Dan Arnautu

@PippieStrueg I understand, but do you mean that I should lie and make up testimonials? This kind of goes against my values.

What do you mean? Write my own testimonials?

@Siim Land Yea, I will maybe try and make an e-book or e-guide that I can give for free and also create some blog posts. Forgot about that.

@Captain Flint Omg, so I'm not the only one. Very glad to hear that. I thought I was just overestimating the experience and exaggerating it in my mind.

@hundreth I see. For me it feels much more powerful than a mild relaxation (some of the causes being that I extremely rarely take it, I have an extremely good diet and I'm not a smoker). After I took a few hits, I got hit like a truck and I could feel sharp energy from the top of my head to the bottom. I started to meditate a bit and oh my god, it was like I was diving underwater. Energy started to amplify along my spine and almost shooting at the bottom of it. Also, I felt spears of energy running from the top to the bottom of my hands and feet. After I meditated for a bit I was starting to get knee jerk reactions because I was not willing to surrender and go deeper. But then, surprisingly, even though I started moving around, the energy started to amplify more and more an more to the point where I started to feel a slight dissociation with my everyday experience and all of it started to feel like some type of veil. I felt like I was about to exit my body if I just let go of the control hard enough (that may not be the case at all, but that's what it felt like to me). The insights I think I had were that: - I am so not ready to surrender fully yet / I don't want to even think how reactive I would get on psychedelics --> more inner work needs to be done. Like oh my fucking god, I saw first hand that dying is x1000 times harder than I could imagine - My life here is really goddamn short and I started to see how much importance I actually attribute to stupid shit when I take none of them with me to the grave and also how seriously I take my insecurities and imperfections -> this also made me look at my life in a more detached and amused way of how everyone is running around in hamster wheels for no reason - I really underestimated how strong even mild substances can be. I can't even fathom on how many orders of magnitude higher 5 Meo Dmt is. I felt a really deep knowing that you can't see your true nature unless you bend over and let yourself be fucked real hard in the ass by GOD, like LITERALLY. Not just a conceptual knowing, but a real deep knowing. - I felt for the first time something underneath my body which I can not describe. It felt unreal, indescribable, but only felt like a pat on the back from the void. I can't describe it further than that in words.

@Siim Land I tried it many times and they seem to not see the real value of the free work I do. Meaning they do not practice and do not implement the things that will get them to their goal if I give it to them for free. I saw that in myself too. When I was paying little money for lessons I did not deem them as that important. Now I pay about 50 Eur per lesson and I get a lot more results. Not saying that I would charge that much, but doing it for free just gives me headaches. Same with when I gave personalized nutritional programs and workout routines for free to my friends. Then, when I said I would start to charge them because they were not taking any action, they started leaning down (~10 kg) in a dime.

Do this. It works like a charm.

Do you have your own Self - Actualization journal (in either written or digital format) that you update regularly? I am not refering to a commonplace book, but a journal like other users have on this forum, based on the guidelines that you gave towards making one. If you do, did it impact your life positively?

@dude No problem. I don't encourage dropping web development entirely either. One powerful thing that you can do is to leverage all the skills you have into your deepest passion. If you know how to create awesome websites and apps, you can use that to create your own personal website (as a life coach) and that will save you a lot of money. I also had to choose between fitness and music. I figured out I had to triple down on my strengths (I had a natural talent in music, not so much in fitness although I am still much better than 99% of personal trainers in both physique and coaching). Unless you can be a wordclass performer, unless you can be in the 10% of the best in the industry, don't bother. You need a great vision, not to become ”just another life coach” out of a dozen. You will lose motivation quickly like that. In my case I thought that, ok, how do I leverage my fitness and nutrition skills in my music career? Most musicians are unhealthy, so I can create blog posts on how musicians can keep themselves fit an healthy. Also, by being very fit, it helps my image as a musician (on stage, posters and what not). A lot of untapped potential there. Also, most music related youtubers don't treat the mindset aspect of being a musician. They teach musical theory, harmony, techniques and what not, but they don't approach the mindset itself. With my (soon to achieve) degree in philosophy, I can leverage all of that to create a succesful youtube channel that approaches anything from habits to goals to limiting beliefs musicians have + maybe touching a bit on some metaphysical concepts that are related. Also, while working towards my degree in philosophy, I acquired great communication skills and now I know how to phrase complex concepts and make them easy to understand, which would help me as a youtuber and a guitar teacher. See how all of these add up if you look at them from the right perspective? If you still don't have big responsibilities like kids and what not and if you still live with your parents (which is the best case scenario), you can go at it full throttle on the life coach thing for 1-3 years. Do an experiment. You can always go back to the software thing if it doesn't work out. If you are in your twenties, don't waste those years. These are the years where you are able to grind the most. Live in a room with 5-10 other people if necessary in order to achieve what you want.

