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1. I mean come on. There are so many foundational videos on his channel he made over the last years. If I would have only recently became aware of his videos, the first thing I would do is watch all his previous videos. Asking him to repeat the same over and over is like telling an artist to only draw the same flower or make the same music. There are not so many people I know of that have earned their privilege to talk about these topics as much as Leo did. This is all answered in his video I get your point that this could be a disclaimer in every video but it would take time away from the new videos. Also there are like 30-40 videos he made that have an equal right to be shown as a disclaimer on new videos. It would be inconvenient to go over it time and time again... 2. When the fairy tale becomes real you know all this work has finally paid off. Also there is this saying "shooting for the moon" and so on.

Maybe you should actually watch actualized.org videos before you make these statements. I timestamped it for you.

While its nice to have a cushion to fall back on. Investing in your career is always a smart move. Because that way you will likely make more money instead of wasting it.

Youll figure it out. Its not exactly rocket science. For start: Long eye contact, touch her hands/arm/back, hugging. Its not the technique you need. Its more that you need to become confident with being in tension. This is a good start https://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=fearless+man+tension

If you dont turn it sexual, all your dates (however many) will go nowhere. You are the man. Learn how to lead. Also learn to connect with your body and emotions. Maybe you are too much in your head during your dates.

For me loneliness is an emotion. Sure you could say it is caused by being starved emotionally. The question then is how do you go about it? Do you go around and look and demand from people to emotionally engage with you? Or do you turn inwards and see what this emotion really is. Sit with the emotion and accept it. Not judging or trying to control it. Understanding where its coming from and what it has to say? Thats what Leo teaches. To turn inwards and master your emotions. Working on it until you get that internal change in your mindset. Not a quick fix but lasting changes to your being and identity.

Here are some alternatives: Start a business Do freelance work Work on your depression etc. maybe see a therapist Do networking, go to events, talk to people. This is how I got my last job. Just work and help wherever you can for free. Become friends with rich people Date rich people Marry rich people Look if there are programms you could enroll into that are designed for people like you Learn a new skill Go to school Go to university Travel Work & Travel Volunteer work Setup a profile and talk to an agency that is specialized in lending their workers to employers. Go to a retreat (vipassana is for free) Look for more answers on what you can do (Other forums, people, psychedelics) These are just a few that came to my mind. Also Id consider changing the coach if he doesnt give you the results you want.

Do you really need it? Can you think of 10 successful dancers who are not on social media? If its truly the case, you could just outsource it. Get a marketing agency to run your social media presence. Or if you want to go cheap ask a friend. Easy. No need to overthink this.

Do you want a job? Persistance is very important if you want to achieve anything in life. You have to stand up, fall again, learn and adapt. You can always give up, many do. Maybe job hunting isnt for you. What are the alternatives?

How is your situation now, did you stop thinking about ways to "improve your market value"? What did you do to overcome your fears that held your authentic self back?

Said every human on this planet ever. For real tho, I read a lot of my needs, my benefits, my purpose. Relax a bit. See the bigger picture. I believe that my life situation reflects what I want. Because otherwise I wouldnt be there right? So right now you dont have a relationship, you do work on your purpose and you think about if you need intimacy. So that is what you want. Now you can ask if you want to change anything. Maybe you are not happy with something or if you have a vision for something to be different in your life. How much time during the week do you work on your purpose? Even high performance workers still have time for family or relationships. Now Im not saying that you have to be the same. It could be good to work exclusively on your purpose. For a while... but its good to have some time off every once in a while. I think you also highly overestimate the time needed for a good relationship. Like I said in my previous post. You can become intimate with someone very quickly. Its your relationship. So you can create it the way you want. Only want to see your girl once every other week? Cool, there is a girl out there wanting the same. And some general advice. You dont need anything. You are already complete. There is no difference between inside and outside. Let go of needing to control who is influencing you. In the end its all you. Seperating yourself from the outside is a good way to self-actualize but if its causing problems you can dial it down a bit.

