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How do you know when to quit a relationship (not a marriage ) , still young and stuff so yea ..

@Ajax thank you for your advice , I do agree about stress management and my year had been ups and downs of stress and content as I seek through advice or letting go of pressure of getting good grades and just study .. My year had fluctuate a lot , and I would like to form habits that will allow me to seek deeper of my passion etc

Hi there , so i am a college student and my life has been kinda messy , no addictions such as weed or smoking nor drinking but definitely have it on food ! Also , my exams is in 1 month , which is really crucial , having a relationship now too , so much stuff have changed ! social skills drop , self-esteem got lower , codependency increase , how do i start getting out of this rut and start making my life less mess up ?? what should i start doing?

i do feel good spending time alone !

@ALGUIMAR Hi there thank you for your reply , @Ayla @MartineF I am currently a college student , DEFINITELY not having a major issue but throughout the months of being in a relationship and transitioning to be a college student , i have change alot ! In ways such that , in the beginning I was on top of the world , being really confident and authentic in school etc , then my grades started failing me , ( i already met that guy that time ! ) HONESTLY theres no one to blame here about my grades falling because that guy is an awesome guy ! So , usually after college , we will hang out studying after school , thats how we bond in the beginning , but there are times where I was so stressed out i needed to go back , so as that increase gradually we started fading with each other , and through the months of fading from each other .... its only me with issues such as : 1 I accused him of loving this girl , REFLECT ON THAT ISSUE : This is the beginning where I started feeling needy , I need his attention but he isnt giving it to me , everytime i just needed him to care for me etc so yea whenever he hang out with his friend , he is authentic he was himself so obviously he was really happy 24/7 ,so yea.. i accused him , we talked about it but ... thats the beginning ! 2 I broke up with him AND WE GOT BACK TOGETHER 2 days later ! Well , it all started with him telling myself , well if this relationship was so much of a bullshit to my feelings of me always feeling down and depressed because of this (relationship) might as well just break up right? SO YEA , IT DID NOT HELP ! was crying the whole day , thinking of all the possibilities that this was MY issues and also , HE WAS A NICE GUY ! so ... i should actually work on myself deeply before blaming him about this miserable life im having ! so yea..... COULD YOU GUYS HELP ME ??? I actually thought of this .... working on myself alot , in a way that I wanna be the girl i wanna be , I wanna have a workspace to study , everytime i come home i DONT study , because i always study in school , but i am really thinking of just coming home and have a routine where my room would be the most amazing place i would wanna be in , a place for me to study and i really wanna work on my grades as my exams is in 1 month + , AS level is a REALLY big exam so yea... what should i do?? since if i dont stay back that would mean NO MORE TIME WITH HIM , WHICH WOULD MEANT WE WOULD FADE AWAY WHICH WOULD MEANT YEA......... i somehow rather feel like its a responsibility for me to stay back because he stays in school , so he doesnt have a problem , BUT for this relationship to work we need to spend time together , and if i am committed to loving myself first and stuff etc focusing on my studies that would mean sacrificing time with him but also... he is an AWESOME guy , no denial , i dont know what to do BUT honestly i feel like he wont really care if i stay back or not already because we have fade QUITE ALOT and he always have his activities after school these days , so its been a long while since we have time with each other . things that i am grateful for is he MADE an effort to ask me to hang out a few days back since holidays is coming and we wont be seeing each other for awhile so yea........... please help me , i know theres a better solution towards all this...

within months of being in a relationship , i see myself transforming to some desperate needy girl , so i am seeking for certain situations from others too , if am i the only one , so much self-blaming on me so yea..