Looks, Power & Status. Everything else is secondary. When you ask someone what they are attracted to they are usually answering from their 'ideal self' not who they really are and what actually triggers desire for them day to day. That is why you often hear the generic common answers; Kind, gentle, emotionally intelligent, social, spiritual etc. None of these actually move the needle and trigger desire, which is the most important thing. A great personality and spiritual development mean nothing if you can't arouse real desire in a women.
Society has to stop lying to young men about this, you can't buy or meditate your way into a woman's heart. So focus on looking your best and gaining power and status in the context of your life whatever that may look like. This is the uncomfortable answer. People have beating the same generic messages about who men should be to attract women for the last decade and and clearly it is not working.
