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Did not watch the video. But I can say that psylocibin had significant, sustainable and positive effects on my quality of life. Re relationships with others, re business, re relationship with myself, re learning, re joy of living and re nervous system. For example, it took a lot of fear out of my system & improved my attention control and communication. Used both, micro and macro dosing. Effects were not linear and accompanied by other interconnected actions (nutrition e.g.)

Since you mention mental health in your OP I want to share that one of the most valuable questions I ever got asked re questioning and exploring "mystical realms": "Is what you're doing actually good for you? My reflex was to reply "yes, that's what I'm curious, what I'm passionate about, I want to know this and that etc etc." Then I hesitated and paused this story I created for myself for a moment...and I began to wonder: HOW do I know that? HOW do I actually evaluate if something is good for me? HOW good are these indicators, how aware am I of them, and are they still up to date or relicts if my past? Long story short, I changed my attitude and behavioral patterns afterwards and include these questions much more in my daily life.

"The earth is flat" " It looks like it, but it's not.It because it looks like that from where are you now" "You are lying, from where I stand it's flat and always will be" "Walk the path, walk long enough, confirm or falsify for yourself" 'I don't need to do it, I can see from here I don't need to walk. I can watch YouTube videos instead" "Don't listen to me, OK. But if you're not willing to find out for yourself, how can you ever learn the truth "? "You shall be burned at the stake for saying the earth is not flat....but actually, if I look deep inside, I'm a scared little child that clings to external ideas to find something to grasp on in this frightening world. I experienced bad stuff in my life, I am afraid of being rejected, I am afraid of love and I don't know any better then to express my self this way" "It will pass. Just keep moving."

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I agree. That's how I experienced it, even if I didn't understand it back then. But not as total dissolution, a partial one for me I would say. And over time the dissolved part got modified/ replaced by sth else. Did not view it as picking at people. I think you just expressed information and your POV. In the end, the process so far as been definitely led to sth better. There was a phase where this was not the case, the dark night of the soul was kinda real for me. But now I feel my more integrated, and my quality of life - among other things - increased significantly. I can begin to sense how much more potential there is as I still hold a lot of tension in my body (and thus, limits in my mind /self structure)

+1 Took time for me to rebuild a stable self after my awakenings

Ok. So serious answer: I talk more about what truly matters to me. I wear less masks. I listen more. I judge less. Take people as they are as best as I can. I pay attention to act aligned and with integrity towards myself and others. Etc etc And if I do that, stuff happens that gives the chance for meaningful experiences and thus connections. In end, that's the key. A) spending time together and B) all parties are authentic, so that you can be yourself. That gives IME the chance for that meaningful connection you're asking

Best make two plans. If the first one fails. Or three, to have a backup for the backup. Nothing more satisfying and fulfilling than making plans and using them to try to control reality in a 1:1 setting of a date. Since reality is totally foreseeable and the magic of life - especially the magic of flirting and love making - is following plans, that's my favorite hobby! Making plans on how to interact, and describing reality with words - all to not be present and in the moment! Genius! When I was inexperienced in sex I had plans for which positions in which order, how deep I put my dick inside and how many thrusts. I even made plans re the power or my thrusts! Got a whole box of charts and concepts if someone is interested!

Do or did you have experiences that align with this model of mind as Universal Mind compared to individual mind? Focus is on noticing this in others, not within yourself during meditation, psychedelics, meditation, sensory deprivation, no-self. etc. For example When interacting with other people, you had the feeling that you're not talking to the individual (IM) but the (UM)? You had a strange feeling that the "entity" or "self" in front of you significantly changed during the course of your interaction? You had conversations with people, talked deeply about spiritual topics but later those people don't remember what they said? Randomly people appear in your life and give you "strange" questions or "strange" information that was for you out of context? For instance, stranger looking almost like a homeless guy sits next to you in subway and after 1 minute gives you a lecture about metaphysics, AI and quantum mechanics? You received information that had very much the flavor of being information that guide your future behavior? You had conversations where the individual said things that fit the description of UM below? E.g. "it's big job to align and take care of all those individuals" or that it "life might seem chaotic for you not but for me" You had conversations where you received information that very much like someone is teaching you something fundamental about yourself and life? You experience strange body sensations, "goosebumps", energetic flows, or similar during a conversation, when certain words are spoken? Some words seemed to have a coded meaning, not only literal one. For instance, the person in front of you tells you how she teaches lessons to her horse ("I check the horses state of mind, it' mood and get a feeling if it's ready to receive and process a new lesson"). And you can't shake that feeling that it's not (only) about the horse - it's a description how you are taught lessons in life Some words, sentences carried a deeper significance felt deep down inside you? You can't say what or how, but SOMETHING was just a bit DIFFERENT in this conversation I am ONLY interested in first hand, direct experience. No "he said, she said", no "teachers", no "gurus", no scripture. PLEASE IF YOU CAN'T FOCUS ON DIRECT EXPERIENCE DON'T POST HERE. _________________________________________________________________________________________ For simplification, here is a chatgpt summary of mind as described by John C Lilly. 1. Individual Mind (Personal / Biological Levels) The individual mind refers to levels of consciousness tied to a single organism, especially the human nervous system. Key characteristics: Biologically grounded Operates through the brain, body, and sensory systems. Ego-structured Includes identity, memory, language, emotions, and personal history. Conditioned and limited Shaped by culture, learning, trauma, and neurophysiology. Instrumental intelligence Focused on survival, problem-solving, prediction, and control within the physical world. Lilly often emphasized that the individual mind experiences itself as separate, localized, and bounded in space and time. 2. Universal Mind (Cosmic / Transpersonal Levels) The universal mind refers to a level of intelligence not confined to any single organism. Key characteristics: Non-local Not limited to a body, brain, or spatial location. Shared or collective Accessible in principle by all minds, though usually unconsciously. Underlying substrate of consciousness Individual minds are expressions, channels, or subsets of this larger field. Timeless and unbounded Not constrained by linear time or personal identity. Lilly described the universal mind as the source from which individual minds arise and into which they can temporarily merge, especially in altered states (e.g., meditation, sensory deprivation, psychedelics).

