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To expand on this you can also talk with them about how religion and the catholic church influenced us 100 years ago and try to get them to see how science fills the same role in todays world. Show them the similarities between these two.

So you are implying that you learned that skill? That sounds really interesting! Was that hard to learn?

Its good to see psychology actually working. From what I gathered its mostly there to get you back to work. Instead of really tackling the issue once and for all. But its not as black and white. There are degrees and it depends on how bad in shape the individual is and how much they resonate with the psychotherapist. I also know people who after they went to therapy had such good results that they changed career and became psychologists themselves to go on and heal others. There are also many people who cant get a good psychotherapist because the process is either too complicated or the psychotherapist declines them. Then there are other techniques like the sedona method that, from my experience, have a 100% success rate and are easily accessible. The whole spiritual stuff of being in the now is exactly like others and yourself have wrote here. Instead of making you "feel happy on a consistent basis" and "move your life in a direction you want" its going to show you that there is no you to feel happy. And that what you call life is just an illusion. If you dont want to go that route and instead focus on self-actualizing thats understandable. I struggle to combine those two as well, not gonna lie.

A good way for dealing with a need for control is to release it via the sedona method. Its one of the basic needs that many people have but some have it more than others. After the release you will be more peaceful with the fact that you are not in control.

Well I know its tricky but some people really do the work and others only change circumstances. To really grow and solve a problem in life an emotional release is needed. There is never a guarantee to find the perfect partner. But if you actually deal with the issue, do the hard work. You will see that you never needed a great partner to begin with. You are complete and whole. You have alle the love in the world. Seperation is an illusion anyways. Another point regarding the law of averages. Outliner are always a part of statistics. There are guys that talk to 50 woman and sleep with all of them, as there are guys who talk to 1000 woman and not get a single one interested. But those are so rare, its like winning the lottery. Forget the law of averages, its only there to help you to take action. Just do the work. Or do you think an aspiring basketball player thinks "If Im just throwing the ball in the air long enough I will win the game"? No, of course not. That is what someone who is either very dumb or not really interested in playing basketball would do. Someone who is really apsiring to become good at it will train his technique, play with friends, join a team, get a coach and think about strategic countermeasures to his opponents tactics in the field. He will watch hours of basketball games, talk with his teammates about it and so forth. I mean you dont have to go all out on this, but ask yourself if you really want this and then take the required steps.

Do you know what exactly cause the anxiety, maybe a specific event or situation?

The first example you give is a classic problem in game theory of microeconomics. In traditional game theory scientist used the expected value (EV) to find the best decision for any given situation. In your example it would be A:EV=100*0,99=99 B:EV=2000*0,2=400 So the rational decision would be to choose B because it has a higher value. But humans do not really decide rationally, emotions steer our decision more than we think. Scientist founded the field of behavioral game theory to better describe this phenomena. For a start people are put into different categories depending on if they are either risk-averse, risk-loving or risk-neutral. If you are interested in more, here is a good video that explains the basics. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Hr0K6K16PQs But these are all just models. You can learn, refine and create this mathematical models for a lifetime if you desire to do so. We can never completely model reality so there will always be uncertainty from a scientific POV. To answer your question. If you struggle with making decisions, look at your emotions. Learn to master them. Of course, a baseline cognitive ability to understand the consequences of your decisions is important. But most of the time their relevance will swindle compared to the importance of having the right feelings and emotions when going into these situations. We make dramatically different decisions if we are feeling angry or if we are coming from a place of scarcity. When we are more tranquil, at peace and coming from a place of abundance our decisions will tend to bring outcomes that resonate with this higher energy level. Even when faced with an unexpected/bad outcome, mastering your emotions will help deal with that as well. There is no need for making the best decision possible because you already have abundance. Even better, you learned something from that situation. Accept and move on (I know this can be hard sometimes). The best navigation tool for making decision I've found is Self-Love. A simple question you can ask yourself is "How would a person that loves themselves decide?". Our heart will intuitively show us the right way. If you havent already I'd highly recommend you watch Leos video on this topic.

