Key Elements

Nice one. How about... "A person who has walked through the deepest hell and became it will think that earth is heaven and life is the most precious gift."

How do you become Absolute Infinity (no-self) after your real death? (If you have an answer to this, explain the path.)

@MarkusSweden I understand what you're trying to say here, but like I said before in another thread, you really need to get a move on with your life purpose if you want to fight this with peace on a large scale. It goes something like this: discovery of life purpose while working in career ---> entrepreneurship ---> philanthropist ---> sage/guru/saint/etc. Once you've reached the later stages, you'll know what to do because you have discovered and developed yourself to that level. Don't think of yourself as part of a "race" or "religion." Don't think like the masses. That's not part of enlightenment. Ultimately, we are one and race and religion are duality/ego/delusion. If massive violence does happen, it will be easier for you to escape it if you have developed yourself. Then, you could think of what to do next to help on a large scale.

@Leo Gura Note: I like our discussion here.

Ok! I like this part, especially what you said about person A and person B. I have mentioned the person B type here. However, you talked about karma in your video and your blog. https://actualized.org/insights/understanding-karma And, that life is a school and everything is interconnected. You said that somewhere in your blog. That means, you can't just accept the fact that your leg is being sawed off and then you are happy and fulfilled, and you'll become no-self after you die, and you think that's how it works. Nope. The chances are higher to get closer to the no-self (after death) if you start to learn all your lessons in life. There has been reports of ppl experiencing hell phenomenon of some kind (a dimension of it) after a suicide attempt. They took it as they have not lived their life to the fullest.

Yes, I understand all that -- non-duality is duality. See, I call duality phenomenon. I'm talking about when non-duality engulfs duality; then there would be no more ego to experience. You become no-self, peace, end of suffering.

Not so sure if the first example is correct, Leo. Infinity doesn't have ego. It's not embodied like we are now. How can it? You become everything. Hellish experiences like that involves ego hurting another ego in insane ways. It's the ego not wanting to die and become one with everything. I'm sure you have seen and heard of stories of hell phenomenon where a devil chops off someone's head and the body still suffers since it refuses to die. Infinity isn't like that. There is no ego -- end of suffering.

@Leo Gura Many ppl don't know what the term "rat race" means.

If you truly want to meet someone special, just start working on yourself, have a life purpose, and know your values. I know a couple who is married well over 20 yrs., 2 kids. They met at work. Got to know each other before the dating and romance started. So they knew each other well before they got together as a couple. Imho, these dating sites don't really tell you about the other person.

@Elisabeth I'm learning something when I read your post. Great post, btw. And, that is resistance. That is probably the thing right now that has to be slowly introduced into my awareness. See, I know what's my next step, and I slowly have to take action on it, and find out to see how it goes for me. I should not think too far into the future. My next step, baby step, is just to make a video of myself on my new phone camera. That's it. It doesn't matter if I make mistakes. I could always learn from them. But, I find myself doing other things during the day and not getting to this -- resistance. Ok, our days are busy. We do other stuff. So, I just played around with it. And, slowly but gradually I'll learn how to use it and post it on my website. You could use the same idea to take your next baby step gradually. So, in other words, if I was getting my PhD, and feel reluctant and resistance to do so because I find it not my cup of tea anymore, then, I suppose my next baby step would be making a few phone calls to ppl I know or looking online for opportunities for a job I'm qualified for or interested in. Do I really want to be Dr. Elisabeth? I would ask myself. Am I trying to prove myself to anyone? Probably not. I used to want a PhD when I was growing up. For me, the life purpose is what I really want. I try to make room for that.

@egoless We had a discussion here. Try to just start solving problems and you'll get paid for it. Don't even think of the money and being paid. Just try to do something useful, like finding a job if you need to survive on your own. But, start something useful for solving problems. You got to take some actions and learn from the mistakes and keep going.

By profession I'm a bilingual teacher. I didn't learn teaching through books. I picked it up through practice. The thing that helped me before I taught in a classroom was a public speaking class in my university. When I joined networking, I saw a lot of startups (businesses looking for funding) pitching (business term for public speaking).

