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Thanks, where can I put my subscription on "pause"?

@Princess Arabia Yeah, bullseye for the meta BS

@BlueOak Soooo very much on point. Nicely expressed and perfectly fits my experience and what I see with other people. And that's why truth is so important - authentically expressing how we feel and think, gaining feedback in interactions, finding out if we are (unconsciously) lying to ourselves or not. Easier said then done, obviously. But simple and straightforward guideline.

Damn, I can be quite an asshole sometimes lol

Thanks for your replies so far. I'm processing what you are saying and what to do (or not to do) with it : )

Some structure in the text would have helped me understand what you want to say What do you want to say? Can you express it in a simple statement?

When I was doing my yoga teacher training, we had 1h of Indian philosophy each day. One day, Sadhu, our chaotic, charismatic, curly-haired teacher told a story. The lame man and the blind man A lame man and a blind man are lost in a forest. The blind man can not see. The lame man cannot walk. They both want to get out of the forest. In order to do so, they decide to work together. The lame man climbs on the shoulder of the blind man. The blind man - not seeing what's in front of him, but perfectly mobile - trusts in the lame man's directions. The lame man - seeing everything perfectly clear, but not being able to move - trusts in the blind man's ability to carry him and to follow his directions. Sadhu explains that one might see the lame man as consciousness (that, which is beyond matter) while the blind man represents humans (matter that can act in this reality). The lame man is seeing everything perfectly clear, knows everything all the time, but relies on us humans to execute actions. We humans in turn, have no clue what's going on and can do nothing but follow directions, act accordingly, and trust. The story made complete sense for me. It resonated so much with me, it felt like a deep insight, a deep epiphany. Until a bit later. Because later, one question came to my mind. This question bothered me a while. And a while longer. Until finally I found my answer to it. Honestly answering this question might help you approaching your questions above the same way it helped me approaching these kind of questions. The question that came to my mind is very simple: How the fuck did it happen that a lame man (that cannot walk!) and a blind man (that cannot see!) end up getting lost in a forest????

So very true - so much stranger than I ever could have imagined. Seeing how much my understanding / experience of reality changed in the last years or even just last few months I do not even dare to wonder where this journey will lead to. It's a very beautiful perspective, seeing it as a gift I can develop. A bit scary perspective, too. But I guess those two go hand in hand. Thanks for your response.

For me it's a lifelong learning process. It's a natural flow of change, a desire for change, which we can either resist or go along with. For me it's process of expansion - making the unconscious more conscious, making the invisible more visible, seeing and feeling connections that I did not notice before. It's an experience in which I learn 1) That my inner world (thoughts, emotions) is connected to external reality (events, situations, other humans) and 2) How much those two are influencing each other. For me it's an endless paradox. And endless flow of understanding and losing understanding. It's an endless flow of surprises. And it's a good joke

I like your calm energy, I get the feeling of authenticity. That's very important IMO - if I don't like you, I don't listen no matter how good the content +1 re volume and I want to add that I would change the angle of the camera. Feels to me the camera is a bit below your eye level --> I would put it a bit higher, feeling "eye to eye" Ask open questions and then give me (as viewer) a pause, a short break to process. E.G. "what are my credentials?" --> short break --> "First, 5000h of meditation.." etc etc Use breaks, short summaries, conclusions also to structure your content. Imagine you cut a loaf of bread into slices --> create spaces between different slices of content to make it easier to digest You background confuses me. If you want to create informational clarity with your video, make sure you provide as much clarity as possible. What I mean is 1. use a background that does calm my mind. Right now, the psychedelic lion you use rather creates chaos for me. It a new shape, its a bit mixed, my brain needs to get used to it. That takes away focus from your content. 2. If you want to use exactly this lion, then put in the center of your background so that it is symmetric. --> make sure you align your intention of the video with all the context surrounding it (!) Use pictures, metaphors, short, easy simple messages. Yes, analogies are simplified, but it's THE lesson for me from teaching myself --> metaphors, symbols, analogies stick the best Mix your presentation. At certain points, cut to a picture, or insert a quote on the screen etc. Keep my brain focused by giving different impulses from time to time. Not too much, not too many (see my point on clarity), but conscious mix of presentation methods. When I teach my students often tell me they like a mix much more then me talking only. Yes, it costs some time video editing but much can be achieved with little effort Engage me as a viewer. Connect your content to my personal life. Relevance, emotions, usefulness etc. Look into Storytelling methods. There is a reason why humans transfer knowledge via stories for ages All in all - I like your video. Pls see my points as (subjective) ideas, not criticism. Good luck!

