Spiritual Warrior

Hi all, I met a girl at a wedding last night, we danced all night and I would pull her to the side every once in a while and chat for a few minutes. I got her number at the end of the night. She is very reserved and quiet and shy. What is a good first date idea? She seems very into me so I know that she will answer positively, I'm just trying to figure out what kind of date would make her the most comfortable. She seems inexperienced and I don't want to overwhelm her. Should I try to go back to a salsa dancing club? This is my specialty, I'm a good dancer. I could also have a buddy come with me and bring a girl. Not sure if that would make her more or less comfortable though? I could go for a coffee date, but I feel like thats taking a step backwards as we were dancing very intimately on the dance floor. A coffee date is very casual, not really what I want to do anyway, so I think this one's out. I could take her to a bar and try to incorporate some hopping around, grab a bit here, grab a drink here, walk around for a little bit, etc. I could combine 1 and 3, take her out for a drink, maybe a bite, walk around a little bit so that we get some alone time and then make our way to meet up with my buddy and dance at the salsa club. I would love some input from any of you, thank you.

Don't you think spirituality makes you a more empathetic person? Which would make you a more compassionate and loving partner?

What is a "normie"?

I struggle to be genuinely happy for other people's success. For example, my best friend just got married and the whole time when they were doing their dance, I was thinking about this other girl that I wanted to ask to dance or how I looked in other people's eyes. I couldn't focus on the happiness that the couple shared with each other. Another example is, this girl is getting a lot of dance lessons and is doing a great job. Meanwhile, I still haven't been given my first lesson, I find it very difficult to be happy for her because I am jealous of her success. I understand conceptually that other people's success is the same as my own, but it sure as hell doesn't feel that way. I am able to feel genuinely happy for other people sometimes but I usually need to be doing well myself. For example, if I am playing well in my basketball game, things are flowing, then I am capable of being genuinely happy for the success of the other players. However, if I am not playing well then I am like fuck everyone else, I only care about myself. I think this is shining a light on how selfish I truly am and how much growing I still need to do. Of course I shouldn't beat myself up, this is just where I'm at, there's nothing wrong with it.

Sounds sick! I don't have any advice just want to wish you best of luck 🙂

This is stage Blue: hard work, discipline, no excuses

@Pav thanks for taking the time to write so much, I enjoyed hearing your perspective and you make some very good points. For me personally, I do still find use in the law of attraction, mainly in the sense that if I continually think "it sucks that i don't have a girlfriend" then I will continuously attract not having a girlfriend because I am focusing on that. If I can flip this pessimistic thought into an optimistic one like "I attract beautiful women into my life" whether through visualizations or affirmations, then my mind will find ways of making this a reality. That is what I get out of the law of attraction, focus on positivity and you will attract positivity, focus on negativity and you will attract negativity. Bottom line is that this works for me and it doesn't work for you. Nothing wrong with that, we are all different.

Leo is taking a break for personal well being reasons. I think he is working on a new course and his book on the side, but nothing will be coming out any time soon. We need to give him some space.

The law of attraction is like the prerequisite that you need to understand and embody prior to taking action. If I were to have negative thoughts (pessimism, anger, helplessness) about a situation that I am in then I will be discouraged from taking action, if I can have positive thoughts about a situation (hopefulness, optimism, positive expectations) then this will spur me into taking more action. I agree that you're recommendation to achieving success will work, but I think you should give the law of attraction some more attention. The universe will also find ways of helping you out if you set your intention on something, life isn't as mechanical as you think. Remember, life is like an infinite mind, everything is connected.

This is a story about a working man that has devoted his life to his family. His sole purpose is to make sure that they survive, to keep the wolves away. This is integrity, this is honor, this is nobility. The workin' man.

You will though. Things will get better. Think back to past hard times, things always get better.

