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Because most people take the easy route. Follow a path that others have laid out for them. And they value security above many other things. And they take whatever their reality is right now for granted, they don't want to change anything. Even though they might dream about living a more joyful and fulfilling life they hold other beliefs like "success is hard", "I can't do that", "other people are just lucky", "I can not change it". It's this getting used to it. Getting used to the horrible 8hr office job. Getting used to the abusive partner. Getting used to feeling depressed in school. Getting used to riding a broken bike. It slowly starts to not only become a thing they are used to. It's start to find it's way into their personality, their whole identity shifts. For change to happen there needs to be a shift in perspective, a shift in identity, a shift in action, a different choice. If you want to experience this shift in your life I would suggest you do what @Nahm layed out for you here freely and take the Life Purpse Course.

What is in your direct experience right now? Great post! Just wanted to clear this one up. Spiral Dynamics is not Leos idea. The term was trademarked by the National Values Center, Inc. You can find more about it here https://spiraldynamics.org/

You are on the right track! Just have fun. Have the overall assumption that whatever you say is smooth/good. I would take most of these as a strong indicator that the girl is interested.

Love is nothing you decide logically, listen to your heart. ❤️

Maybe this video will help you (was posted here some time ago) Dr. Nun S. Amen Ra

Oh, wait until you find out that you are the only one in all of this. That is when the pointlessness really hits

Perfectionism most often comes from a need for control. Let go of that need to be in control. Start here: Have fun on the path! ❤️ Also some videos for you Actualized.org - How To Stop Judging Yourself Actualized.org - The Power Of Letting Go - How To Overcome Clinginess, Attachment, OCD Actualized.org - Understanding Resistance

It's time you take a big fucking step back and look at your whole situation. Take a deep breath... Inhale, breath out. See the content vs the structure. The whole money situation is the content. But it is an illusion. You might become rich, you might become poor, maybe some day you buy an elephant, whatever.... content changes. You, the awareness, the one experiencing it all, never changes. Notice that. It's ok to feel like you are exploiting your family. Go into that feeling and bask in it however long you want. You have my permission. Now, it is also ok to let your family help you out and give you money. Stop being so judgemental to yourself. The point is, either way you can feel happy and joyful. You can feel good all the time. Whenever you encounter a feeling that you can not enjoy, you could stop and ask yourself "where am I being delusional right now?". ❤️

Perfect. So you take things into your own hands. What have you done so far? Don't wait for anyone outside to bring love into your life. It can only come from within. If you ask yourself "why is no one falling in love with me", You can also ask "why am I not falling in love with anyone". Tune into love frequency to find others with the same energy. ❤️

Consider if it is really helpful for you to see yourself as a victim here. To go into that mentality, nourishing thoughts about how all these factors (covid, your city, even your looks) are hindering you to live your life the way you want. Making you waste your life. And if it is not helpful, where do these beliefs come from and would it be a good idea to continue with em?

Very good progress! One tip for the approach. You want to get her full attention! The best way is when she is moving away from you, you walk beside her, then go a little forward, turn around and THEN start talking to her. If you continue walking (you can also stop) you stay a bit ahead and lead her.

I'm not sure with this function. It can be nice sometimes but also encourages you to skip forwards. My guess is he doesn't think it's beneficial to the main channel and also takes too much time to make.

The second convo could have been a lame joke. Or she was just looking for an excsuse to leave. Without knowing the context and the whole conversation it is impossible for us to know. You are doing good! Just continue to get the exercise in! Check your intentions with each joke. Was it to make her laugh or could it be that you wanted to prove yourself to her?

Have you asked yourself why you want these things?

Finding your Life Purpose. Honestly, after you have done this everything else falls into place... You are now playing life on "easy". Having a Life Purpose to me is the Ultimate Shiny Object you can attain. Once you start to align yourself with your potential you will have it easier to start to fall in love with reality. Then you are on your path for Love and grounding yourself in reality. ❤️

Why should it be wrong to do daily exercises? You can also do the simple technique from the "What is love" video. Meditation in general is useful. Basically, there is no one way to do it. These are some solid starts. ❤️

Yes, accept that. And then transcend it. Accepting our biases for safety and control and then move on. We are not flawed, in the same way a child is not flawed for wanting a night light because it is afraid of the darkness.

I don't know if the paranoia is coming from the show. The whole thread is kinda paranoid. You try to prevent going down a spiral of watching endless TV etc. The thing is you can escape the work you have to do in order for real Growth to happen by many means. People do it everywhere, of course while watching TV. But also by going to university, by watching actualized.org videos, by being on this forum, by going to retreats, by working on their business. You can not have enough eyes to see where the next distraction will come from. It's normal, don't worry. The key is to never loose sight of your vision. Your inspirations, your dreams. It is ok to get sidetracked, being fascinated by the delightful panorama... Don't fight it. Just come back to the thing that is most important to you.

As you said, it is the perfect "tool". There are many perfect tools for specific outcomes. Machine guns, drugs, pencils, screwdrivers or guitars. A tool is just a means to get something done. Don't blame the tool. A computer can be used in a way for Growth or to get more and more sedated. You decide.

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How can polygamy which can be both polygyny and polyandry be abusive to only women? Sounds shady.

Do you know where this fear is coming from? It could be that you find the task to be too difficult and you might think you don't know how to do it. What helps is to break bigger tasks down into smaller ones. Instead of cleaning the room you move this pencil and then these papers. Instead of paying your bills you find one bill to pay and then pay it. Instead of building a business you make this one thing to help others and then tell them about it. Once you already start taking action it can be harder to stop than to just continue to go with it.

There is no right or wrong path. And you have a good timing to be on your purpose at age 24. You could even do it later. There is plenty of time to build your skills and actualize while doing a job that pays the bills. What are you afraid of?

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Growing by a conscious/energetic shift is the practical, rational and logical approach. The question now is, how do you get the conscious/energetic shift?