You're welcome.

No I'm not. You could still post. I just wanted you to get authentic, honest, good answers. And, of course, take actions on those answers. For your urges, you could try asking ppl on the forum about NoFap. Here is the NoFap thread.

@Hardkill Ok... I am not going to sugar-coat this anymore, ok? Let me be honest here. If we can't be honest, we can't arrive at any good conclusions for you. According to your past posts and threads, to sum it up, this is what you said to us of who you are: -You are suffering from Asperger's. -You are looking for a hot girl. According to your posts, the hot girl doesn't have Asperger's. And, you want a short term relationship with her or casual sex. -You are 30 yrs old and still depend on your parents. Listen, I'm only saying this to wish you the best, but you really have work on yourself. Because it looks like you're setting yourself too high of a standard. You really got to be looking in these areas: job, career, life purpose, and being honest with your mom, if that helps. Have you watched Leo's video on Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs and understand it fully? I mean fully? You also got to learn how to accept rejection and learn from it without getting emotional.

As long as there is great communication that includes honesty, acceptance, and being non-quitters, there is no stopping the couple from being together in a lasting relationship. It will not matter what type of couple you are. What Leo is saying here is a basis for an interdependent relationship:

Yes, that's correct. If Maslow is referring to sex as a need, that is only a need to reproduce the human species.

@SFRL I did not say that. Read it again. I said that understanding the opposite gender is in the higher tier. I'm not just talking about sex. Read carefully and stop talking about mods. You are assuming what I said and going way off topic.

#1. I can't tell you what you can and cannot do. No one can. You got to figure it out for yourself. What I said in my post is only a tip of what I noticed according to what you said. #2. I doubt cold approach is going to be outlawed in the US. That's too extreme. But, be careful when you cold approach because a lot of women don't like it.

Did you watch Leo's video on Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs? This is what happens when your more basic needs are completely ignored. In your case they are: job, career, and life purpose. And then, you want to get good at understanding the opposite gender. The result is unnessary over worrying and over thinking.

I know you had great influence on us in different areas. We appreciate that. That itself is philanthropy. However, what is a person to do after he/she becomes a full fledged entrepreneur through the life purpose and parked the money in real estate? Philanthropist. It's good to know this because ppl do become "slugs" if they don't. I got that term "slug" from your motivational video. I know you heard of the term "spoiled rich kids." That's what happens to someone if they don't know the next stage in life. Non-duality is only at the tippy-top of Maslow's. That map is correct. Not everyone is ready for the tippy-top. Non-duality / enlightenment / riding the ox backwards only comes in a flash. Then, it's back to work on earth. Life is a school, Leo. You said that in your blog somewhere. You can experience life being a school as a spiritual experience. You got to graduate from this school properly otherwise you may have to repeat it. Duality is non-duality. Things in duality count heavily. Much work is needed here on earth to reduce suffering. Imagine being a philanthropist of some kind and you live in an area where the laws are unjust. You could gather a team of lawyer/philanthropists and sue the gov. Did you know England got rid of slavery that way? By just a change of law? Interesting story. They didn't have to sacrifice lives for a civil war. Why do you want to be a cave style yogi, Leo?

Sometimes when you teach something, you do believe in it, but you don't embody it. It's a lifelong journey and a learning experience to try to embody something. It changes you for the better and grows you. I'm going through my life purpose, and I could definitely tell you from my experience that the work is like this. It seems that way for Leo too as he tries to embody what he is saying to everyone on actualized.org.

I think a person who is into truth and the absolute will not even bother about who is "young" with "great hair" and "big eyes." The person won't even give it a thought. It's all based on society and the subjective opinions of others. There are much better things to focus on in life. For example, monks and gurus are pretty much into truth. They either shave all their hair off or grow their hair long. They wear robes. I don't see them wanting a certain style to be stylish for anyone. They know that ego (self) is just fiction.