Here are the 3 steps Id recommend for you Release you feeling of unworthiness. Try the Sedona Method, its very powerful. Maybe find a coach to help you. You will feel plenty of self-worth in no time, so much in fact that you will never need anything to feel worthy again. Mindset. You have a lot of negative believes regarding your abilities to accomplish something in life. Reread your post and you will see them. Those are bs. See how they are totally false and write down new beliefs along the lines of "I totally got this. Life is easy. I can do this". Wether they are true or not is not important. Important ist that they will become your reality as soon as you recognize them as truth. Action. Take action towards your goals. Dream big and see which steps need to be done. Get them done. Point 1 and 2 lay down the groundwork but you still need to do the work. Practice and work as much as you can. That way you will see how things move forwards, even if you fail some steps and need to redo them.

Only because you want him to be in a certain way doesnt mean that he has to change. Others who havent experienced non dual states may benefit more from him the way he is. And he didnt say that enlightenment is doing any good for you. You still need to live your life, pay bills etc. Can you accept that? He has a video about the percs, so you can decide yourself if you want to pursue it more.

Yesterday we headed out with a group to a nice cozy house were we all went to consume truffles for reasons like life purpose, healing or spiritual. I ate a 15mg dose and quickly puked it all out again. Idk why that happend. The rest of the group didnt. But it felt very good, like a cleanse. Somehow it felt like my body absorbed most of the psilocybin and got rid of the poisonous stuff. The setting was a really nice. There was a mattress floor and we were encouraged in the beginning to not talk and not leave the room. Most people stayed there lieing down the whole trip, sometimes a laughter, sometimes a cry. There was also a sober trip sitter. The setting is the most important thing. The following events could maybe have happened even without the psychedelic and just this setting. Wandering around there was a nicely quiet, cold room under the roof. The music in the matresss room was a bit too loud. Deconstructing reality. Focusing on consciousness. The visual field was obviously a distraction. Many thoughts arise but it was only a decision to engage with them or not. A big distraction, maybe the biggest. But letting them come and go was easy. Then focusing on the breath. A small distraction. All leading to nothing. The true Self. There was love or a thought or a smell. But no one to experience them. They were just there. When going back to the others the room just came again. There was no one who walked there. And it is all me. Playfully engaging with the people. Knowing they are my body and are trying to distract again. Lovingly. Staying in that lucid state - a decision. Communication became a bit weird when people where reffering to me, as if I was this identity. Obiously a lie. But maybe also because they went on their own journey. Thank you Leo. Because your logical explanations and concepts made this process easy.

You fear that you will lose either validation, protection or control. The sedona method can help you get these needs down to a minimum.

You are talking about internet communications. This is not like real life where you are talking to someone and they ignore you. I mean I try to be polite and answer everyone but sometimes it can happen that a message is lost or burried. The thing is, you are not loosing anything, nor is there anything to gain when people text you back. When you realize this you wont care anymore. And funnily thats when people will start to text you back haha. Practice Self-Love and meditation if you want to grow in this area.

I have a feeling this woman is not really asexual. I'd set some boundaries. Deal with her like if she were a child. Which she probably is.

Agree with Leo here, 2 girls cheating on you is not that great of a sample size. Not all relationships last until the end of life. So there is nothing out of the ordinary. If you dont want girls to cheat on you, date girls that are not as hot or not as much into sex. If they are there is always a higher chance but thats the name of the game. Also look for any signs before going in the relationship. Have they cheated before? Did they cheat with you on their ex? All signs that they will repeat it again.

What makes your life purpose feel complete is different for anyone. But Id say its when there is a vision and drive behind it. when you are in love with what you are doing and expressing yourself how you want to. That could be with enlightenment work, but could be any other thing. See how life purpose doesnt exclude people not being enlightened? If you have a life purpose you will feel fulfilled and driven, you will feel like life is on easy mode If you are enlightened you will be dead LP: Playing the game, Enlightenment: Stepping back, closing the game for a moment, realizing its a game.

I dont think sexting is a big deal. But I can see that your trust was hurt and maybe its not woth going forward.

