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She send me a link with interesting events this weeks to choose from. Turns out that this week is a special sound event with workshops, concerts and exhibitions spread all over the town. It will be hard to find something close to my location. They are mostly 20/30 mins away. The closer ones are just art exhibitions. I will probably choose one thats more fun but further away or I'll try to make it fun.

@meta_maleIn this case it is really worth gold to understand what is a good move or a bad one. There are things to know which would otherwise need unecessary mistakes to learn from.

So my superman panties will work? The thing is, that there are spots that are maybe 30-40 min away from my place that are really good but I'm not sure if it's better just to go to the cetral district of my city or just a location near by. There is even an event called "sound bath" which is in a big hippy tent this friday which is 35km away and might be over kill but would be a perfect event.

Yes, I got a positive answer! She answered almost emediately that she's interested and it would be best to meet spontaneously the next days. Do you know what would be a good idea to go? Just coffee or a bar? Or just an interesting event? Should the location be close to my home? What steps should I inform myself next? Thank you all for your advice. 😊

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Thank you for your comments. 🙏@Leo Gura why not build rapport first and answer her question as the others said? Or should I answer them after directly asking her out? What is the psychology behind that?

Last weekend I met a girl at a rave and got her number. I haven't texted her and she wrote me today this (translated into english): "Hey, here is .... Did you have a nice sunday and start into the week? I find it nice having met you. I thought that maybe we could keep each other up to date abou new raves, exstatic dance, yoga, meditation. I'm also open to other topics." I'd interprete this that she has no interest but maybe I'm wrong. should I still ask her if she wants to grap a cup of coffee or come with me to an event? First after the night ended I thought it went well but haven't got the theoretical knowledge of game and after watching some videos I noticed lots of mistakes even though the vibe was very good during the night until it dropped at bit when I learnt that within 13 hours she was doing shrooms, mdma and some speed and then more mdma in front of me. The next morning I saw her and two other people from the night before and hung out a bit and she was really hung over and we talked only little. So I don't think that too much has stuck in her mind of night but it was fun. However I'd use this as opportunity to get experience. Should I still ask her for a date? I could answer "sure. There is this ... workshop this week. Do you want to accompany me? :)" or should I just straight ask her if she does want to go out?

@Leo Gura I want to make a comment about Leo's insight about play. The last few months I'm in a group of new agers that hosts raves and festivals almost every week and help there out. Last weekend I made it my objective to have fun, especially because I noticed the last weekend I was trying things too hard. My intent was to enjoy the evening and connect to people and it turned out amazing. I was juggling with my led balls and then I was dancing with my fan and people loved it. I was flowing with other flowartists and random girls and some guys together and fooled around a bit, throwing the balls back and forth and teasing one another and we all had a great time. The playing went so far that we created an impro performance and I and another girl came closer together and I notices that she was attracted to me but she pulled repeatedly slightly back when we became too intimate (it was still very intimate). I respected that and later I learnt that she has a boyfriend and that explained it all. She was with another more timid girl with whom I danced as well and I got her number and I'm planning on going on a date with her this or the next week. So thank you for your advice it has already helped me and maybe some others as well. 😁 Prove of concept: when you see, talk to, have fun and work with always the same people you build your cirlcle of friends and that also helpes a lot and you will feel more comfortable to relax and have fun. I also noticed that after the events I will need 2-3 days to ground myself from all those phantasies and crazy believes (of course some of it is true and helpful). Your posts about spiritual phantasies and epistimology has helped a lot with seeing and thinking through it. So thank you all.

What I wrote down from my contemplation is mainly that it is very profitable for the audiance and the person who promotes it as well as the platform and advertisers because it panders to the biases of shallow , underdeveloped low conscious people who are often too lazy to put in the effort emotional and cognitiv to understand the real relationships of the subject and seeing that you're probable so wrong that you'd habe to create a basis of knowledge from scratch. It sells unattainable pipe dreams while leaving out the real causes for the results which might include genetics, upbringing, socioeconomical matrix, manipulation and lying. Other factors that play into it are that many people are low iq and/or uneducated so that they cannot differentiate between a scientist talking mumbo jumbo and a crack pot spitballing scientific sounding words. Moreover people don't think about the things they hear or question it especially if it confirms their biases and because they love their phantasies and hate deconstruction of them. It also caters to the feeling of knowing stuff and the fear if one doesn't know. It helps avoiding facing core issues like insecurity and traumas and deying their existance. Also the growing distrust of mainstream media and trust of alternativ media plays into it. For the streamer it is profitable because he can milk his audiance, reinforces his own phantasies of greatness and feeding his ego and ego needs. Especially our hype culture and the structure of social media plays into that where new exiting and shallow things are promoted while hindering access to more accurate and dry solutions, addicting the mind in the process. It is profitible for the advertisors because they get eyeballs and find a pool of shallow, low developed target audiance whe is eager to buy stuff. The media platform profits from it because its all designed to keep the viewer as long as possible behind the display and make money with the adds while polluting his mind. What I noticed on a deeper level is how every mind must fit in its niche to work for all of it. After reading the prior comments I add that it's also not profitable in the sense that it pollutes the knowledge ecosystem which makes our society more stupid and often hateful and it becomes harder to discern truth from falsehood. The polltion of our minds and the deeds originating from it are also destructive and promote selfishness Truth is nessesary for real solutions like facing your real motives for wanting to be pumped up or for the mechanics of getting a mate, skills or how reality really works in general. Have I missed other aspects?