Yes. I think that's one of the reason why eastern philosophies (Buddhist teaching, yoga) include morals guidelines, integrity, e.g Yama and nyama. It just slowly sinks in for me how deep this affects my personal experience of life in every action and choice...

Thanks! I really got confused. How was it with introducing the idea of sex? Do I do it after the third negging and the sixth body contact? Or the sixth negging and the third body contact? Ah shit how was the rating again? Touching hand 0.5 points, touching hip 0.85 points and touching ass 1.5 point? And after a total of 5 points I can go for sex, but only if I hide my true intent to a degree of at least 6/10 right? So saying "let's have coffee at my place" is a ok? Or should I it be a more subtle "I live close by and I forget [ ....] and I really need it?" Guys, I'm so happy that there are all this dating coaches and videos nowadays! Really, without these instructions I would not know how to do ANYTHING. Must have been really super hard for people in the last centuries! How did they ever get some flirting and even sex going AT ALL?

Wtf WTF? What game teaches you? Are you a robot? 🤖 Are you also making plans how to kiss her? 💋 Ok this is my plan: First slight touch upper lip, the I use tip of my tongue, only tip to gently search her tongue, then I make a 0.65 second break, then left half of her lower lip, while I use my left hand - LEFT only - to touch her head and take a 0.64 step towards her, but only if her left foot is closer then her right. Again a break to swallow my saliva, and... then.... shit, do I use tongue or lips? What was the plan again???

Yeah and I think it goes even further when I start to think about it in practical terms of every life: Everyone knows everything about you anytime. What varies is how much you are aware of this knowledge. You can lie, but you're just hiding the truth from yourself. No matter what you do, think, say - universal mind knows. You talk bad on the phones about someone? It knows. You pretend not to be attracted by this man/woman? It know the truth. You pretend to like a person that you actually despise? It knows. As of know it seems to be that you can somehow influence how much you tap into the UM, and how much you stay "ignorant", playing the game of just the individual that is constraint to local phenomenas. So I guess that's what Shakespeare meant with "the world is a stage and we are merely players.."

Wow. Love that

" If you’re at Yellow or above (or late Green), do you experience this as well? No. I experience the opposite. It's getting easier to connect. How do you solve it?" 1) I don't categorize myself or people in stages or colours 2) I am as curious as I can be. And if I see that something bothers me in others, I check where I can find this part within me and integrate it as best as I can. 3) I wear purple sock on my left, and yellow - green sock on my right foot. I switch the colours every three days, except the third day falls on a Thursday. In that case, I buy a cat instead 😺

They got it all wrong. I think what really happened is that he ate the toe nails from his left foot. Only from the left one, however. The ones from the right foot he soaked in urine, added his semen and then gave them to his disciples

Simple solution: Drink, smoke weed AND THEN play D&D

Uhh I like that one. My favorite isn't the same in English, but it comes down to: "It is what it is."

Everyone is unique. But if you still want to compare - why not compare with someone that doesn't have date? Someone that is sick? Someone that is lieing in the trenches of Eastern Ukraine right now, alone, slowly bleeding to death? Every expectation towards the date will create pressure and takesaways joy. If I was you, I would maximizing presence in the date without any further goal. That's it. Be as present as you can, in the moment. Rest will come as it happens.

What the purpose is to forget? What if the purpose of reality is exactly to forget why you're doing it. That would be quite a bummer

I imagine it indeed a bit like the matrix movie. There's structured information, a code, a vibration and I can't read all of it. But "it" - God, Universal mind, brahman, whatever, whoever - can.

Yeah I know the feeling of "everything is for me" you describe. I think it was @Hojo who once posted here sth like "reality is a simulation constructed around you". And in my experience, the simulation reads both - the surface (what you do and say) and the "hidden" layers (fears, hopes) that you are not (fully) conscious of. Marvelous how this works! "The point of the magic seems to only be about the recognition of it itself. The recognition that this is magic." Love it! Alan Watts sits in the corner, hears, this nods and smiles 😁 "Somehow, I can give myself goosebumps on command. This might actually be worth looking into because it suggests a strong link between the prefrontal cortex and the autonomic circuits. Maybe spiritual perception is enhanced when this link is strong. Or maybe that's just another story trying to understand the magic. Or maybe it's both" I only know one other person that can do that. Don't know what the physiological reason is, but I bet my ass that everyone can increase his/her sensibility to mystical, spiritual, magical, psychic experience significantly and sustainably. For me the best methods have been fasting, Vipassana, body awareness, Yoga, holotropic breath work, psychedelics (including weed) and simply being present, no self (listening without the thinking, looking with judging, consciously walking).

Nice story

Embrace the randomness

Of course, you're working with limited tools. Words only without any body language, eye contact etc