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@ajasatya Well, if we think of the relative sense, it went like shit because I didn't attain my goal, in some other senses I learned a lot. Anyway there's still a lot of shit that I need to go through!

Hey there, I have been working on a Saas app since March/April 2018 and I am not sure if I am going in the right direction. Here are some facts about my app: It's a social media management app like Hootsuite, Buffer, etc. Currently, it looks more like AgoraPulse For the moment it's literally (with only subtle differences) a copy of AgoraPulse It only has two functionalities: publishing and scheduling on Facebook and Youtube, and comment management (which is not even finished) There are still bugs and many things related to the technical aspect which are not resolved I feel like it's also important to share some personal stuff about me: Last two years have been a little rough I entered the job market I had anxiety problems and experienced several panic attacks during the last 8 months. So some days I would be stressed because I was unable to work due to my anxieties, and then I would beat myself down because of this I've slacked off a lot because of my emotional issues Currently, I feel like I have less anxiety and can manage myself better. Changing city, loneliness, and meditation has helped me a lot I never started any business before or any Saas app The main problem that I see for the moment with my app is that it's only a pale copy of something that already exists. One day I saw a video of a guy who said that there is no need to innovate and that we can create a similar product and earn money by marketing it better. However, as I am approaching more and more the end of development I have more doubt about my success and feel like I am wasting my time. Originally I wanted to put the app online for free and create a very close relationship with clients by making a video at least every two weeks. Ask them ideas and their needs on social media management and implement their ideas. However, I don't have a lot of time and the only solution that I see is to stop sleeping. Then I thought about a feature that I wanted to develop in my app to differentiate myself, that would: Check all comments for a period of time on a specific social media Rank who commented the most and got more reactions Have some sorting functionality (by reactions, by comment count, etc) Allow the client to go directly on their profile to enter in contact with them Currently, I see two actions that I can take: Continue my original plan, and then implement the previous feature. The problem is that it's not original, and it's going to take more time Create a micro-saas app consisting only of the feature I mentioned above. This seems more easy and original I'm also really inspired by the story of Joel Gascoigne of how he created the Buffer app who now have generated more than millions of dollars with a very simple original idea. I'm thinking about implementing his technique: Ask the people on the market what they think of my current project If they think this is not worth it, stop Then ask about my micro-saas app idea What do think about this? Should I continue? There's not a lot of work (in theory) for me to have the first version. Should I change direction and create my micro-saas app? Or am I sabotaging all my work just before I release it?

Hey there, I really feel that I need a break right now, especially from Leo's videos. Here are some facts: I discovered personal development with Actualized.org in December 2015 Currently, we are in August 2018, so it's been almost three years that I've been watching Leo's videos I took some actions in the past and had some changes, but nothing really massive I love abstract ideas and theories, however, I ingurgitated so much content that I'm starting to literally get bored with so many theories I love and I'm quite addicted to Leo's videos (I listened to some of them more than 5 to 10 times), I understand the conceptual ideas in each video, but my life doesn't change enough because of a lack of massive actions. I am not saying this only because Leo hardly points out this problem in its 'How To Contemplate Using A Journal' video, but because I have been noticing more and more this problem in myself lately before this video came out. That's a nice and interesting synchronicity, and of course, Leo's reminder on this also helps With all these theories and recent videos on spiral dynamics, I now know where I am in my life and where I want to go. My vision is not crystal clear and needs to be sharpened, but I know in what direction I need to orientate myself I'm currently mostly at stage orange (at least 60 %), and Actualized.org is more and more yellow and turquoise I need to embrace orange, get my personal independence, and get strong results in my life How I'm going to use Actualized.org: I'm not cutting completely Actualized.org, but I want to use it in a nuanced and effective way I'm not going to watch any new video from Actualized.org for the next 6 months (so until February 5). I also disabled notifications from the Youtube channel I'm not going to distract myself by reading the forum I'm not going to try to help anyone on the forum. Why? Because I'm underdeveloped, and that I need to help myself before helping others I will use the forum only if I need some specific pieces of information for action taking, help with emotional toughness, and motivation (I am thinking about a subject right now) I'm allowing myself to watch any of the existing videos before August 5 only if I need some information for practical actions, help on emotional toughness, and motivation. So I am not going to watch a lot of content on spirituality and very advanced topics, but more on foundational issues that need to be fixed in my life I always wanted an extraordinary life and I promised myself to succeed in the past. I'm committing myself right now to generate results. I will see how it look like when reflecting on my life after the next six months

@Revolutionary Think I'm 21, and I'm also struggling with some toxic family relationships. I'm trying be become financially independent, so that money will never be a source of limitations, but a source of opportunities. I also have other fundatinal issues that need to be fixed like anxieties and childhood trauma, etc.

@Revolutionary Think I'm currently in the same situation than you. I'm fighting and struggling for my independence, it's really hard, but keep it up! Lol. How did you achieve this feat?

