theleelajoker

Did your IFS work include lot of changes in your believes? Did it cause significant shifts in your identity? Did it cause you to have significantly more body awareness? Turning awareness more inside? Asking because I had similar experience (but different method, not IFS) and recently read about the pattern how his happened. Helped me a LOT to understand how I will continue the work. I experienced strong destabilizing, suicidal thoughts (not intentions) and depressive period. Not panic attacks, but other strong body reactions

Thanks. First reply I get, but don't get the difference in the Buddha and Jesus Story. Buddha first was seeking a lot, failed , then became the best version of him after enlightenment right? Then started teaching etc and helped many people. So actualized , then realized. That's how I remember the story at least

Cool 😎 Really got me thinking with "people just want to be seen and resonate" as well

@HojoDifference self-realize and self-actualize for you? Non-native speaker asking..

Ok. Sounds about right. Wanna play co-op later on steam? New patch for game "You exist, carry on, that's about it" is online. Looking for some new friends to play with have been playing it alone for an eternity

@Joshe Why did you delete the rest of your post? That was the truly interesting part for me. It's luckily still visible because of Joseph's quote This really clicked for me. No game is superior to any other game, everybody just playing his role. This attitude will help me to be more open, tolerant and loving towards others

John C Lilly. Programming and metaprogramming.

So, according to you, life is what? A 🐧 with a baseball cap?🧢

I started to write an answer, then I realized that I don't know the answer to question 1) I thought it's freedom, total presence in the moment, being free of conditioned mind. But then I was like...it is REALLY what I believe is the highest possible achievement? I mean, do I truly, truly feel that? Is that what I strive for in life? So... 1) don't know 2) don't know 3) three 🍎 and a 🍌

"In your own words" LOL.

I very rarely consume any social media content for the reasons in last post. If the videos were more like yours, that might change.

I played Skyrim twice, it was that good. Now this game is far better than Skyrim...

What you're talking about? I thought: awesome, there's a guy that just takes a headset, puts himself in front of a camera and just talks from his heart. Just does it. Without all the superficiality that so many content producers show, without the need for superiority, without the need to prove to others what an awesome person he is. Just doing it. Wished I could just do that like you. Plus: not only like how, but also what you said

@James123 @Joseph Maynor Ok guys your lovely interaction made me click on the YouTube link in Joseph's signature. I also have the feeling that you're a good guy. Kudos for doing the videos and expressing yourself. You got me sentimental when you said "Doing the video not from a perspective of beauty or truth, but love. I think what a lot of people are missing is love, actually". I got sentimental because I think you're right.

Are you truly interested in her? If yes, go and approach her. Find out what she feels for you. If you're not interested in her, doesn't matter if she's receptive for you. If it's hard for you to approach her because of fear of rejection, because of your past experience and your current perception of yourself, ask you this: How much does it matter if she will potentially reject you when you are already rejecting yourself? Because if your interested in her, but you don't follow your feelings, that's what you are already doing. (Credit to Joe Hudson I saw him pointing this out in a coaching)

Definitions are arbitrary, the words are interchangable. I think of function. Something that is, and something that obseves what is.

I am also surprised - again and again - how much people take his SUBJECTIVE experience with sample size of ONE as god given truths. He's IMO quite deep in his stories and projections

@Hojo Like your description @Entrepreneur I would say: A more "conscious" person is more aware of the existence of ... consciousness So you get more aware of what exists, and you get more aware that you are aware. So, let's see if that created more confusion:D

Nice

Main character of course But the main character is aware, that in this story, he's just a tiny little thing compared to the infinity of the world. He's a humble main character that knows his limitations and the power of the world. Ever played Skyrim? Have fun being God's bitch.

It's how you use it. You can make life harder, or just practical application. You can kill with a knife or cut your apple. Ken Wilber had a similar argument: Focus on the now and on the direct field of awareness. Everything you need is always there in this field right here right now.

How you know you suffer? You have to feel it somewhere right? There has to be location. Put attention to this location as described above. Simple, full, non-judgemental attention. You can't fully put attention and think at the same time. So no thoughts. And re emotions, sensation --> see above

Imagine you suffer, but you are present with it. Whatever causes this suffering, you bring awareness to it. Means you're not avoiding it. You have a choice, and you pick the option to feel it, it's no longer suffering because literally you choose to feel it, to be aware of it. You expert your free will to experience one thing over another. How can doing what you want be suffering? Impossible. Problem solved. If you feel now that that's suffering - feeling the thing you made yourself aware of above - ok change your choice to the other option, put your awareness somewhere else. Exerting your free will, you prefer one option over the other. How can doing what you want be suffering? Impossible.You relax because you chooses the option you like most. Problem solved. Now you might say - I don't like any option. It's all suffering, no matter where I put my attention. But then it's no choice, because it can't be avoided. It's not self generated. It's pain, not suffering. Enjoy being present😄

I don't really get this labeling of mainly f/m energies and qualities. What does that mean, what's the purpose exact harmful identification and inflexible roles? So men can't be feeling, or flexible? Women can't be disciplined or aware? Oh shit I was playful, but I am a MAN, no I need to be more rigid again. Life is SERIOUS, I should not have fun! And even IF there was such a thing as mainly that or this quality for m/f, what use has it to proclaim it? Just do it, live it, and then it's done. Where is the value in labeling? Can't see it. What am I missing?