Have you tried getting some tipps from friends or even a coach? You overall approach to this sounds good but it could be that you do some small things that irritate woman. Some advice from afar: Self-love. Do it. Feel it. You already have it. But maybe its not as much in your awareness. Assume that woman already like you and if not that they will like you if they let you spend more time with them. That is definitely not the case, as there are always some woman who wont like you or me or anyone for that matter. But it helps you to think this way as you will become automatically more charismatic.

@28 cm unbuffed Yes, I read it. All of it. And I might steal the hoodie idea haha. Why do you think you need to feel safe in order to be productive? Listen, Im not asking these questions so that you get stuck in a loop or sth. No, I want you to transcend and release your need for safety. This will really grow you. I know you just want me to give you some tipps and tricks to feel safe. But that wont help you, maybe you feel safe for a while but what if you forgot your hat or your hoodie got destroyed? What if some external circumstance makes you feel unsafe again? You will be at the same spot as you are right now. Or maybe even worse. So if you can learn to accept that you are in fact not guaranteed 100% safety from the universe it will change your life from now on forever. You wont even think about this anymore. It will become a non-issue. But the current you that needs safety will have to die for that to happen. Are you willing to let go of your old self?

Why limit to somebody? Try everything. Let the love drip from your fingertips and onto everything your eyes gaze at. Feel the love and connection to everything. Breath it.

Why do you need safety so much?

Two answers here How to deal with your emotions: Have you watched Leos video on emotions? I highly recommend them to you! So basically when you have this situations you come up with a story. And the more you engage with this story the stronger the emotion. For you to have this strong emotion you must think along the lines of "She was supposed to be with ME but now she is more interested in her boyfriend and my roommate! She thinks im not attractive! That means Im not attractive, no girl will ever like me. Blablabla..." This is an example of a situation that makes you feel angry. But its just your interpretation of it. Another equally valid interpretation could be "Great! She isnt attracted to me. That means Im free to date other girls that do like me for who I am and I can find a girl that I will have an even better time and better fit than if I would hang out/get into a relationship with this girl. Cool. The world is so great to be giving me this opportunity to learn from this experience and go on and find my dream partner!" See how the story you tell yourself in your head is changing how you feel about it? How to increase her chances with you: Have you told her/showed her that you are interested in her? This the first step to get things going between you two. If you havent already, do this as soon as possible. Dont expect her to be instantly whooshed away when you do this. Just state your intent or make a move. Then she can make a decision if she wants to go on with it or no. If she isnt interested, you see that this is not the end of the world right? Do you? Good. If she never engages with you from then on thats cool, you now have more time to spend somewhere else. Find other girls, there are plenty. And if she is interested you can go on and explore that route.

Im just saying what I feel about you but Im not sure if Im correct here. You seem to be very rational about this, which is ok and we men tend to face decisions that way. For your own wellbeing please consider the deep deep emotional states you could be going through depending on what the outcome of this will be. Im talking about the emotional states not for the next month or years, I mean for a lifetime. Let your choice be one made out of love, coming from your heart

@Nivsch You are on the right track. Step by step see what makes you whole and happy. I can tell you two things Ive found that dont make me happy and whole A relationship Transmitting to other people that you are whole and happy so that they find you attractive If you dont feel whole, there is a need in you. This need could be anything (e.g. I need a new iphone, I need a car, I need cool friends, I need a girl, I need sex, I need money, I need attention, I need people to like me etc.). But it will ultimately boil down to 3 needs: Validation Protecion Control Explore these needs in yourself. How do they feel? How do they manifest in you? Get a coach to help you transcend and release these needs. Or do it on your own if you think you do that. If you have done that everything will become so much easier and nicer for you. Im not saying that you just have to that! Some things are just basic needs. For example food and shelter. You can be very highly developed but still get thrown off track without enough food supply. Especially in the beginning when you are still mastering your emotions it will be helpful to get those basics covered. Get some sex, human interaction, money or whatever you crave, it will help you a lot! But keep working on your needs.

+1 Just want to add, that the talisman can not be programmed but must have a magic spell on it. To do that you would need to be a wizard as well. That concludes how you get any girl really. Become the guy they usually date.

not sure if you want me to look on your channel or you want to suggest that OP should just distance himself from manipulative people instead of going inside and see what makes him prone to manipulation in the first place.