Mom : Blue / Orange / Green Dad : Red / Blue / Orange

I entered "fuck society" on YouTube and found his video "30 Ways Society Fucks You In The Ass"

This scene is from Genious, the real interesting part starts at 2:30. The teacher and the students are all blue, except for Albert Einstein

I never tried painting and never thought about this. However, I find your idea original. Thanks for your help

Hello, I am currently confronted with a problem. I have an intuition that I need to do something without a really clear vision, and there's also some logical explanation coming with this intuition. I am currently seeing that following this intuition will correlate with my vision for the next few years, however this vision is not crystal clear and need to be sharpened. I know that they are things I want in life, but I have no really clear vision. I am not able to visualize more than 5 years in the future, but if seems I have some short terms intuitions. Last time that I deny such an intuition I had some of the worst consequences that I ever got in life. What do you think of this?

"Loneliness is what gives you the vision of a genius" - Leo Gura "If you cannot be alone and be ok it's that your not in good company" - Sadhguru

To f****** self-actualize!

Hello, I start seeing a new psychologist for several months. I want to mention that it's not the first time I try, but the third. I also created a subject on actualized.org because I was unhappy with my previous experience However, I am disappointed again with my experience. So here are some questions I want to ask you: Do you think that it's normal to be frequently late (like 30 minutes to 1 hour)? Do you think it's normal that in every session a psychologist asks the same questions asked in the previous one? Do you think normal saying she doesn't like the manner of a patient? Do think normal that when I tell her I don't like my job she says that I need to get more experience to get another one where I told her that I am working on my own personal business? Do you think normal that a psychologist doesn't give any exercise to a patient? From my perspective, she is negligent and doesn't seem to believe in my ability to make things happen nor consider my values, but rather want me to live like she considers to be "normal" and "healthy". So, are most psychologist incompetent? For me, having a degree doesn't matter so much but being open-minded, comprehensive, compassionate, with the aim to help someone to achieve its goals and helping to understand and correct mistakes (real ones, not ones based on cultural or any kind of conditioning) should be part of the core values of a psychologist. Generally speaking on which aspects a psychologist could really help? This is obvious to me that speaking of enlightenment and the nature of reality is useless with most of them. However, things like relationships should be ok.

@Etagnwo This is very relevant, thank you. I also thought about that, and this seems for me to be the reason why a lot of them are inadequate to help on the path of self-actualization and don't understand common issues on this journey. @Charlotte I saw in some of your posts that you are interested in psychology, what do you think about this?

I hope he will be completly dead from the inside

@Moreira @Quanty Could you please elaborate?

@Moreira This is relative, sometimes doing this is needed

@Erlend K Some of your answers are pretty enlightening, thank you A lot of these question where facts on my life like "Do you do sport? What sport?". She asked questions like that several times, took note, and then took note again. Or questions like "You never go out? Go to cinemas? To parties?" in multiple consecutive sessions It was not about me, but about another person. A web application. I am currently working as a programmer, I started programming on my own at the age of 15. So, I am pretty confident that I can build something. However, I still lack of experience in the marketing fields ------------------------------------- She also sometimes contradict herself.

Maybe he got a huge ego backslash and he couldn't resist his addictions

@Dan Arnautu I recently got a new job, I'm in a testing phase. Another employer told me that I have to bring chocolate before being confirmed in the company and that all others have done that. How should I react to this? For the moment, I think I will bring the chocolate. Is this going to make me a victim? Or should I say an assertive "No"?

Hey, after watching Leo's last video on social systems and reflecting a little on my life, I started thinking about homeostasis and its importance in everyday life. As I am getting older (I'm still young) like you, I am becoming more aware of its functioning. I am seeing the impact of this process in some specific areas of my life and in particular for my last three years were many things changed for me. However, I often had big backslashes after big progress in some areas. I am particularly thinking of my results when I was in school, where I struggled to maintain good results. I was very unbalanced and had some moments where I quickly shifted from being one of the best in the class to one of the worst. The same thing happened recently for my relationships. Currently, the only solution that I am seeing to prevent homeostasis is to make little changes and not try to brute force the system. Like this, it will be able to handle changes, and controlling the backslashes would be easier as they will be smaller. What do you think about this? What have been your experiences with homeostasis? How do you handle it?

This is exactly what I did many times in the past! I don't really understand. I understand that I should accept them, but becoming grateful for them seems more difficult. Good advice, thank you.

Thank all of you for your awesome answers! What if I experience an existential crisis and have a violent shift in my vision of life? When I was 18, I was sure of what I wanted to become in life and was working hard for it. I was also knowing my values and fighting for them until everything collapses the next year. Hopefully, I am currently regaining motivation, vision, and working hard again for my life. What's also really freaky is that it can act after month and years of progress without we notice it. I didn't think of that, this is very valuable, thank you.