universe

Wouldn't exactly call these meta-skills but Needy vs Non-Needy Perception Letting Go Gratefulness Acceptance Self-Love Awareness Taking Full Responsibility Being Peace of Mind

Thanks for your feedback. I would like to encourage you to reflect on this topic and discuss with others. It will help you to build a habit out of integrating your emotions and achieve real Growth fast! When I started, I searched everywhere for more information on emotions. YouTube has heaps of great videos on it! @Pernani Yes, when we are triggered it is an opportunity for us to work on what has been repressed in the past. It is a mix of automatic responses, repeating thought patterns and beliefs about ourselves and others. We make a sport out of pushing certain emotions away because we don't want to face them, feel them in our body and let them go. That is why I named this topic this way. Everyone has emotions in them that are waiting to be integrated and felt. The painful childhood emotions come from our parents and the society we grow up in. Every generation hands down their repressed emotions from one to the other. Also, we create new emotional triggers with how we live our lives. Emotions are a navigation system and depending on how much we are in alignment with reality, there will be more or less new triggers coming up. When you do the practices and work on your emotions. The more you let go and feel, the more triggers will reveal themselves to you. Along with that, you will find that you have less and less ability to create new ones. Everything is there by design, for you to see through ❤️

Maybe this one https://www.actualized.org/insights/derrida-and-nonduality

Accepting yourself doesn't mean that there is nothing you still want to do and experience in life. Acceptance doesn't mean there is no change. Acceptance oftentimes accelerates change. Sprinkle in some Self-Love for good measure ❤️

Please keep this thread clean and stay on topic. I removed a bunch of comments.

Don't resist the pain. Accept it. If you can accept it, it will go away. If you need help with this, I recommend the Sedona Method. Also notice how you bias your future on your own thinking right now. You could reincarnate as a cow. But isn't it also likely to reincarnate as a tree, as a stone or let's say as a table? Everything is consciousness. Maybe a rock on mars. Or a rock on a planet a million light-years away from earth? Or maybe, other places and times only exist in your head and aren't actually real? However you think about, it's just a story. You can make this story one way or the other. Positive and negative are both illusions. So knock yourself out. The only thing that matters is now. You choose ❤️

Why not? Really there is no other way. You said it felt like you are becoming sane. It's the process of letting go of your storyteller-self. You have nothing to lose. And trust me, that guy will be coming back no matter what Now, if you would have taken some psychedelics then it can be a good idea to have someone with you. But from meditation. I would say you can take some fear ❤️

@Karmadhi Woman don't want emotional intimacy. They want everything! So if you can't bring yourself to be more of an emotional guy.... ok. Not ideal, but you can find things that are more fitting for you: Be the social guy, the famous guy, the hard working guy, the handy guy, the cute guy, the dominant guy, the confident guy, the adventurous guy, the family guy, the dangerous guy, the chill guy, the funny guy, the loving guy, the bad guy, the unreactive guy, the authentic guy, the detached guy, the helping guy, the cool guy, the flow guy, the mystical guy, the party guy, the strong guy, the sports guy, the leader guy, the sophisticated guy, the friendly guy, the flirty guy or the spiritual guy. There are many more. Anyways, combine whatever you like and go for it! ❤️

You don't invest without income. You can basically break down financial independence into this: earn more / spend less (on expenses) / spend more (on assets). How you go about achieving this is up to you. It depends highly on what you want to do in your life and where you are right now. How old are you? What are your skills? What are your passions/interests? What is your living situation? Do you have debt?

It's a very broad field and extremely beneficial to get into. Some topics that come to mind: Being aware of how thought, belief and story shape your emotions, releasing emotions (e.g. Sedona Method) and learning about different emotional states and stages. Your level of consciousness is directly reflected by your emotions. Still waiting for Leo's "Understanding Emotions Part II"

By no one

Can you be happy with an average car? Can you be happy with an average meal? Relationships don't make you happy. Happiness is an emotional state that comes and goes. Instead of trying to find happiness somewhere outside, connect with the happiness that is inside of you. ❤️

Infinity is not to be mapped. ❤️

Interesting, I can see why you felt that way. For me I didnt had this intuition on psychedelics. It was when I was around 8 years old. Felt really intense and deep. I can still remember it. It was like a deep electric scariness. Appealing.

I know that intuition. How did it make you feel in that moment?

I think it is a distraction.

