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I hear you say this sometimes. It would be great if it did get communicated to everyone, but it doesn't quite work that way most of the times to anyone. It could leave a person hanging and frustrated. Then, life is inviting us to do other stuff. After all, life is duality within non-duality. So, it's also non-duality. We learn to go with the flow (meditative state). And then it happens in an "ah-ha" moment. Since life is inviting us to do other work, it is meant to be lived to the fullest. We just can't keep wondering or force ourselves to see it, be it, and understand it all in one shot.

@Be Yourself very inspirational. I'm planning to do YouTube clips but not getting around to doing them. However, when I see others here do theirs, I thought to myself, just do it and things will fall into place.

Two quotes came into my mind when I read what you wrote. 1. "The grass is always greener on the other side." You may see the other gals as more attractive and want to be with them. But, do you really? It may just be a feeling/urge. That's it. It's just like you've decided to be a teacher but see others becoming doctors, and you think they're happier because they make more $. Then, you try to become a doc, and it didn't work out. You rather be the teacher. Nothing is wrong in becoming a doc, but one is not better than the other. Relationships are more complicated. Of course it's not like switching jobs. But, you might just be experiencing this quote from what you said. That's all. 2. "Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder." Most likely society tells you what is "beautiful" in a gal's appearance. Try not to get easily pressured and buy into what anyone else says. Do you think, "bald is beautiful?" Not for a gal, right?

It's not really a destination. It's a full-circle strange loop. I think in order to stop this strange loop from reoccurring, just try your best to live this life and learn all your lessons. Do something to contribute and trigger a ripple effect so that we all could live a more peaceful life and continue to contribute to this world. Full-circle strange loop. With enlightenment, the meaning of the clip below gets deeper. But, everyone has a different path and contributes differently. (Eg. If you sing, play the guitar, and write songs, you may write awesome songs & awesome songs on enlightenment to pass on the message.)

Yes, it's the beginning, not end. It made me much clearer on my path. As I go along on this journey, it gets more interesting and clearer, meaning more awareness of what's going on. I started here (brief description).

Everyone is only a pointer, including yourself. To me, the best teachings are through a combo of different teachings, actions, and personal experiences. I don't learn through one person/teacher and can't relate unless I've had personal experiences. Otherwise, I wouldn't even be here.

I noticed something here that I would like to add. Forgot to say this. Be careful when you meet someone nice and then listen to other ppl's advice about relationships. In a long term couple's relationship, it's between the two ppl, not the two ppl and other's opinions about them. Others don't know what is going on, so when they tell you something, it may not apply at all. Instead, the opinions turn into gossips. If you break up just because of the opinion of another, like a "friend," that friendship is long gone.

When you realize that there is nothing else to fulfill you because you already are whole. It helps to get a good life together. It helps that there is no man, woman, job, or circumstance that could make you more whole because you already are. Then, there are circumstances such as devestating wars or natural disasters and you survived that. It's great to be prepared for those before it happens. Understand that passive income cannot be uprooted like a job or career. So, it helps to work on a life purpose with passive income (startup). Also, if you survive, your mastery will always be there -- if you have mastered something in life -- a useful skill. In human history, once upon a time, there used to be no passive income, and ppl used to rely solely on their mastery, and emotional mastery. Those who made it looked like real heroes. We're given a lot more opportunities now.

You can. Definitely. What you are experiencing is just thoughts passing by. You can choose to get on those thoughts, and let it take you for a ride, or just observe them and let it pass by like the wind. Picking up something, like a pen and notebook helps. Those are different from your thoughts. They are still. They are in your external world, a world in which we still have to deal with. When I picked up my pen and notebook, I just decided one day to just write down whatever I'm interested in. It happened to be a foreign language, and I just kept going at it and practicing it no matter what my thoughts. Pretty soon I found myself becoming a bilingual teacher. I incorporated this into my life purpose.

Those are my problems. I'm still working on my mastery. I couldn't find good educational products on the market, so I'm planning to create my own to sell. Many bilingual teachers teach too fast. Students are not getting their lessons. Bilingual products also teach too fast. #3 are my brief thoughts on what my dream product will be to solve the problem. Problems do not solve by you just thinking about yourself. You better be thinking about other ppl's problems; otherwise, why should they seek your help if there are no problems? However, if you try to solve a problem (by creating a product), you got to make sure others are willing to buy it. It's a process. In the business world, it's not just about you and yourself. Does your product and your business (startup) actually help ppl? If not, it won't work. It won't sell. It's not solving any problems for others too. Then it's back to the drawing board. Another question is: why does it have to be your problem? I mean, a person may be willing to become a doctor to cure brain cancer, but why should the doctor experience brain cancer? It's not about your problems or their problems; it's about solving problems.