@Yimpa Thanks for the video was quite informative for me

Just watched this. In a nutshell - your emotions are "just a best guess" of your brain about what is, applying meaning to certain circumstances. Similar to how Anil Seth talks about our senses and how our brain then creates reality and meaning. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lyu7v7nWzfo Personally, I can agree that emotions and mental states seemed very arbitrary for me. However, more and more I believe that I just did not succeed (yet) in sufficiently understanding the subconscious programming that I carry with me. For me, there is not "one answer" about what and how we feel / experience. Thoughts, emotions, past experiences, physical states (hunger, being thirsty) and physical activities (movement, breath, body posture) as well as nutrition and environment (who and what is around us?) are all connected, creating a complex system that culminates in our experiences (= how we feel right now). That's why I believe that any method to change ourselves must be a holistic system as well. Focusing on one thing such as thoughts or emotions are important, but just one step.

As I get older (I'm in my mid 30s) I obviously learn a lot about a lot of things. About me, about others, about business, about psychology, etc. etc. When I meet a group of people, when I go to a meeting, or a date, then I notice many things I did not notice 5 years or even a year ago. Same goes for me when I'm alone and reflect about me or if I look at society at large. So many times in the last years, I had a moment of "Ohhhh...if I only knew before!" or "Now I finally get it!". It felt like moments of deep insight. As if I just had received a key that helps me to solve whatever is a problem for me right now in my life. Admittedly, I don't put all the knowledge into action but I do behave different in many situations. At the same time, I feels like nothing ever changes. As if life adapts to everything I know and do to keep the degree of difficulty the same. All the knowledge, the insights, the shadow work etc - don't feel that my life quality really changed in the last 20 years or sth. The more I learn, the more tools I have at my disposal, the more difficult life seems to become. Just like mastering new and new levels at Super Mario Land. Only difference - on gameboy there was a limited amount of levels while (at least for my lifetime) the "real life" levels seem infinite. And even more, sometimes all these life experiences and learned concepts pile up and seem to make things more complicated and heavy. It's sth I think about when I meet people in their 20s and see their "lightness" about life. Anyone feels similar? Maybe I just feel like that because I am stuck and suck at applying my life lessons

@LastThursday 1. The reddit is fun ;D 2. Yes, there is sth about games and humans. Creating games within games within games lol

OK I did not see that the analogy has been made before @Princess Arabia I like the "time to digest" instead of "apply what learned" perspective. Time to digest that there is indeed nowhere to go, nothing to achieve and nothing to learn. I'm happy to see it in a similar way. Don't know about the rest of you guys but my cultural background, my family and (most of) friends gave me a different view on that. Learn this and do XYZ and then things will be "better". Because "more" is obviously the solution.

Fully agree. I understand that the idea of "don't treat things that ultimately (may) not be real as real" can help. Meta perspective, zooming out, not identifying etc. But when I feel shitty it does not help me. It feels real and it sucks. What helps is connecting with someone, a hug, some words of encouragement, a story to relate, a practical advise, just silently being with someone I resonate with, etc. Mental acrobatics about god don't help. I'm rather new to this forum but I have the (subjective) feeling that especially in the last weeks there is a lot abstract stuff form several users where I personally don't see much value. (u may say I don't get the value - fair enough). @javfly33: No personal dig, I like a lot of your posts and do see value in them. Just not so much is this one

@Ishanga, @Princess Arabia @Bazooka Jesus Thanks for your posts and this discussion. Paradox has been a topic for me this week and your posts put it together nicely. You have no idea how valuable this is for me today. One more thing I noticed with many logical assumptions, logical conclusions: Very often, you find a (hypothetical) situation where you are right in between A and B and you can make solid a case for both. Intellect not only fails to explain everything as you guys pointed out but the division itself is flawed. I often use school as an example: We have biology and chemistry, but where do you put things like serotonin, dopamine? It "biochemical" one might say. We say this is math and this is physics, but what is physics except some math formulas with some text (which in tun is the "English"). Etc. etc. PLUS: The high heels comparison made me laugh