There are many ways to be motivated. Intrinsic motivation Extrinsic motivation Introjected motivation Identified motivation Positive motivation Negative motivation etc. Negative motivation definitely has it's use. It can be very strong. But if you think that your motivation is not long enough, that could be a result of negative motivation. Because by design once you reach a certain point it will go away. Also it sounds like you are forcing things too much. This usually happens when we have a strong desire or need to do something. You have to be careful here because it can become draining really fast. The best results you will get with flow. When you can enjoy the process. Instead of forcing things you let them arise while being in your power. To get to that maybe requires to look a little deeper. Are you normally running away from things in your life? Maybe you are running from yourself. Learn to stop and just be. When you are more grounded in being you will feel the power running through you. "Force is incomplete and therefore has to be fed energy constantly. Power is total and complete in itself and requires nothing from the outside. It makes no demands; it has no needs. Because force has an insatiable appetite, it constantly consumes. Power, in contrast, energizes, gives forth, supplies and supports." David Hawkins Also it's per se, not per say. ❤️

As someone who never had a problem with weight, the best way to go about it is to first not have a problem with it. May sound counterintuitive but what you focus on will expand. So if you constantly think about how to loose weight and control your hunger - this whole food thing will take up more and more space in your life. Just do something else instead. Don't fret over gaining or loosing weight. Then if you experience cravings either wait until its meal time (endure the cravings) or if you don't want to endure them have healthy snacks nearby. Maybe rice waffles to make you feel full. Also what you could do is to just skip breakfast. In the morning we usually are not too hungry. Check if that works for you.

Courage is an emotion. Or better an emotional state. Same as apathy, anger, pride, fear etc. You can value it but as all emotional states it will come and go. If you want to feel more courage you can let go of the other emotions and focus on courage. This video explains it in more detail.

If you don't trust them you should probably not sleep with them. Also use condoms.

You are making a big thing out of it. Which is understandable in your situation but won't help you and probably make you more stressed as you need to be. Ask yourself: What are you afraid of? Spend more time with the girl. More time getting comfortable with each other. Long foreplay. So that you can relax more. Also doing the exercise in this video might be helpful.

To maybe answer this for yourself

I also struggle with feeling worthy sometimes. The trick is that there is no such thing as being worthy or unworthy. Just do whatever you want to do, talk to a girl or enter into a relationship and don't give a fuck about whether you are worthy or not. Stop caring about it and see how it goes. I will report back.

There is a difference between wanting and needing something. Wanting something or not wanting something is how you make decisions in your life. In terms of dating you maybe want to get to know or you want to spend time with someone. These are your preferences and they form your character. If you have a healthy self-esteem you go for what you want. It can be interesting and fun to explore what you or what others want. Needing something is different in that a need makes you feel that your life depends on getting what you need. You may not think you will die when you don't get what you need but it can feel like it. There is a strong fear involved in it. Like somehow you will be less without it. If you don't get your needs met you suffer. That is why you will go to great lengths to get your needs met. And you are prone to make unhealthy decisions along the way because you become desperate trying to fill your needs. When your need is very strong you can say it's like an addiction. You are afraid to not get what you think you need. For dating as well as for the self-actualization path it's extremely beneficial (almost inevitable) to first acknowledge your needs and then work on them. You will accumulate many thousands of different needs as you grow older. Most of them can be broken down into a few basic needs. According to the Sedona Method there are 5 basic human needs (I find this list super helpful): Need for approval/validation Need for security Need for control Need for seperation Need for oneness Whether you notice it or not. These needs will shape your behaviour in some way or another. What will happen is that these needs start to creep into all different aspects of your life. Some may where you would never expect them. And they are fluid. Say for example you think you need this woman/man in your life. Maybe behind that need is the need for security. But it can also likely be the case that there are several needs behind that specific need. The first important step is to understand you are acting from a place of need. Consider the classic example of the "nice guy" who tries to make it right for everyone and completely dismisses his own desires or feelings. At the core of this behaviour is a need for validation. He is so afraid that people won't like him that he does everything to make them happy. The big crux now is that people will intuitively notice whenever you need validation from them. And because you act out of fear for being rejected or disliked you cannot really be authentic. This will drive people away from you and actually make them dislike you. The only people that stay are those that are desperately needing validation themselves, so that they don't care wether you are authentic or not. But these people also don't like you because they only care to get their needs met. Of course this is a bit of a simplification, as I said these needs are fluid and there are many different factors at play here. But overall, talking and getting to know more and more people will not help you unless you identify the need behind your behaviour and work on that. That is the reason why we get stuck and end up in the same situations which seem to repeat themselves over and over again. In the end you have to realize that nothing in this world can bring you what you need. You will never get the validation or security that you need and you are never in control. If you chase any of these needs in the outside they will only grow more and more. It's a bottomless pit. It never ends. Instead, feel the needs within you and let them go. One by one. Break out of the vicious circle and just be. That's how you can transcend them. You can really just be. Instead of fearing about having your needs met, enjoy the abundance that is already within you. ❤️