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@Breakingthewall well put

Any tips for dealing with the fear and anxiety that appears when I start to contemplate self-deception and also observe it in myself. I don't exactly feel the anxiety, but I start to experience its physiological manifestations (including shortage of breath). Due to all of this, I have to engage myself in other activities (Like reading or socializing) and take a break from introspection to avoid pushing myself too far. Also, are there any techniques that you use and practices that help you get a hold of self deception. Something that can be done every day and lead to compounding benefits after a few years?

@Ely Higgins 100%. You are welcome brother. Remember: Once you are past this phase, you'll recognize your true power. So, none of this is in vain.

@Ely Higgins Yeah it is too spiritual imo. You shouldn't be spending too much time alone or doing nothing. Ideally, you should be involved in an activity or having authentic conversations with people, anything that takes you out of your head. You see by talking to other people, you'll start to develop a sense of self (which might have shattered because of the expansion of consciousness). So, once you start to notice that the sense of self is getting too strong now (probably in 2-3 months), you can safely return to spirituality again. If you need someone to talk to, you can always hit me up in private.

You need to pace yourself brother. Life is a marathon, not a race. You have pushed past the limits of your ego to the point where your it can't handle the expansion of consciousness. You are also addicted to several substances (or were in the past) which can make it difficult to handle otherwise bearable situations. So, focus on straightening that wrinkle out. Finally, as you noticed, you need human interaction. Start by listening to others. Not hearing but listening. Try to marvel at the awesomeness of speaking, language, and comprehension. That other people can communicate their implicit experience to you and you can try to do the same to them by being authentic and vulnerable. I went through this phase of nihilism and insanity too. But I expressed my experience authentically to my friends and family, I didn't wait for them to save me. I showed up authentically and turned out that was all I needed. You may need serious psychological help. But I suggest that you try the things above. And give the whole spiritual thing a break.

@Gesundheit2 She made it sound so easy Lmao

Cheating is a breach of trust and commitment in a relationship. It can cause emotional pain and damage to the relationship, leading to breakups or divorces. While some people may rationalize cheating by attributing it to biological or evolutionary factors, it is ultimately a choice that an individual makes and is responsible for. In response to your scenario, if someone has found their ideal partner and is fully satisfied with the relationship, they should have no reason to cheat. Even if presented with an opportunity for "thrill," the consequences of cheating on their partner and damaging the relationship would outweigh any temporary excitement. In a healthy and committed relationship, both partners should prioritize open communication, trust, and mutual respect. If either partner feels the need to seek fulfillment outside the relationship, it is essential to address the underlying issues and work towards a resolution that benefits both individuals. Ultimately, the decision to cheat or remain faithful is a personal choice that reflects one's values and commitment to their partner.

contemplate death and time, daily.

This helps, if anyone is experiencing something similar.

Heartbreak is rather the side effect of your resistance to being saved.

@Leo Gura You probably already have a supercomputer on steroids (or psychedelics rather) running at full capacity, in your skull.

@MisterNobody It's not a dumb quote. It's a law of the Universe. It's the 80/20 principle. Open your mind. You asked to be challenged, I didn't know you were going to disqualify the challenge in your spiritual arrogance.

So I met a girl online, she was a 7 or an 8 (According to herself). We texted for a day or two on instagram and there was plenty that we had in common (she listens to Leo as well). And after this back and forth, I asked her out by saying if she was looking for a relationship or not. And she politely declined by saying that she didn't feel attracted to me physically. She said women have a type physically, it doesn't depend on big muscles, and that she didn't feel attracted to 10s in fact, most of her exs' were 6s or 7s. So, what do you guys think this is? What role does physical attraction play in a relationship?

Have you tried chat Gpt ?

“For to everyone who has, more shall be given, and he will have an abundance; but from the one who does not have, even what he does have shall be taken away." Explain this.

@Leo Gura Exactly. There is no way to be sure. ... which is much more rewarding, imo, then just catching her in the right mood. For sure.

@flowboy Yeah, that's pretty clear now ... Of course. Direct experience outweighsthe rest. But it's interesting to observe how different women precieve themselves, especially in terms of attraction and being charmed.

@NoSelfSelf Hahah no, it wasn't negotiation. Just for the sake of understanding.

@Leo Gura @NoSelfSelf @flowboy So, It's the same thing pointed out by all of you. Too much Logic, too little emotion. Noted. I already knew this principle, but this time I thought maybe, just this one time, because we hold the same values and follow the same teachings etc, that it would be enough. And Btw, I discussed all of this with her, but she insisted that it was purely physical, and that she has been through the phase where all of this works, and now she can see through it. She also insited even if I had been more charismatic and less logical, her decision would have been the same.

Have you realized that the distinction between death and life is an illusion, just like rest of the distinctions ?

Try to build focus. Incorporate a concentration practice. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sSxtR4psOoQ&t=1334s

Setting a routine helps a lot. Sleep and wake up on a fixed time. Build focus. Don't try to take on too many projects. Just limit yourself to 3-4 important things per day on working days and leaving the rest for the weekend. Eleminate all distractions (social media, youtube, Tv, Netflix) leave that for weekends.

Have authentic conversations with people (Friends and family). Don't try to do too much and guilt yourself for being unproductive, forget about all of that for some time. Spend time trying out new experiences (preferably with other people). Fix your sleep schedule. Get Sunlight. Vit D supplements. (Vit D helps in the production of seretonin). Eat a high-protein and high-fat breakfat everyday, google is your friend for recipes (skip the simple carbs). Go on a walk. Write down whatever's going on in yopur mind. Don't try to edit it, just keep writing.