@LfcCharlie4 How are your results so far? I thought we got over the "fat is bad" mindset that the sugar industrie pushed in the last century

There is no right or wrong. No crazy or sane. There is only now. Look at how you feel. You are perfect the way you are right now. If you dont realize that, you will feel like you are going crazy when you are 20, 30, 40, 50, 60, 100 and anywhere in between.

My advice would be to get a relationship. Talk to girls yada yada yada. But also ask yourself what kind of "want" is that? Is this a deep wanting, a needing or just something that would be nice? See if this is really true. Look inside.

If you want intimacy, be intimate with yourself. Have a deep connection to yourself. Feel you emotions, be truthful to them. Be in your body. Intimacy is not something that is reserved for sexual relationships only. Watch a movie that makes you cry. Talk with your friends about topics that make you feel. There are many ways to become more intimate and loving with life. Intimacy doesnt need time. While it certainly helps to spend time with someone before you become intimate. You can get intimate with a stranger in under a minute of conversation. Also you can spend decades with someone and not be intimate with them at all. Also I would look into myself and see if that thought, that Im to busy for a relationship, maybe comes from a fear of getting rejected or something like that.

While it could be helpful, you really dont need a strong social network for dating. The yoga class seem like a good idea and also there is online dating which we all know works... sometimes.

Beautiful thread

You said that both jobs are not your purpose. Then you could decide on the one that has a higher payout or makes you more fulfilled and happy while saving up. I think as a programmer you have a chance of making way more money than at the post office. But as you have no work experience in that field it might take some time to land a job there. You could do both. Maybe work as a freelance programmer from home 10h/week and then 40h/week(?) at the post office. You could also try to talk to the post office to get your hours cut and work more on the software development side. If I was you Id look into ways to turn a profit on the consciousness retreat. So that I could concentrate on that 100%. But I can understand why you dont want to do that.

Very good that you realize all this fear and judgement when it comes up! This is already half the way. Try to get more clear on that. What was the traumatic event in the past and what did you already try to heal yourself from it? You dont need to answer here, just you have to be more specific about it yourself. When you have it, watch this video. He explains how to release the specific emotions that are stuck inside your body. Do the technique he explains over the next weeks. Over and over again. Go deeper anytime. You can do sessions of 1-2 hours a time if you get very good.

Cut them out of your life. Or you can do this advanced technique. Exploitation instead of judgement

You can build connection with people by talking about intimate topics. Here are two easy examples. "What has moved you recently?" and "What inspired you to do (something they do)?" Not difficult. The intention and vibe behind it is key. Also I found that having a strong connection to yourself helps. Then there is the topic of mastering emotions by feeling the loneliness in your body, not trying to control it. And being less judgemental about yourself/others. All this aside for a second, there is no point in spending your energy and time on vampires. Find better friends. People who make you laugh and whos company you enjoy. Trust your intuition. If you need help finding friends there are plenty of tips on the internet and here on the forum. Find meetup groups on topics you are interested in or just talk up random people wherever you are. What I also found is that private conversations (1v1) are better suited for deeper connection than being in larger groups.

Powerful edit! Where is the animation at 0:54 from?

That has literally nothing to do with male sexuality and all with being unconscious. Its a human trait. Not a male trait. Lyubov, its time to not give a fuck about whatever other people think of you and the way you want to live your life. If you want more intimacy in your life you dont need a LTR. You can open up to the store owner on the other side of the street. There are million ways to feel, share and spread love and intimacy. You are perfect the way you are, you are already love.

How long do you want to do this. Did you just decide now? The most important step is going to be to change your limiting beliefs around your business. Then it depends on the skill you need for your work. If you already got the skill (maybe because you worked in that field) you should look into marketing. Of course you need to know if its even a viable business idea. Maybe we can help you or you test it yourself. If you already have a financial safety net Id recommend you go all in on your business! For ressources I recommend this guy https://www.youtube.com/user/samovenstv he will take you by the hand and show you where you can optimize if you start to slack and what inner work you can do, to maximize your success. You dont need to do everything he says, hes a nerd lol. And listen to interviews with people who did the thing you want to do (i.e. your field of business your in).