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Just out of curiosity: More than 130 views for this post, and only one person has similar experiences? Those synchronicities can't be that special, can they? Or am I missing sth? Just to give you one other example how strange this feels for me sometimes: My (then) girlfriend wants to move to another flat. Same time, her aunt is looking to invest money into real estate. The aunt offers to buy a flat that my gf likes and to let her live in this flat. Obviously, my gf and me talked about it so this was in my field of awareness Some time later, I do a ride sharing. Random girl I never met before sits next to me. Guess what, she tells me she is about to move. Into a flat that her aunt is buying for her because her aunt wants to invest in real estate. I mean seriously, what are the odds of this happening? And as I said, I experience a lot of events like this. I know, some will say "reality is strange, we are all connected, law of attraction, mind creating reality, check your assumptions about reality" etc. Those arguments are fair. But come on, those kind of events are too specific to NOT NOTICE FOR ANYONE. And if it is so "normal" and "easy to explain" - why isn't anyone among my friends, relatives, colleagues etc telling me similar stories? Or people in this forum saying, "yeah, I know this, I have these kind of experiences all the time, too?"

Good questions. Thanks. My temporary answers in bold

Disclaimer: I just read the opeing post @integral I go through the emotion as best and as authentically as I can. Method: accept it, feel it, express it, show it. Showing people how I feel, acting as respectful as I can and as appropriate as I feel is "right" in the current context I dis-identify from that experience as best as I can. Methods to that: Talking, sleeping, sports, yoga, meditation....whatever works for now. I accept it as best as I can. Method 1: Mirroring. I imagine the person in front of me is a part of me. As long as this person is there, as long as I am exposed to this behavior, so long there is still a part of me that is the same way as the person in front of me. Method 2: I assume, that everybody is always doing the best he/she can at every point in time (I think I read this once from Marc Aurel, stoic perspective) In the cases where I successfully completed the bullets above, I typically have to laugh. About myself lol In cases where I did not successfully completed the bullets above, I unconsciously do the opposites. I do not accept, do not express, I do identify, I blame others. Process repeats until I manage to express, dis-identify and accept. Then I laugh. About myself I move on. Life surprises me. Whatever happens, happens. Recently discovered the cartoon below. Makes me smile https://x.com/IrenaBuzarewicz/status/1783166817906708567

Love this quote. For me, self-development goes along with duality of increased freedom - increased responsibility. Can't have one without the other. Alfred Adler has some nice concepts and ideas about it. Few notes: 1) Not easy to read 2) don't know how much of his book are available in English3) I don't agree with all of it (e.g. psychologist are all about, "patients", "healing" and "fixing things" - I see it as "learning, "creating" and "playing the game") 4) I still like him and pick the stuff I like and leave the rest. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Individual_psychology

@Tudo I don't believe you can solve that by contemplating, but by experience. Be an asshole and see where it gets you. Be a nice people pleaser and see where it get you. Find a balanced middle ground with some morale standards that sufficiently satisfy your needs. Then contemplate the experiences.

One idea: Consciousness becomes/creates human reality (experience) through he combination of mind and senses. The essence of such distinctions: Increasing understanding by division. We cut the reality into smaller pieces, get a better understanding of it. Then we can put it together again to better see the whole picture. But there are limits. In a book by Lisa Barret Feldmann, she used the analogy of a bread. You can look at a bread, slice it (putting space in between the different pieces), analyze it and try to figure out the ingredients as best as possible. It works to a degree. But be aware that when putting all ingredients+ process (heat in oven, cooling down) together, sth new is created (eg the crust of a bread, the fluffiness etc) . Mixed ingredients + construction process create sth you cannot completely solve "backwards". Universal mind.... I would put it into the realm of sth like logos, universal intelligence. But words and definitions become quite arbitrary. Use a concept as long as it has a practical value added. Move past it as soon as possible.

@Leo Gura I want to withdraw my previous statement. In Reply to your quote above, I wrote this: Today, I had some humbling experiences that showed me that I significantly underestimated the resistance to "I accept that I imagined humanity". Don't really know what to do with these experiences, but I thought one thing I can do is admit that I have not seen the full scale of this issue. I think it was Breakingthewall who made a point along the line of "if there is infinity and sth is still not solved yet then it won't be solved, otherwise it would have been solved already". So, it seems like that's there we are. Alone and still figuring out what to do with it.