Mixed bag for me with weed. Sometimes it really helps me to get some stuff, to relax, to feel and to connect the dots. I sometimes worked on weed and it really helped me to connect with people and to see things on a different level. Sometimes I smoked it when phasing out of a psychedelic experience and it was very calming, comfortable and soothing. Sometimes being active on weed - dancing, doing yoga, playing basketball - is simply amazing. But then, often I did (do) too much, too often and then it backfires. Psychological dependency, anxiety, inactivity, numbing myself. Used it for escapism as a teenager and never could fully get away from that coping mechanism. Right now I am in a mode of not using it for a couple of weeks and then using it intensively for 1-3 days. Typically when there is so much inner tension that I can't handle it and just want it to go away. (yes u might think now "don't run away, simply face the feelings or do breath work, meditation etc"..doing my best and my capability to do so increases but it's still a WIP.) I agree with the idea of ritual, conscious use - this is my ideal vision of my relationship with weed. 1-3 twice a month, on special occasion like meeting with friends, festivals, inner journeys etc.

Rigel made a good point IMO, happened to me. When I realize that I'm in this trap again, I do my best to focus on the following question when I wake up: "How can I make this a good day for me?" Careful not to pressure yourself into unrealistic expectations (like "this will be a good day if I resolve all the problems I had for months") but to focus on what is good and what you can do, best case what you can do right now.

I'm in. There are moments when I am overwhelmed. U could Call it karma, call it trauma, past experiences, call it energetic patterns or sth else. It feels like no matter what I try, no matter what I do - I am stuck with this. No way out and the cycle repeats. And while I see some responsibility of my own, I know that I had no control over certain things that happened e.g. in my childhood or have been passed along over generations. And then there are the moments in which sth else awakens. The feeling of "I will not be defined by this". The feeling of - "OK, mum, dad, grandparents - you did not do it - but I show you that you can. I will face it, feel it, experience it." And the ultimate hope, the ultimate goal is freedom. Freedom from all the bullshit I have picked up and also the bullshit I created myself on the way. Thx for reminding me @Javfly33. And all the best on your own mission

Soul Flight already made some good points. If you cannot do any of those actions proposed - accept it for now. Been there. It will pass. Be well

I like him : )

Maybe need some psychedelics first

Ok thank you, your reply helps me understand. IMO, interesting points I am gonna let sink in. In particular your perspective "I am God imagining reality, blocks, closes." Openness to unlimited reality for you is then to be present, to fully experience without judgement, to have none or minimum resistance to what is (or to accept if you did resist sth as it is also part of the experience)? Hope it's ok for me to ask but IMO these topics have a complexity where it is easy to assume or to misunderstand. Therefore I am trying to get a proper understanding of what you're saying, what you mean by certain words and terms. Also, non-native speaker here ; )

@Breakingthewall The points you make strongly resonate with me. Especially this below. At the same time, I wonder: I don't understand that. I figured perfection is just a human concept - how and why does "consciousness" care about it? For more complex, I get the idea. Two questions re this: "Forming patterns automatically" --> do you mean in a deterministic way? Or it just does it because there is no choice doing it, but only how to do it (meaning freedom of choice is there) You say that consciousness is not creating this reality in terms of playing a divine game for fun, but because it was "just" another step towards more complexity in its river of flow of creating ever more complexity? I was always attached to the idea of hide and seek in a divine play, but you got me wondering. If there is less (or none at all) divine play element in reality, and it is just another layer of complexity, what does it mean for me personally? Before I try having "fun" in this play, and try to rediscover what I forgot, awaken etc.. Now I am simply a tool in creating a new layer of complexity. Sure, reality makes it fun and interesting for me as a player in terms of incentives (love, sex, food, friendships, excitement, drama etc.) but in my mind, my personal life purpose shifted from "playing" towards "creating" and from "being" to "serving". (although those terms are not excluding each other)