There's been no evidence that Iran was actually building a atomic bomb, even from the reports of US intelligence the months before the attack and we all know that Netanyahu has been waiting for an good oportinity to go to war woth Iran for decades and has even made all kind of efforts to drag the US into it. I think he just lied like before because the opportunity with Trump in office is the perfect blanco cheque for all kind of evil things for all the shady leaders in the world.

US fighter jets are being deployed in the near east from the US. It's highly likely the us will support Israel in bombing Iran into a regime change or even deploy troops.

@Leo GuraI noticed what you wrote in your blog post about severing the umbilical cord of society a lot recently. First a little introductionabout the situation where you can see a general problematic trend in the progressiv world view. I'm volunteering in a group that has the goal to give affordable access to art and culture and workshops in my city and we are driven out from our present location in a tiny forrest to make room for a tourist visitor center from an attraction around the corner and I know that my progressive friends don't see clearly during the negotiations with the local goverment how pragmatic survival is. They are optimistic to the point of naivity that we don't have to take proactive actions and look for donors for the relocation even though the city doesn't have 80k for this and won't give free hand outs easily in our current austerity and also the government is clearly stalling the negotiations. The members of our collective are thinking that the benevolent department head who gives us good proposals but has no power will safe us even though two proposals he made were denied by the mayor before. In my oppinion they are too honest and blind to see how good we are gamed by a conservative politician who deals with such problems every day. I also noticed that they fight the founder of our project who had the vision and talent in organising the whole thing including building structures and cooperations and set up the structure and negotitating with the government. She doesn't have that much time for the group any longer but she clearly cares and tries to keep her vision alive but from the groups perspective she isn't special and regarded as arrogant and dangerous for trying to influence us and accused of building a hirachy through leadership. Now about the blog post. The thing I noticed is that when I think for myself at home I can clearly comprehend what's happening to us by the local government and can think critically but when I'm there I become stupid and feel the urge to comform. Actually it's more than an urge, it's like a force that adjusts my thinking and behaviour. Additionally it's hard to explain how survival happens, what ego developement and selfishness is, especially because it goes against our group's core values of equality and fairness. It's also an effort to frame the problem and solutions in a certain way so that my explainations don't trigger someone, especially because I'm more direct. Also our meetings are also not meant to go that deep in philosophy and they think they already know how stuff works. In general I also noticed that in conversations with other people I care that I frame things in a likeble way even if it bends the truth to fit the situation. I was shocked when I saw how I bend the truth to max survival but then I've seen that everybody does that to different degrees and I cannot truth bomb people because nobody likes it to hear even though in some cases it would be a real and more sustainable solution to the problems. It differs in degree from group to group and person to person but it's a general trend in left groups that you have to use their wordings and if you critisize the subject or idiology you get easily smeared and outcast as I have seen with other people. All this is the summary from my observations.

@zurew I'd take leo serious. Right now after 5-6 years of work I'm starting to understand things about reality and when I watch his 5-7 years old episodes I realise that he understood it and was talking about it years ago. He's been doing understanding and getting conscious of things for years day after day.

On a healing festival once a friend went into a workshop where they were taking mdma and chanting in high frequency and after that all had a gang bang to balance their energies.

@Leo Gurasame problem with the access to the video. I'm not sure if I've found the right one. If this is the right one it's note worthy that a big part of rural eastern europe lived in similiar fashion until the late eighties. So that people know that it's closer home than many think. In some rural villiages even arranged marriages happened until the sixties and seventies. But it's nothing like a dark shed in the snowey mountains of Tibet.