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Paradigm change = cockamamie (29:10) I love that word! ♥️ Cockamamie. Looks like your path, whatever it is, has to be cockamamie in order for it to be profoundly successful, no matter what it is. No excuses. @Leo GuraI wish PUA could teach "cockamamie" relationships, but they don't have the guts to do it themselves and share their experiences.

Hmmm...this thread is interesting. I don't really agree with the long term relationship/getting married part that everyone is saying. I grew up in the US, and I had no problem marrying a guy from a "3rd world country" when I was in my early 20s. I was 22. No, he is not of my "race (skin color)," nationality, religion, etc, etc, etc. None of the above. How can I explain this? Do you love to travel? By travelling, I don't mean becoming a tourist and stay there for 2 weeks to a year. That's too easy. The magic word is: immigration. The other magic word is: global. You literally go there, stay, study, and work there for at least a decade, understand the culture, become a native (permanent resident or dual / multi citizenships), and then, if you meet someone of a "different" background than you, marry that person, and then both of you transcend all these labels. The married couple will do this for countries 3 and 4, and not just 1 and 2. Oh, and countries 1-3 are not in the "1st world category." A stage green person will not be able to relate to you anymore if you started being very authentic and fully sharing your experiences. So, yeah, I would not be surprised if that "White guy" calls himself "Chinese." And then, not labelling himself with these petty labels anymore (esp after discovering enlightenment). I think a "soulmate" is made, not found.

I'm being ironic. Even if someone said, "99.99...%," I would disagree. It's not like finding a needle in a haystack.

Just a note here... I've seen ppl from Yemen, Sudan, and maybe Somalia who are travelling and studying in India. They are probably in their 20s. Yes, I've met Chinese ppl too, in India. Now, the first three countries are very corrupt on Leo's corruption map. In fact, when I saw a guy from Sudan, I said to myself, "wow!" It's complicated, and you would have to think about this, but I find that the ppl who experience stages red/blue and decide to transcend that, could come out stronger. The ppl who are growing up in orange or green, could get stuck in it and are not aware of what's going on with their mindsets. "Those who fail to understand history are bound to repeat it."

I thought this thread was about politics. Not about how everyone is "blue" in China. Yeah, I know two ppl from China. Both of them travel. One has been travelling all over the world. They are from the same city and about the same age (in their 20s) but they are definitely not the same. I can't call them stage blue. One of them, I definitely can't put her in blue. She's in orange at least. Maybe she's blue/orange. The other one maybe in green/yellow. With the green/yellow one, we share lots of things about our backgrounds in depth, and not much misunderstandings. I see them travelling from China to India, and then the second one is trying to get his master's degree in the US. Anyway, I do realize that ppl who skip stages cannot progress onto the next stage. If you don't consider healthy blue, you're stuck in orange. If you don't consider healthy orange, you're stuck in green. There is very little chance to move onto yellow if you skip. For instance, "All blue ppl hold a certain value." Lol. And, when you find out that this person holds a certain value, you automatically label the person as blue, and keep your distance from this person. And then, you go and "gossip" about this person to another person thinking you know him/her. ? Now, that's stage blue.

Everythingness could be part of relative truth. Detachment is not. It is one with Absolute Truth. Well... Stage orange/blue jokes, perhaps? That direction.

@remember yes, the Chinese politics is pressured to change. I'm aware of that. I heard that an ordinary, hardworking Chinese person could join the Communist party now in China and have some influence, but it's still difficult and very challenging for that person. As for protesters, they are very brave. It's not going to be easy to create a revolution, if that's what they're thinking. For a superpower? No way. At least they try, and don't mind losing their lives, wow. Reminds me of this song that goes something like this: "freedom doesn't come like a bird on the wing...you have to fight for it...and every generation has to do it all again..." I'm having trouble finding this song on YouTube. Anyway, a relationship is wayyy different than politics. If you want your relationship to work and end in happiness, you and your significant other better progress wayyy faster than any politics. Politics takes lifetimes to change, especially if it's not a revolution. Following the crowd: identifying yourself with your "race," religion, politics, nationality, culture, etc., or whatever was appointed to you by the government or others. There is no such things--all man-made. Time to transcend these labels. My husband's "black" skin (lmao) or just because he's from a different "country" doesn't prove anything.