I don't think there's anything wrong with believing that you are meant to be with one person... but that would mean that you'd have to accept the fact that every girl that doesn't work out isn't the one that you're meant to be with. If you can truly accept this, then you wouldn't be attached to the outcome of the relationship with one particular girl. If it doesn't work out then it wasn't meant to work out... you lick your wounds and collect as many lessons as you can... and you trudge on.. The warrior has more demons to slay before he finds his princess.

Move on brother. Your next venture will be more fulfilling and exciting than anything she can give you. I've held onto my exes many times, hoping that some day it would work out... It never did. Holding onto an ex is a great way of distracting yourself from pursuing a new person or new venture... because that would be too scary. Find a way to embrace the unknown, become comfortable with it and move into it.. and on top of it.

@Sandhu thank you for sharing, I got value out of this. I like the idea of writing a letter to my mom expressing how I feel and then throwing it away

Might be using you to make someone else on social media feel jealous. I've unfortunately done that one before

If you're thinking about how she will respond then you will give off a needy vibe to her. This is something that I am working on myself, not being needy for the girls approval (or anyone's approval for that matter) while interacting with her. That is much more important than figuring out what the woman wants from you. Figure out how to not be needy, that is the real challenge, that is the root solution.

Nice share, it looks like in 2009, she finally started to see the limitations of green, I wonder if she ever tapped into yellow. From the Wikipedia page: "In an April 2009 interview,[26] Hill pondered what would come next for her: The tree-sit and action since created this very particular role that Julia Butterfly Hill fulfills. And, because I'm a person committed to growth, to looking for where my edge is, that role is now too narrow for me. But it's hard to figure out what's next because there's this entire reality that's been created around this role that I play. And I'm not discounting that role – I've been able to help communities that I love very much. And at the same time, I'm looking for what's next for me, and it's so easy to stay in that role that myself and this world co-created together. But I just know that there's aspects of it that need to shed."

Ron Artest changed his name to Metta World Peace after getting into meditation, zen, and Indian culture. The name change is Ron unconsciously saying that he has seen what he needed to see at stage orange and is now ready to transcend into green.

Looking for some validation that raising Kundalini energy can help with spiritual growth. Thanks.

I think that's fair, the other part of it though is that I'm just trying to connect a little more with this section of the forum. Asking questions is my way of comfortably putting my foot in the door

Fair answer. I plan on using a specific technique by either following a Kriya Yoga book or if I'm lucky an in person Kriya Yoga class. I want to see if other people have had success in doing this before I invest my time.

"There are two energies inside you: Architect (he) and Mystic (she). He needs to plan; he needs how and why of everything. She just watches things unfold; the universe shows her it's most mysterious and magical depths. She can accept him because human planning is just a small part of universal magic. But he feels threatened by her. So, she is asleep inside you." - Shunya

Yes, I have had experience with this and can confirm that it is a good outlet to heal from trauma. At one of my first classes, I balled my eyes out during pigeon pose while focusing on forgiveness from a past trauma. I came out of it feeling reenergize and balanced. No one knew I cried either because of the music and my head was down. The trauma that you feel within your body or psyche is being bottled up and suppressed. You say you want to heal but deep down you don't want to deal with it or just don't know how. When you do yoga, you are opening up and surrendering your body to the experience, this allows for traumas and all other types of gunk to bubble up to the surface of your consciousness. I'd recommend going to an actual class so that you can immerse yourself fully in the experience.

Interlude: Self Love Dear all of the women that I have had relations with, I am sorry for the way that I have handled you. I have been unable to love who I am, and if I can't do that, how could I expect myself to love you. This has caused both you and I pain. I will continue to work on this for the both of us. Thank you for understanding. I release my hold on you, you are free.

