friends And Influence People on Audibe. Concerning the issue, I don't have a lot of problems to speak in front of a public. Most of the time when I meet peoples it's ok at the beginning, but then it collapses after days, weeks, in the middle and long-term. I hate small talk, even though I can deal with them if they are quite rare, but it's not the case most of the time. I like to speak about interesting and deep things, where it seems to me that people are always complaining about their life and gossiping about irrelevant stuff. I never felt integrated anywhere and have difficulties to understand people, so I'm afraid to say what I'm thinking about because they will judge me and tell me that I am abnormal. I'm also afraid to show them what I really know about some subjects because most of them don't like to admit that they're wrong and then attack me for that. I find out that a lot of people like to speak about things where they don't know anything (food is a very good example, they speak a lot about it, but never read professional studies or books). That's why I'm very quiet most of the time and listen more in order to analyze better and share less nonsense. Telling a lot of stupid jokes all the time because I was new and young. Telling me to wash their dishes. Rejecting me because I didn't know about a popular ice cream company, where I told them that I never eat ice creams. Telling me that I am not normal because I don't want to spend time with them, but prefer to stay home alone. Joking on me because of my eating habits, where I wanted to be healthy and gain weight. Being angry with me because I didn't want to eat their food (they were not thinking that it was because of the food, but that I had something against them). Not liking me because I sometimes forget about social conventions, and not being very traditional or not having a specific culture or group to belong. I am a high sensitivity person and have trouble managing strong emotions, so I tend to hide them. The list is huge, I'm not putting everything here. BTW thank you for what you are doing, it's awesome However do you think that you will be able to maintain this thread? If it continues, it's going to be enormous and all of these questions could have more visibility and obtain more answers by being asked in the appropriate forum.

I want to make money to become financially independant. I know theorically how to do it, I already sold something on the internet. However I have something deep inside me that is blocking me, and make me unable to take actions and be consistant with my work. I suppose there's a lot a fear, but I'm wondering if there is not something else. I also grow up with social anxiety and extreme shyness problems with a toxic father. However, I did a lot a progress during the last three years until I get my first job. These progress then collapse because of my inability to deal with my coworkers behaviours

Hello, I am trying to improve my productivity by working better, smarter, and more effectively. I would like to know what are from your perspectives the best productivity books. If you also have personal tips feel free to share them here

Already read this one!

@dude Do you think Flow is an essential read?

I also have this problem. I'm on Linux using Chrome

I recently found the Dynalist note taking app. It seems very powerful, does anyone has tried it or use it? There's also a live demo here

Hello, I've noticed a strange behavior about myself when reflecting on my life. I don't know why I'm doing this, but I always want to be different, I suppose that it's an ego defense mechanism. So here are some points: When I was a kid, I've always felt different and oversensitive In high school, I didn't care about my results because I wanted to be a software developer. However, during the final year, I've worked really hard because I thought most of the people in my class were dumb. I also thought I was better and destined to a great future as a millionaire tech company's CEO and I've got really good results during this year I studied Computer Science during the last two years. Nevertheless, my entire reality collapsed during this period because I was so isolated and out of my comfort zone. It's also at this time that I discovered Actualized.org and finally started to found more people "like me" I found a job in a small company, but I quit after less than three months. The boss was abusing me and I was not feeling well integrated into the overly social environment. I've also judged the company activity's ethics very bad as their goal were only to make money with unconscious products Here's my situation now: I'm at my parent's house. I don't like to be here, but I have no other options I'm trying to start a small affiliate marketing business. However, I'm procrastinating a lot and I've started more than five months ago. I'm currently having zero results and don't like doing this, but I need money I'm wondering about doing philosophy studies. However, I'm fearful if the same thing happens and if I want to change direction again. I've always been a deep thinker What do you guys think about this?

I also think like this. I actually feel that I need to study a lot of things including philosophy, but that school is not for me.

Hey there, I'm a 20 years old (almost 21) young man wondering about his life and future. I am currently unemployed as I recently quit my job and return back to my parent's house. One idea that is growing up in my mind since several months is to start new philosophies studies, however, I have both pros and cons on this: Pros: I'm lost in life and have a lot of questions in my mind I'm interested in societies, existential, and epistemological questions I am a very big thinker I would like to meet more people "like me", I've always felt very lonely all my life as I see most people not sharing my deep thoughts Philosophy is essential to self-actualization and the search for truth I consider myself as very open-minded Cons: I work better alone as an autodidact The over social and noisy environment at school drain my energy Studying in college also implies dogmas and a certain way of thinking, even in philosophy I'm interested in a lot of subjects and also like very practical things such as computer programming What's your opinion on this? I'm hesitating a lot and sometimes really think that it will be better to do independent studies. However, I will not be able to stay at my parent's house all my entire life. They will probably kick me out if I just study inside philosophy and a lot of different subjects and not make any money

It's precisely because I don't have any clear goal but I'm interested in philosophy that I'm envisaging some studies

Does someone else have an opinion on this?

I have a question for all INTPs here: How do you deal with your over active mind? I have a lot of difficulties to concentrate and it's really killing all my productivity. It's actually easier for me to work when I'm under surveillance and feel less free, but when I'm alone I go in thousands directions and ends completly unproductive.

Is this legal? @Joseph Maynor Awesome, it's for these kinds of comments that reputations points can be useful

INTP-T It both surprise me and not at the same time. Why it surprises me I don't consider myself as highly intelligent, I didn't have awesome grades at school even if I were not bad most of the time. It was more like a rollercoaster for me, and I was not really good at math. Why it doesn't surprise me I like to be alone, I philosophy and think a lot. I get lost in thoughts and on the internet at a supersonic speed. I always feel misunderstood, I see people doing complete nonsense in their life, complaining a lot, and not taking actions. I prefer to be direct in my approach, I have difficulties to communicate with people that most of the time misunderstood my behavior and my thinking. I hate small talk, I prefer not to speak rather than saying irrelevant things. I consider myself as being open-minded, at least enough open-minded to admit that I can be close-minded without noticing it. I don't try to impose things on people, they do what they want even if I consider that it's bullshit. I try to analyze critics against me, rather than reacting against them, if there some true inside it's better for me to explore that. There are probably more things to say, but I don't have everything in my mind right now. However, I can see that there are a lot of things to improve in myself

@Tony Tellez Mr Robot is also very interesting. It questions mainstream society and reality a lot. I've sometimes wondered if the director knew something about enlightenment. More people should watch it

In your last motivational video you said that working at Mc Donald was not work, but bullshit. Then you said that it was the same thing for a programmer. However, I consider programming harder then working at Mc Donald. You need more concentration and solve harder problems. What is real work for you?