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I am enjoying the use of this forum. It is nice to connect and discuss Self-Actualization with like minded people. I remember Leo saying forums are personal, raw, unfiltered and direct and it is helpful to get real peoples POV as apposed to just listening and reading teachings. I agree. You get out of life what you put into life. What you put into the forum, you get out of it. Given we are all One and we are connected, commenting on posts is nourishing for my Self just as much as reading others comments. If I give people advice, I get advice back in return, albeit at a different moment. If i comment something of value, later, i get something of value back. If I write a joke, later I will find something funny on the forum. Writing a comment or a post helps clarify my own thinking and perspectives and also will hopefully serve others too. The topics and comments although seem seperate are all one, as are the topics and comments in relation to my actual life. There is not a duality between the forum and my life. Beautiful. I won't get attached, but for now, this forum is serving my Self and life, and I and happy to be here with you all.

The Gita talks of consituents that act upon constituents. self dissolves and Self expands. What is left is not self control but is Self expansion. So wether one within Self expansion is expressing their story in some context or wether they do not is nothing more than the consituents of nature acting upon one another. In that light one teacher who claims all story is false and one who claims story is still part of the expansion of Self, are both merely consituents acting upon consituents within the expansion of Self. Brahman allows for all scenarios. What a beautiful mystery.

The higher ones intelligence, the more they will see that everything is perfect. The more one sees that everything is perfect, the more opportunities one will see.

Thoughts on the Dao We are nature Dao is nature Nature is Dao We are no different than a flower or tree We are a part of nature We grow, we bloom and we blossom We move through the seasons just like the flowers and the trees

The day you're excited about a trip to IKEA, is the day you have come of age.

@Lincisman Both. If you approach women, you will get more condifent at approaching women. If you work on your Self in all areas of your life, including your inner world ( traumas, supressed emotions etc.) you will get better results with women. if you meditate you will be more present which will result in better results with women. The point is, women care about the man. Yeah you need to be able to approach but you also need to be a man of value at the very core, and what does that look like? Having your shit together brother, having something outside of pickup you live for and you feel good about and being happy just because. There is another very important distinction here though... You need to work on yourself for yourself. NOT because of the pickup results. Ultimatley this lack of self-esteem and self love is part of the reason you're doing pick up. Not that there is anything wrong with pick up or that your desire isn't natural, but often, pick upis used to fill that gap in your sense of self worth. If you want results with women and you wanna genuinly be happy in life, you gotta build your life up and work on yourself, for your Self, not for the pick up results. Counter-intuitively if you do this, your results with women will significantly improve, both in terms of quanitity and quality, but that depends on what you care about. Quite frankly I would rather work on my life and be happy, and get good results with some amazing women than feel like shit inside, get mediocre results with women and only feel good about myself when I get 'success‘ in pick up. You already know the answers it seems. You're not stupid. You just need to wrap your mind around this counter intuitive move. Hope that helped man. I feel ya.

@Medhansh @Preety_India Ditto.

@Gesundheit2 Word.

@Medhansh Cheers.

@catcat69123 They are Gamers. That's awesome.

Do you have unhealed traumas, emotions and limiting beliefs that could be flaring up your 'pain body' in social interactions that need addressing? Looks like you get triggered by women. You need to get to the source of those attachments. You gotta heal that baggage, otherwise you're gunna get triggered and attached. You don't need some dating tactic to be more centered in yourself, women will cut through that instantly. You need to investigate what happened in those 21 years you weren't getting laid and get to the cause, let go and heal. You gotta elevate your being game not your doing game.

@MarkKol Yep. I feel like I live on a different planet.

中文 The Chinese language is music to my ears. The Chinese language is the most beautiful language I have ever seen or read. The Chinese language is the coolest language. It flows. It sings. It is soft. It is hard. It get's the point accross. It sneaks around the point. It is yin 阴 yang 阳 It is full of wisdom and thousands of years of souls and journeys. It is a mystery in plain sight.

Thoughts on the Dao We are nature Dao is nature Nature is Dao We are no different than a flower or tree We are a part of nature We grow, we bloom and we blossom We move though the seasons just like the flowers and the trees

“For he who knows this has become wise and his purpose fulfilled." -Bhagavad Gita

Specifically about projecting onto others. Projection is you coming into a social situation and seeing the other person within the frame of your own self-agenda and biases. Projection could be internally percieved as the 'truth' of the other person, expressed in verbal communication, or through ones actions, behaviours and emotional responses towards the person. All based on the persons own projection. Reading Non-Violent Communication, got me thinking. Been active on this forum this week and noticed myself projecting onto people. Any input welcome. Open to discussion on the nature of projection and how to communicate without projection.

@Kksd74628 Yes!

'King Warrior Magician Lover' Good book on masculinity.

Right. The natural dynamic is the man penetrating and the woman yielding. I don't like it when a woman tries to penetrate me. Haha.

It will come bro, just visualise 16 hours a day and it will happen... haha. No shortcut to the work. Yoga TTC also has meditation modules. I just completed my in person yoga TTC. Now doing a 200 hour online TTC with an ashram in Rishikesh,India. I love it. In person is best but the online one is very good too. My practice is blooming.

He is a big fan of 'Command and Conquer'. He bought all the expansion packs.

It's tough. You're doing good friend. You're doing good. If you stay on the path of loving the universe, the universe will have your back and start to bring love into all areas of life.

Sometimes it's contextually appropriate to offer your experience of a situation to others, but other times it's just you throwing your shit on top of them and not seeing more clearly. It's difficult.

I will add though, Chinese culture and society is changing very rapidly. The Chinese have money now and their base needs are being met, more and more they are aspiring for happiness and the so called good life. They want to travel and take leisure time and engage in hobbies and spend time with family and friends more than they have ever in their modern History. As a result, slowly the society is waking up to the fact that the education system needs major reforms.

@ValiantSalvatore They cram. Take tests. Cram some more. Repeat. They excercise. Have PE 5 times a week. Do morning and afternoon excercises including eye and head massage. Most Chinese schools take a 2 hour lunch break with a 45-60 minute nap. The Chinese take naps midday, it's the culture. Dinner break is 90 minutes, maybe the students will play some sport or go play a musical instrument. Then back to craming the knowledge and taking tests. Subjects? Core= Math, Science, Chinese, English. English has been a core subject for two decades, but last year the government removed from the core subjects. 90% of Chinese people do not speak English, they forget most of the vocab they learned once they graduate or they know vocab, but can't string a sentence together. Of course 10% will go onto to use and some of them very fluently. Other subjects they study: Art, music, Physical Ed, IT, Chinese History. Working hours in China are not normal. Many work in a 9-6 but that's just the standard. Tech company employees often work 9-9-6. 9am-9pm 6 days a week. The Chinese work between 40-80 hours a week. 40-50 hours is pretty standard for most people. Native Chinese teachers work 50 hours a week after lunch and dinner breaks taken out the equation. I guess those long hours in school prepares them for those kind of work hours once they become adults.