@Keryo Koffa I can imagine there was also the intention to share some information that you found to be relevant and helpful for others. Appreciate that. If you feel up to a idea - would love to see your insights represented in a picture or a drawing instead of words ; )

I want to emphasize what thundercat mentioned: good Nervous System Regulation. Can be achieved through meditation, but there are countless ways. Just gotta find your ways. Or even better, your system of doing it. For instance, Yin Yoga in the evening works wonders for me. I don't need to try to stop the monkey - he just gently gets more and more tired and voluntarily becomes more open to the idea of sleep. Sometimes I don't feel like doing yoga, then I take a walk or sing, or both. The awareness and body scans from meditation helps me to get a feeling for the tension in my nervous system, so it becomes easier to find out what works in which situation. The more things I try, and the more I meditate, the more aware I get, the more integrated, connected and effective my system becomes. OC, it's not a "perfect" system and sometimes I am in monkey mind state. It's a process, but I like my progress

@Ishanga Nice way of describing role of awareness. "Awareness being a form of Intelligence that is not based on Memory, then we can Perceive with Clarity" --> leading to free will I can follow on your point of karma--> life partly predetermined --> relation to awareness and free will What I don't understand is why you see the spectrum as "possibility and potential". For me, those are synonyms rather than opposites. Can you elaborate on this pls?

I agree for the first statement. Second statement: That's an opinion, not a fact. Moreover - maybe not stop it yet? Who knows, maybe consciousness needs to learn how to be on its own? Third statement: Generalization and in my experience simply not true. For me it's a spectrum. One side "let me f*** sleep" and other side "please wake me up". Same as there are 8.1 billions views of reality as Ishanga said, there are 8.1 billion points on this spectrum. Completely resonates with me. The thing I wonder and would like to hear is your view an the assumed spectrum: Can we decide if we seek truth, meaning we can decide to have a desire for waking up? If not completely able to decide, can we influence it? Or is our point on the spectrum predetermined?

When I talk, who or what am I talking to? When I write this post, who or what is replying? When I go out on the street, who or what am I interacting with? When I meet my "friends" and "relatives", who am I actually meeting? Please, be as concrete as possible in your reply. No meta BS.

@UpperMasterI can totally resonate with this. Sometimes, there is a lot of new experiences, of new information (truth?) coming in. Then, my understanding of reality changes a lot in a very short time. It's like "pulling the rug" and I notice how it confuses me, makes me uncertain, makes me question sanity. Part of me wants stability, security, something to hang on to (Ishanga explains this well IMO). Part of me is almost begging for a plan, a concept, some goddamn certainty instead of this constant change. But it passes. Every time. And over time, I notice that I get used to this process, getting better and better at managing it. Like training a muscle. In terms of practical information: I tell myself: I trust my subconscious. It reveals exactly as much information as I am able to handle Physical sensations - breath, walking, riding bike, singing etc help me to ground myself. Or simple things like reading a book When questioning sanity, I learned it's good to interact with other people. Meeting my friends, spending time, talking with them about what I believe about reality. Getting feedback instead of running thought loops in my head I would questions three assumptions you make: Is it really a choice of happy OR truth? Who says, it can't be both? How you know? Can you know this? Maybe those two things are not contradictory, but complementary Not studying for your exam is "the wrong" thing. How do you know that? Maybe you need the experience of failing the exam? Maybe you should study sth else? Maybe you should not study at all, but start working now? There is an infinity of possibilities, and "I should be studying" is just one out those infinite scenarios Am I "insane" for seeing the world like this, or are most other people weird for NOT seeing what I see? Bonus question: What value does your current experience have? If you don't see any, what value COULD it have in the future?

I really wonder what's possible and where the limits of this experience can be stretched to. Sleep, dreaming, psychedelics, (deep) mediation already seem to be a kind of "pause" from this plane of existence I guess. But for me it still feels like doing a pause in this reality, now switching to another one. Question: Anyone doing astral journeys, or anyone having different kind of experiences in a sense of intentionally "switching between planes of existence"? Or taking sth like a intentional "pause" from this dimension and then returning into this one? A friend once told me that during a LSD trip on an unusual high dosage, he had a vision of sth like a gate opening up in front of him. He said that it felt like he was given a choice to either continuing in this plane of existence or leaving it. (He did not say that he could have done it, just that this was how it appeared for him) Personally, I had a psychedelic experience (also unusual strong dose, but psilocybin) that made me curious. There was the impression of "me" being able to create respectively to experience any possible world/reality. Yet, while had this feeling, I was still experiencing this feeling in this plane of existence. I was in my room, I identified as human, etc etc. And instead of getting the impression of having the choice of leaving this reality, I got the sensation of "I want to be in this particular reality". When I went a bit deeper into this, I also received a reason. I want to be in this particular reality, because in this reality, there are consequences. With each synchronicity, and with each "strange" experience in this reality I get more and more curious what's behind of whatever I am seeing in my everyday state of consciousness...