I've been married for almost 20 yrs. Married in my early 20s. To me, when you say the word "romance," it's just a honeymoon phase. The question is, are you willing to grow together and stick it out no matter what? Most importantly, are you willing to continue to grow and discover yourself? There is nothing stopping you but you. Life is a lifetime of challenges and adjustments and opportunities no matter if you stay single or married. Sure, you will still have "romantic" moments from time to time if your relationship lasts. However, you see, the good times always speak for itself. What about if you have to face a challenge together? The rules of life still apply.

Some ppl don't like certain ppl's boundaries. That's ok. But, why judge these boundaries? Why criticize and debate with the person? It happens. Why not just walk away from the person not suitable to be in a relationship with you?

I get what you're saying here, and sorry to hear this. See, some ppl have, for example, the boundary of monogamy. And, the boundary can't be broken in an intimate relationship. This is not a weak boundary. It's strong. If the other party violates the boundary, then they will just leave the relationship without any problems. Some ppl developed themselves to this level. So, in other words, before they get into an intimate relationship or marriage, they get to know the other person really well in an attempt to greatly reduce the chance of a breakup when they actually enter into a relationship. And, if a breakup does occur, they say to themselves not to be attached to the outcome -- be detached of the outcome. Of course, there are more boundaries than the ones I've mentioned. If we don't know the other person well, but we know his/her boundaries, who are we to judge the other person?

Does it? Boundaries include things like: no cheating/monogamy/no kids/no abuse/having kids during marriage or not/etc. Different ppl call these things by different names: boundaries, values, requirements, etc. Ask yourself, are you able to live without any boundaries, esp in an intimate relationship?

@Paulus Amadeus Great questions: So the idea is to post: 1. the biggest problems you are experiencing right now in your life, 2. what kind of product you would like to buy to solve these problems and 3. what would be the dream product you would like to buy products can be both material, info-products, face to face coaching whatever. 1. Mastery. I think this is one of the main barriers to why ppl are not going through successes in life and breaking through milestones. This is from my personal experience too. I do want to help ppl realize this much earlier in life. 2. Educational products. You know, you could create your own products to teach ppl and make it easy and fun for them. 3. If the dream product is actually helping ppl realize their potential, then it's successful. It's not so easy creating a dream product because it's not easy to communicate to ppl to convince themselves in a direction that's right for them. They also have to figure it out themselves. The entrepreneur is just the guide/teacher/pointer. Here's what I have so far. I posted it here and here with a few connecting links. Hope it helps.

@Leo Gura Remember, snails are only a phenomenon. I'm not anti-psychedelic, but they can't expose you to everything. They may not even change your karma and fate. How you're going to walk the walk on earth is still left for you to figure out. This can't be ignored; you're here for a reason. Yes, because most of us don't want our fate to be like a tumbleweed. In business (startups), it's a lot easier to package something made for the ego than non-duality. You got to go about this carefully. Do you wanna try?

@egoless you are aware that Leo has a PUA clip, right?

@egoless Here's a thought. What kind of relationship do you want? If your answer is a long term, lasting relationship, then think about it for a moment; wouldn't you want to hang around those ppl who have already made it there as a result? Then, you could ask them the proper questions, like where did you meet, what were the signs, and what are the qualities of a great relationship? If the person(s) did not have any experience in this area, or poor experience in this area, then what can he/she tell you? You got to be careful in this area too. Be open-minded and use your judgements wisely. It's not like a career or life purpose where you try it, and it didn't work out, and then you go for something else.

That was what I was hinting at here.

@Hardkill I would continue to work on job, career, and life purpose no matter what -- on a daily basis. It will get meaningful as you go along and will help you to survive.

No Leo, it's the battery that sits under the whole pyramid. Otherwise, WiFi wouldn't work.

Interesting thread, Leo. I said this before in another thread. There's a saying: "It's not about the pointer; it's about what's being pointed at." So, in this case, if you're teaching non-duality, like through a life purpose, you got to be aware of what your followers are doing. If you live with them in an ashram especially, they may not give you the best reputation when they misbehave or if society doesn't accept their behaviour. They may misinterpret that. The media may also misinterpret that and it goes out of line.