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Perfectionism most often comes from a need for control. Let go of that need to be in control. Start here: Have fun on the path! ❤️ Also some videos for you Actualized.org - How To Stop Judging Yourself Actualized.org - The Power Of Letting Go - How To Overcome Clinginess, Attachment, OCD Actualized.org - Understanding Resistance

It's time you take a big fucking step back and look at your whole situation. Take a deep breath... Inhale, breath out. See the content vs the structure. The whole money situation is the content. But it is an illusion. You might become rich, you might become poor, maybe some day you buy an elephant, whatever.... content changes. You, the awareness, the one experiencing it all, never changes. Notice that. It's ok to feel like you are exploiting your family. Go into that feeling and bask in it however long you want. You have my permission. Now, it is also ok to let your family help you out and give you money. Stop being so judgemental to yourself. The point is, either way you can feel happy and joyful. You can feel good all the time. Whenever you encounter a feeling that you can not enjoy, you could stop and ask yourself "where am I being delusional right now?". ❤️

Perfect. So you take things into your own hands. What have you done so far? Don't wait for anyone outside to bring love into your life. It can only come from within. If you ask yourself "why is no one falling in love with me", You can also ask "why am I not falling in love with anyone". Tune into love frequency to find others with the same energy. ❤️

Consider if it is really helpful for you to see yourself as a victim here. To go into that mentality, nourishing thoughts about how all these factors (covid, your city, even your looks) are hindering you to live your life the way you want. Making you waste your life. And if it is not helpful, where do these beliefs come from and would it be a good idea to continue with em?

Very good progress! One tip for the approach. You want to get her full attention! The best way is when she is moving away from you, you walk beside her, then go a little forward, turn around and THEN start talking to her. If you continue walking (you can also stop) you stay a bit ahead and lead her.

I'm not sure with this function. It can be nice sometimes but also encourages you to skip forwards. My guess is he doesn't think it's beneficial to the main channel and also takes too much time to make.

The second convo could have been a lame joke. Or she was just looking for an excsuse to leave. Without knowing the context and the whole conversation it is impossible for us to know. You are doing good! Just continue to get the exercise in! Check your intentions with each joke. Was it to make her laugh or could it be that you wanted to prove yourself to her?

Have you asked yourself why you want these things?

Finding your Life Purpose. Honestly, after you have done this everything else falls into place... You are now playing life on "easy". Having a Life Purpose to me is the Ultimate Shiny Object you can attain. Once you start to align yourself with your potential you will have it easier to start to fall in love with reality. Then you are on your path for Love and grounding yourself in reality. ❤️

Why should it be wrong to do daily exercises? You can also do the simple technique from the "What is love" video. Meditation in general is useful. Basically, there is no one way to do it. These are some solid starts. ❤️

Yes, accept that. And then transcend it. Accepting our biases for safety and control and then move on. We are not flawed, in the same way a child is not flawed for wanting a night light because it is afraid of the darkness.

I don't know if the paranoia is coming from the show. The whole thread is kinda paranoid. You try to prevent going down a spiral of watching endless TV etc. The thing is you can escape the work you have to do in order for real Growth to happen by many means. People do it everywhere, of course while watching TV. But also by going to university, by watching actualized.org videos, by being on this forum, by going to retreats, by working on their business. You can not have enough eyes to see where the next distraction will come from. It's normal, don't worry. The key is to never loose sight of your vision. Your inspirations, your dreams. It is ok to get sidetracked, being fascinated by the delightful panorama... Don't fight it. Just come back to the thing that is most important to you.

As you said, it is the perfect "tool". There are many perfect tools for specific outcomes. Machine guns, drugs, pencils, screwdrivers or guitars. A tool is just a means to get something done. Don't blame the tool. A computer can be used in a way for Growth or to get more and more sedated. You decide.

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How can polygamy which can be both polygyny and polyandry be abusive to only women? Sounds shady.

Do you know where this fear is coming from? It could be that you find the task to be too difficult and you might think you don't know how to do it. What helps is to break bigger tasks down into smaller ones. Instead of cleaning the room you move this pencil and then these papers. Instead of paying your bills you find one bill to pay and then pay it. Instead of building a business you make this one thing to help others and then tell them about it. Once you already start taking action it can be harder to stop than to just continue to go with it.

There is no right or wrong path. And you have a good timing to be on your purpose at age 24. You could even do it later. There is plenty of time to build your skills and actualize while doing a job that pays the bills. What are you afraid of?

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Growing by a conscious/energetic shift is the practical, rational and logical approach. The question now is, how do you get the conscious/energetic shift?

Best case you find a new passion and worst case you could learn a valuable skill. Why would you not take that chance.

This is a very broad question. Without knowing what exactly you want to learn there are many "role models" with stage orange values. The Kardashians, Puff Daddy, University Professors, Conor McGregor, Graham Stephan. Also keep in mind that people don't just operate from one stage only. So you can not just name people and take all they say as stage blue or stage orange thinking.

I'd say go for it. Do you know why you could have that intuition to do it?

Totally normal. But do you think anyone who has mastered this would care? So what distinguishes you right now vs you who has mastered it?

This show is one of the best shit you can find out there. Don't want to pick sides tho. You do you

You can let go of the need for approval. Give yourself all the approval you want. Or just realize you don't need approval.