Thanks, where can I put my subscription on "pause"?

@Princess Arabia Yeah, bullseye for the meta BS

@BlueOak Soooo very much on point. Nicely expressed and perfectly fits my experience and what I see with other people. And that's why truth is so important - authentically expressing how we feel and think, gaining feedback in interactions, finding out if we are (unconsciously) lying to ourselves or not. Easier said then done, obviously. But simple and straightforward guideline.

Damn, I can be quite an asshole sometimes lol

Thanks for your replies so far. I'm processing what you are saying and what to do (or not to do) with it : )

Some structure in the text would have helped me understand what you want to say What do you want to say? Can you express it in a simple statement?

When I was doing my yoga teacher training, we had 1h of Indian philosophy each day. One day, Sadhu, our chaotic, charismatic, curly-haired teacher told a story. The lame man and the blind man A lame man and a blind man are lost in a forest. The blind man can not see. The lame man cannot walk. They both want to get out of the forest. In order to do so, they decide to work together. The lame man climbs on the shoulder of the blind man. The blind man - not seeing what's in front of him, but perfectly mobile - trusts in the lame man's directions. The lame man - seeing everything perfectly clear, but not being able to move - trusts in the blind man's ability to carry him and to follow his directions. Sadhu explains that one might see the lame man as consciousness (that, which is beyond matter) while the blind man represents humans (matter that can act in this reality). The lame man is seeing everything perfectly clear, knows everything all the time, but relies on us humans to execute actions. We humans in turn, have no clue what's going on and can do nothing but follow directions, act accordingly, and trust. The story made complete sense for me. It resonated so much with me, it felt like a deep insight, a deep epiphany. Until a bit later. Because later, one question came to my mind. This question bothered me a while. And a while longer. Until finally I found my answer to it. Honestly answering this question might help you approaching your questions above the same way it helped me approaching these kind of questions. The question that came to my mind is very simple: How the fuck did it happen that a lame man (that cannot walk!) and a blind man (that cannot see!) end up getting lost in a forest????

So very true - so much stranger than I ever could have imagined. Seeing how much my understanding / experience of reality changed in the last years or even just last few months I do not even dare to wonder where this journey will lead to. It's a very beautiful perspective, seeing it as a gift I can develop. A bit scary perspective, too. But I guess those two go hand in hand. Thanks for your response.

For me it's a lifelong learning process. It's a natural flow of change, a desire for change, which we can either resist or go along with. For me it's process of expansion - making the unconscious more conscious, making the invisible more visible, seeing and feeling connections that I did not notice before. It's an experience in which I learn 1) That my inner world (thoughts, emotions) is connected to external reality (events, situations, other humans) and 2) How much those two are influencing each other. For me it's an endless paradox. And endless flow of understanding and losing understanding. It's an endless flow of surprises. And it's a good joke

I like your calm energy, I get the feeling of authenticity. That's very important IMO - if I don't like you, I don't listen no matter how good the content +1 re volume and I want to add that I would change the angle of the camera. Feels to me the camera is a bit below your eye level --> I would put it a bit higher, feeling "eye to eye" Ask open questions and then give me (as viewer) a pause, a short break to process. E.G. "what are my credentials?" --> short break --> "First, 5000h of meditation.." etc etc Use breaks, short summaries, conclusions also to structure your content. Imagine you cut a loaf of bread into slices --> create spaces between different slices of content to make it easier to digest You background confuses me. If you want to create informational clarity with your video, make sure you provide as much clarity as possible. What I mean is 1. use a background that does calm my mind. Right now, the psychedelic lion you use rather creates chaos for me. It a new shape, its a bit mixed, my brain needs to get used to it. That takes away focus from your content. 2. If you want to use exactly this lion, then put in the center of your background so that it is symmetric. --> make sure you align your intention of the video with all the context surrounding it (!) Use pictures, metaphors, short, easy simple messages. Yes, analogies are simplified, but it's THE lesson for me from teaching myself --> metaphors, symbols, analogies stick the best Mix your presentation. At certain points, cut to a picture, or insert a quote on the screen etc. Keep my brain focused by giving different impulses from time to time. Not too much, not too many (see my point on clarity), but conscious mix of presentation methods. When I teach my students often tell me they like a mix much more then me talking only. Yes, it costs some time video editing but much can be achieved with little effort Engage me as a viewer. Connect your content to my personal life. Relevance, emotions, usefulness etc. Look into Storytelling methods. There is a reason why humans transfer knowledge via stories for ages All in all - I like your video. Pls see my points as (subjective) ideas, not criticism. Good luck!

@Yimpa Thanks for the video was quite informative for me