This is a very tricky thing because if you go down a wrong path (meaning one that is not aligned with your life purpose), you can become complacement and comfortable in a secure job and not follow up with the life coach path. Also, self development is extremely profitable right now. In the next 1000 years humans won't run out of personal problems. Problems will only get worse with the booming of technology and lack of self mastery, so this is the best time in history to pursue a career in it. Setting what you are most passionate about as a plan B or something that you pursue only after you feel you are secure is a losing game because it comes from a losing mentality. Loser mentality What if it won't be profitable enough? What if no one would pay me? What if I am not good enough yet? What if it's too early? All of these questions come from fear and insecurity. Winner mentality What do I need to do to in order to make progress as fast as possible? How do I become so good that the competition is irrelevant? What business models can I apply to automate parts of my work? How do I get in touch with a community of people that are pursuing the same thing? All these questions come from a proactive attitude, a growth mindset and a place of self confidence. Don't let your mind trick you.

@Kvath I tried out a lot of Tai Lopez`s programs. The guy know a ton more than he lets you to believe on youtube. That's not even surface stuff. I suggest you try his 67 steps as it's the cheapest, and in my opinion most jam packed with information. He also has 3 modules of the Accelerator Program which adresses: Money (in which you get all you need to know about money) Entrepreneurship Persuasion I think you can get it discounted for 1000 bucks (It's normally 1000 for each module). If you think that's expensive, remember, scared money don't make money. Another resource is Tony Robbin's book Money: Master The Game

I would argue there is a fundamental book for everyone, and it's actually the shortest one, which I think would help a newbie tremendously. That book is Managing Oneself by Peter Drucker. This book is all about self awareness and how to get a sense of direction in life. Very good first read in my opinion. It can be finished in less than an hour.

For a chance to know you guys better, I want to ask, if you have found it: What is your life purpose? What domain does it encompass? What makes you tap dance to work everyday? What brings you the greatest joy in your work? What brought you more clarity towards your life purpose? I know that mine is music related, but I haven't made it concrete yet. I would have to take the life purpose course in order to get more clarity on it. But, I am curious about your journey! Tell me about it.

@Nahm Love it! That's extraordinary! I am also the guy who keeps the drama low everywhere ... Egoic behaviour seems to be much more pronnounced in the music industry than in other industries, at least on the low and middle levels.

@Destroy_ Remember that going directly to spiritual work is the most hardcore way to go. It's definitely a viable option, but most people can't handle that, which brings us back to Maslow's hierarchy of needs. Once he gets some girls, some love, some money, sex, social recognition and what not, he will have had a taste of everything and will pursue spirituality more seriously. No need for him to become a monk (not that you said that, i'm just trying to prove a point) before he masters his finances.

@Dantas That's awesome. I also want to buy the life purpose course in the near future, before all my free time gets too swallowed up to do the exercises.

@BjarkeT I was always a performer with great technical ability. One of the things I love most is mastering very difficult songs. Other musical abilities don't come so naturally to me, but I still brought them to an acceptable level. Although, the words of Tom Hess gave me more confidence in my abilities and made me bet on my strengths. Maybe they will help you too in some way:

That's great. Feel free to share your work if you have something composed already. Do you play an instrument?

@abigailwornesable Your feelings most likely stem from not being aligned with your life purpose. Do you feel like tap dancing to work everyday? Do you make an impact with your work? Would you be happy doing what you do for the rest of your life? Remember, a comfortable life doesn't necessarily mean a happy life. If your work is not your greatest passion and doesn't bring you the greatest joy; if you wouldn't do what you do even if you weren't paid for it, then your work is not aligned with your life purpose. How do you find your life purpose? Leo has a course on this. Also, I think what Leo says about the house acquisition is right. You think buying a house would bring you more stability, but counterintuitively, it may bring you more instability, because you will have to pay for it for the next 10, 20, 30 years and you may always have it in the back like an itch you can't scratch if you are unsure you can make the payments every month. Leo makes a 6-7 figure income and still hasn't bought a house even though he easily could. Think about that.

@abigailwornesable Even a shitty job, you don't have to see it as permanent. It will be hard, yes, but your only option may be to work a shitty one for a while and also work in your free time towards transitioning out. You could for example live below your means until you accumulate about 6 months worth of expenses and use that as a catapult towards the life you want. Don't get into the trap of wanting it NOW, NOW, NOW. You are in a tough situation, but creating a great life takes more than a few weeks or months. Try and be more strategic with your life. Think long term and make short term and midterm goals towards achieving what you want.

@Wyatt Thanks for your answer. I just need to take the exams. I don't need to go through the courses again. I've tried planning in google calendar and sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. There is no sense of urgency because I don't feel a close enough deadline or accountability for anyone.

Hi guys! I've acummulated 5 failed college courses over the last 2 years (for multiple reasons) and I would like to pass them all until September. I have 2 months to work with. In order to finish all the work needed in that timespan, I would need to work about 1.5 hours everyday consistently. I have no problem doing the work, but I know I can't trust myself sometimes when I'm on my own schedule. Tips on how to keep consistency? Or maybe ways to keep myself accountable? Aside from all of this, I also need to get my driver's license (I almost finished the hours needed) and continue to work with my guitar teacher. Plus, I want to open my own guitar teaching business. Any thoughts on balancing all of these out? I know that tremendous willpower will be needed.

@jakub_friso I practically made a 360 degree change in all areas of my life since 3-4 years ago. And these kind of changes were made from year to year, not from 4 years ago till now. I've remained an INFJ (from the Myers Briggs Personality Test) throughout all of this transition. So, I could say that it is pretty accurate regardless of your life situation.