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Are you happy in your relationship? If not maybe it's time to end it and just be friends. To go one step deeper. People will often treat us how we treat ourselves. So if you want to change something that is a place to look into as well.

As a 29 year old you should not have any trouble supporting yourself. Either commit 100% to your LP or get a job and do it on the side, both could work. Do you really want to change is the question.

No it's not. Just as much as the desire to stay in a closed relationship isn't as well. There is a difference between wanting to sleep around and needing to sleep around. Or wanting to stay together with a person and needing to stay together for that matter. Behind your desire to be single is there also fear about being in a commited relationship?

What you want is Emotional Mastery. Having said that, fluctutating states are normal. Everyone can be great with an optimal state, it's how good you can stick with it even in a bad mood that's key. But don't be too hard on yourself. It's possible the girl you are talking to is just not a good match.

If you want to actualize yourself get out and get your dream partner. Everything else is overanalizing. The emotional heartbreaks (if you encounter them) are not to be avoided but to be felt through. When do you think you will achieve Growth? By sitting in your room armchair philosophying about dating or by going through all the ups and downs of life. Experiencing deep connection, sadness, loss, joy and terrible heartbreak? This is a very foundational concept Leo explains in this video.

I think it would be helpful to first define what you mean by love.

I don't know in which world you live in. I haven't experienced what you describe happening to our society. Men don't hurt women in relationships. Women are not victims. There are collective issues that we work through together in society (like slavery, equal rights and abusive relationships) but they get passed down from our parents not from the opposite sex.

You gotta learn what girls are really attracted to. It's a game. Spirituality might help you in some aspects with game but you still have to go through the motions and start playing.

Illusion. Believing that you lack Love, that there is not unlimited Love and lack of Self-Love. Being closed off from love and acceptance from others. Maybe not seeking out for it because of fear of rejection. Believing stories about yourself that you are not "worth". ❤️

You could be having commitment phobia. It's quite common. It comes from a difficult relationship with your parents. Where you parents either gave you too much love (too much protection, not allowing you to explore the world on your own) or too little love (not enough acceptance and love that a child needs). Now because of this difficult relationship with your parents you think all relationships are like that. Because you think the burden of making a relationship work is entirely on your side you feel like you are not good enough or scared that you have to give up too much freedom. It might makes sense to hire a psychologist to work with you through that. In general what you will need to do is to learn Emotional Mastery (thus releasing your needs for acceptance/love, oneness and seperateness) and to practice Self-Love (giving yourself everything you want to have from others). //Notice your girlfriend very likely has commitment phobia as well but is the passive part of it.

After she brought up the topic of porn and giving you the pitch for her profile all sex talk is fine. But why do that exactly after she told you, you are not her type. The timing is a bit off.

Do whatever feels right to you. Dating can be distracting but having a date or two per week doesn't hurt you. I would focus on making music and in the times where I need to replenish my energy, I would mix in some dating. ❤️

Hm.. do you like being around your girlfriend, do you love her? It's very hard to give advice without knowing you two. Maybe you are not comfortable with tension. And you want to make everone feel good and like you all the time. This is what prevents you from setting proper boundaries and is a typical nice guy syndrome. I would also encourage you to learn Emotional Mastery. It is a long term process but it has been worth it a thousandfold for me. Watch all of Leo's Video on Emotions and if you are not sure where to start read this post about Integrating Emotions.

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There are a gazillion ways your growth could be stunted. At least your mind would come up with them if you think hard enough about it. On the other hand you could put your mind to work to look for more opportunities to be resourceful and create something beautiful. Which one sounds better to you?

Can you clarify which force you mean? This is all very dualistic. Thinking in opposites etc. in a sense the thing you are looking for is dualism itself. The ultimate enemy is you.

Is that really true? I wouldn’t focus on what I need in the future. Instead focus on what you can give in the future.

Make it a game. Try to not say anything sexual at all while still conveying to her that you are thinking about that. Just have normal fun conversations. And stop with these dating apps. We are post covid and people enjoy the weather outside. No excuses!

I would ask myself why I want to invest. Do you want to have a passive income because you fear working in a boring 9-5 for the rest of you life otherwise? Do you feel like you need to up your income and if yes, for what? Are you afraid to spend money because you think you might not get it back?

Death = Letting go of all attachments = Love ❤️

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Perfect. Now you know, sex doesn't fullfill you, money doesn't fullfill you, power doesn't fullfill you. It's all an illusion. On the other hand, don't expect to be a master after the first time. It's like with cooking. Maybe your first time the food won't blow you away. That doesn't mean you can't still improve over time and cook something really nice. You might got disappointed because you have been only eating at that nice italian restaurant down the block. And you expected something which tastes better than theirs. But it's not solely about the taste, it's about getting creative cooking and having fun while doing it.

You learned a good lesson here. The salary has not as much to do with your skills as it has to do with your perceived value and the need for your skills right now. That being said of course your skills also matter. So I would do whatever improves my skills the most and continue looking for opportunities along the way. Working at the same place for 50 years usually doesn't get rewared much.

Enough.