Gosh, I'm not exactly sure what you guys mean, but these are the kinds of talks I don't go into. They get nowhere, and it's nonsense, esp talks of one "race" dating or marrying another "race." I sure don't see it like this in my marriage, esp when someone else points it out--that I'm married to a different "race." No such thing as "race." So, I'm going to boldly say here that lots of people are so stuck in a strangeloop of trying to find the "right" relationship but keeps breaking up and having heartbreaks. They don't really understand that one of the major factors to this is not understanding detachment. Although, I think Leo did an excellent job in explaining it in this video, there is still so much more to say. Judging someone, whether or not she's a 9 or 10 gal, or what "race" she is, or which country she's from has nothing to do with detachment. Yes, of course detachment relates to enlightenment. It's a direct pointer word to it.

Lol... Have you thought of it this way? We, human beings, are not birds. We don't have "techniques" for mating. We're beyond that. Our main focus in life isn't the techniques in anything. I'm not just talking about mating.

I wouldn't say that because I have to become familiar with what Nisargadatta is saying. Different teachers use different words to point directly at The Absolute. He could be using "consciousness" in a different way.

Although, when you become the absolute, you become pure consciousness. You are totally aware that you're formlessness and there is only you and nothing else. It's not like sleeping. Nope.

There are no hard and fast rule to enlightenment. It's not an either-or (either you seek or not). How close are you to living in pure consciousness in your daily life (moment by moment)? This question helped me. Have you noticed this? We as a human species get to choose how to live our lives. We're not like ants, for example. They don't get to choose. I find that choice in how to live your life counts.

In all societies, there are always gays and other people with different sexual orientation. The reason why you may not hear it in your society is because it is very oppressed and hidden. For example, if you are actually gay, you would not risk telling anyone. Being a different sexual orientation, such as being gay, is hereditary. So, a little boy who is born gay may not fully understand that he's gay because society doesn't accept that. The society is saying, "Men are only attracted to women and vise versa, and nothing else exists beyond this." The boy may act out when he is growing up by going around kissing other boys in his school and not fully understand his behavior. He may likely end up marrying a woman, but he is only attracted to men. A gay guy is not attracted to women. He may end up secretly cheating on her with other gay men. Or, this behavior may come out in disturbing ways, like what happened to you when you were twelve. Part of the reason is due to a society banning and not accepting these things. The gays and LGBTs never got a chance to develop themselves or develop themselves with healthy boundaries. It's not just society that has a problem with not being educated and opened on these issues, but most of all, the parents and families.

Cool...???

@Truth Addict Let's say, for example, you met someone at your workplace who is very talented. He's about to quit and start his own business. He's very friendly. And, you knew about his interesting business cause he told you. You want to make friends with him and find out more so that maybe you could start your own business. You want to learn something from him. But then, what's keeping you from making friends with him is that you found out that he's gay because someone told you. In this case, what are you going to do? Are you going to stop yourself from making friends with him?

I think the following quotes go well with your quote: "The eyes are useless when the mind is blind." "The only thing worse than being blind is having sight but no vision." These explain some of the reasons why a person is triggered to judge and project onto others.

"Become a lighthouse." -Ralph Smart

@1:12 "The Ox of Consciousness--Riding the Ox Backwards." -Shinzen Young It's the major singularity transformation from Truth, the pure consciousness, following the Everythingness realm. All the non-duality teachings, including the so-called "religious" ones, came from this Source. Are you even able to comprehend this? No way! You would have to become Truth and transform back to your ego to understand it. Otherwise, the Ox is just a metaphor for you. Oops, forgot to say that you become love before ego and after singularity.