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I think it would be helpful to first define what you mean by love.

I don't know in which world you live in. I haven't experienced what you describe happening to our society. Men don't hurt women in relationships. Women are not victims. There are collective issues that we work through together in society (like slavery, equal rights and abusive relationships) but they get passed down from our parents not from the opposite sex.

You gotta learn what girls are really attracted to. It's a game. Spirituality might help you in some aspects with game but you still have to go through the motions and start playing.

Illusion. Believing that you lack Love, that there is not unlimited Love and lack of Self-Love. Being closed off from love and acceptance from others. Maybe not seeking out for it because of fear of rejection. Believing stories about yourself that you are not "worth". ❤️

You could be having commitment phobia. It's quite common. It comes from a difficult relationship with your parents. Where you parents either gave you too much love (too much protection, not allowing you to explore the world on your own) or too little love (not enough acceptance and love that a child needs). Now because of this difficult relationship with your parents you think all relationships are like that. Because you think the burden of making a relationship work is entirely on your side you feel like you are not good enough or scared that you have to give up too much freedom. It might makes sense to hire a psychologist to work with you through that. In general what you will need to do is to learn Emotional Mastery (thus releasing your needs for acceptance/love, oneness and seperateness) and to practice Self-Love (giving yourself everything you want to have from others). //Notice your girlfriend very likely has commitment phobia as well but is the passive part of it.

After she brought up the topic of porn and giving you the pitch for her profile all sex talk is fine. But why do that exactly after she told you, you are not her type. The timing is a bit off.

Do whatever feels right to you. Dating can be distracting but having a date or two per week doesn't hurt you. I would focus on making music and in the times where I need to replenish my energy, I would mix in some dating. ❤️

Hm.. do you like being around your girlfriend, do you love her? It's very hard to give advice without knowing you two. Maybe you are not comfortable with tension. And you want to make everone feel good and like you all the time. This is what prevents you from setting proper boundaries and is a typical nice guy syndrome. I would also encourage you to learn Emotional Mastery. It is a long term process but it has been worth it a thousandfold for me. Watch all of Leo's Video on Emotions and if you are not sure where to start read this post about Integrating Emotions.

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There are a gazillion ways your growth could be stunted. At least your mind would come up with them if you think hard enough about it. On the other hand you could put your mind to work to look for more opportunities to be resourceful and create something beautiful. Which one sounds better to you?

Can you clarify which force you mean? This is all very dualistic. Thinking in opposites etc. in a sense the thing you are looking for is dualism itself. The ultimate enemy is you.

Is that really true? I wouldn’t focus on what I need in the future. Instead focus on what you can give in the future.

Make it a game. Try to not say anything sexual at all while still conveying to her that you are thinking about that. Just have normal fun conversations. And stop with these dating apps. We are post covid and people enjoy the weather outside. No excuses!

I would ask myself why I want to invest. Do you want to have a passive income because you fear working in a boring 9-5 for the rest of you life otherwise? Do you feel like you need to up your income and if yes, for what? Are you afraid to spend money because you think you might not get it back?

Death = Letting go of all attachments = Love ❤️

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Perfect. Now you know, sex doesn't fullfill you, money doesn't fullfill you, power doesn't fullfill you. It's all an illusion. On the other hand, don't expect to be a master after the first time. It's like with cooking. Maybe your first time the food won't blow you away. That doesn't mean you can't still improve over time and cook something really nice. You might got disappointed because you have been only eating at that nice italian restaurant down the block. And you expected something which tastes better than theirs. But it's not solely about the taste, it's about getting creative cooking and having fun while doing it.

You learned a good lesson here. The salary has not as much to do with your skills as it has to do with your perceived value and the need for your skills right now. That being said of course your skills also matter. So I would do whatever improves my skills the most and continue looking for opportunities along the way. Working at the same place for 50 years usually doesn't get rewared much.

Enough.

Or they wear these white armbands so they do not get killed, raped or tortured by invading soldiers in front of their dying mothers when they have to go out in an area occupied by military soldiers during war. Would you do that if you had to go out to get food or in order to help your family or neighbours?

For you and many others. Thats why many people cheat, re-marry or live the polygamic blues. As to why the one-partner-structure is so prevalent. Try to tell the average guy you will be fucking others. Chances are his ego can't take it. Tell the average girl you will fuck other girls. Chances are her ego can't take it. That's it. The rest religion holding peoples hands for them not to inbreed and fall back into savageness tradition sprinkling down from parents love stories in all forms of art, music, peoms, movies and so on forming deeper bonds and having more time for each other conformity holding jelousy as a true pillar of love Also play a role but the nr.1 role is insecurities. Why do you want multiple partners tho?

Sounds like you are in a tough place and there is a really big problem. Not sure if you will ever get out of this. It gets easier the more you (me) see how you are also all the people who constructed this system and keeping it alive. How you (me) created all of this because we (you) actually wanted it. And then start to enjoy it. Start to love it. ❤️

I would hesitate to recommend them to everyone to improve in these areas of their lifes. Because we are all unique characters with different sets of experiences, DNA, resilience and whatever. But in general. Yeah they can be very valuable. Just make sure to balance it out and work on all pillars.

It's the same as finding like-minded people. Real life is a good start. Go to retreats, yoga classes or other events like this. What do you want from dating? In the end you are only trying to fall in love with an illusion. The more you practice Self-Love the easier it will be for you to love everything. If you developed kind of a resentment to classic orange, blue can be a refreshing change. ?

No it's fine. As you said, it is only fun and you don't have the intention to cheat. This comes down to respect, truly loving her and how good she can handle it.