Spiritual Autolysis - Journal Entry #51 - Mon Oct 2nd '23 - 6:04 AM Authors Note: From now on, I am going to focus on what I can experience, not the out of this world mumbo jumbo that I hear from all of these spiritual teachers. For example, I have no insight into what infinity is, therefore it doesn't belong in truth work. What I can experience is my own direct experience, my own awareness... that is where I will put my attention. I AM Sitting Here on a Chair Lower self: It is true that I AM sitting here on a chair. Higher self: Nope... sitting and chair are relative truths, fix those, but "It is true" is a fine way to start the statement because something must be true within this universe, thats what the work is about. Lower self: "I AM" is the only thing that I can trust as truth right now, the fact that I AM aware of things in my direct experience, that I AM ness is truth. What if I just take out the sitting here on a chair part... and I go with "It is true that I AM." Higher self: Yes, that makes sense to me, I AM is truth. But I am what? Nothingness? God? The Universe? The present experience? Lower self: It is true that I AM the present experience. Whatever the present experience is, I am it. I am... but does that mean that I am the thought? That I am the tree in front of me? That I am the wind? Higher self: No... you are not the actual wind... you are the sensation that the wind gives you... Lower self: So I am the feeling that the wind gives me but not the wind itself? The wind is seperate from myself? Higher self: Yes... The wind is separate. Lower self: But if I AM is all that there is, then I would be the wind... But I dont know what its like to be wind. I dont know what its like to be a tree. But if I AM is truth, then doesn't that mean that I AM the tree? It means that I am everything. No... it just means that I am I exist... I am here... But youre not here. There is no here, location is a relative truth, it doesn't belong here. Okay... I am. I am is truth. Higher self: Does that mean that you are your friend? Your dog? Your cat? That spoon? Lower self: I never said that I was everything. I just said that I am. High self: But I AM should include everything. If there is just one thing and it is I AM then it must include everything. Lower self: No..... Who said anything about there being one thing?? Higher self: Truth. Truth must be one thing... because truth encapsulates everything in itself. For something to be absolutely true, it must explain the entire universe, it must explain all of reality. Thats what we're after here, the theory of everything. The truth of all that there is. And Im sorry but I AM is just not cutting it. Lower self: I AM does not encapsulate all of reality. It only encapsulates my own experience within this human body. But that is all that I know. I can only EXPERIENCE WHAT I AM EXPERIENCING. I have no body elses experience, so all this crap about encapsulating the truth as one thing... How on earth could I possibly fathom this when I can only experience what its like in this current body. I am not God... Or I at least have no awareness of it. How can something be true if I have no awareness of it? Higher self: Just because you're not aware of it doesn't mean that its not true. Lower self: Why? Why not? If I AM and I AM not aware of God or infinity or whatever the fuck... then it cant be true. Because I am my own authority. I AM TRUTH. I AM TRUTH. Therefore, what I think is true is true. Higher self: Someone could think that an evil space turtle is controlling your every move, that doesn't mean that its true. These are just thoughts. Lower self: Everything on this page is thought... so what the hell are we talking about? Higher self: We're talking about truth. Lower self: Truth huh? But my truth is different than your truth. Higher self: Yeah... so they're relative truths. We want absolute. Lower self: I AM. I AM is an absolute truth. Higher self: But what does that even mean? Lower self: It means that I am is all that there is. I am ... its the awareness... its the present experience... thats whats real. Not the present experience itself like the sensation. The sensation of an emotion is not what truth is. Its the fact that I AM able to experience the emotion. I AM ABLE TO experience things. That is whats true. What I'm seeing is not truth, what I'm smelling is not truth, what I'm hearing is not truth, what I'm feeling is not truth. Truth lies within the perception of all of these things, its the fact that I AM able to feel, smell, hear, think. I am, I don't exist necessarily, I just am. Higher self: But what is the difference between the smell, the feelings, the hearing, the thinking and the awareness of it... Isn't it the same thing? Lower self: No... It is not the same thing at all... The feeling, the smell, the sound, the thought... These are all fleeting. But the I AM ness stays.. The perception of these things stays... it is permanent... And therefore we can assume that it is forever permanent. Higher self: But before you were born... There was no I AM ness Lower self: But... If I AM is truth... then that means that I AM is immortal,