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Yes, but aren’t regular guys’ standards for women too high? Especially when it comes to appearance? And what do you mean by crumbs? What type of women would a regular guy consider as crumbs?

Do you think that men receive platonic attention from women? This is interesting, because while men often crave sexual attention from women, women tend to crave platonic attention. Many women feel disrespected and ignored by men unless these men find them sexually attractive or available.

Yes, that’s important to mention. Thank you for the clarification.

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Many times, especially in more conservative countries, the women who hold power in society tend to be the ones who internalize masculine and patriarchal values. They see themselves almost like men with different genitalia. They are emotionally detached from their femininity, womanhood, and other women. They even may see themselves as superior to other women, not all of them, but I believe this is a large portion. They usually don’t try to shake the boat. There are women in positions of power who intend to shake the boat, but there are not enough of them. They are still expected to conform in order to hold these positions, depending on the country. I agree that restricting social media access under 16 is a great move in Australia! Australia is a developed country with almost 50% of women in the government, which gives women more power to make decisions, but countries like Australia are the exception rather than the rule.

I actually do accept that there is toxicity among feminists; I certainly don’t deny it. There is a worldwide increase in narcissism, and it doesn’t skip women who are identified as feminists. Narcissistic women tend to justify their immoral and dysfunctional behavior in their relationships, workplaces, and motherhood with feminist arguments, while they actually have no compassion or real concern about women’s and feminist issues, and only use them when it serves them. This, of course, hurts the legitimacy of the fight for women’s rights, because when anti-feminists want to discredit feminism, they use those narcissistic feminist women as the example. They never refer to feminist literature, for example, or to real feminist discussions. But I also think that many things feminist women say are misunderstood and taken out of context. For example, let’s take the sentence, “incredible men are just average women.” This can be easily seen as misandry or female supremacy, because it implies that men are inherently broken in comparison to women. But what if it was taken out of context? I believe that the original discussion is about men being praised and seen as exceptional for doing standard things that women do without being praised as exceptional. For example, emotional labor and caretaking, parenthood, and house labor. Women are expected to do these things, and no one sees them as doing something special or exceptional, while men are praised for it. But again, this is my assumption, because I don’t know the source of this claim.

@CARDOZZO I don’t know about cyborgs, so I will not talk about it. My intuition says that this is just a distraction from the real issue, but again, I need to study this more. And yes, I am aware that what I am talking about is something that is more advanced and will not happen soon.

All humans from all races are still very genetically close. They are more similar than different. Even if there are some genetic differences, they are small and irrelevant and do not mean that one race is superior to another. We can accept the differences of each group of people without categorizing them into some artificial hierarchy of power. We can accept the biological differences between men and women without discriminating against each other. Yes, I am probably idealistic and I expect too much from society, but I think that this is possible in the future. Regarding the distribution of material resources, it is not a problem, because there is no scarcity.

By getting along with women, do you mean romantically? What about platonic relationships with women? Do incels and red pillers exist because of women? What can women do now to make them not exist? Men in power influence younger men and dictate masculinity. Young men admire men in power and look up to them, even if they misleading them, which is mostly the case.

Exactly.

No, this is not what I said. The first victims of white supremacy culture were white people, their indigenous religions, which connected them to nature and their humanity, were erased in favor of becoming white. Then they imposed it on the rest of the world. If white people are aware of the way their attachment to white culture is hurting them snd disconnects them from their humanity, and hurting the rest of the world, we can start to heal and create a better world in which everybody would benefit. (more about the deconstruction of whiteness: https://christianortiz.substack.com/p/you-werent-born-white-you-were-made ) Same with patriarchy. In order to become a patriarch, a man has to erase part of himself, his femininity, even though it makes him whole, complete, and happy, he traded it for dominance and control. And now he is miserable. No amount of money or power will fill the hole.

I don’t have suicidal ideation, I have too strong an attachment to life, but I can understand why people choose it, especially when I feel at my lowest. I love listening to this video, and I believe it can be helpful to people with suicidal ideation. There are some good arguments there.

Clarice Lispector: https://miscelana.com/2025/07/12/clarice-always-her/

Such a good question. A non-patriarchal society would be centered around motherhood and children. Children are the life force of society, they are the future! And mothers, who bring children into the world, do difficult and sacred labor that is overlooked under patriarchy. Look at how single mothers are treated, and even non-single mothers. They are not appreciated enough, society doesn’t care about mothers much, even though they perform some of the most difficult labor in the world. Under patriarchy, society is centered around the male ego and its will to be immortal. There is a severe issue with surrender and the acceptance of death. Women and children are used as mere tools to protect men’s ego and “continuity,” rather than being recognized as the life force they are. Patriarchy is a cult of death, of old men. Of materialism, of rationality, of capitalism, of colonialism. Death for everyone else but patriarchy, it is like a malignant cancer that would kill every single healthy cell in order to thrive. There is an accumulation of possessions and greed rather than sharing. This is not human nature. Healthy humans share once their basic needs are met, sick humans hoard at the expense of everyone else. There is an emphasis on artificial hierarchy rather than a natural one, which is do disconnected from truth. Repression of emotions and creativity. Have you noticed that the most intuitive, feminine, creative, and highly compassionate people usually would be the poorest and most under appreciated people under patriarchy, while the most egocentric, narcissistic, psychopathic people are the biggest winners. Imagine a society in which compassion and creativity are among the top values and how advanced such society is. This is a non-patriarchal society. It has nothing to do with misandry or female supremacy. In fact, when I criticize patriarchy, I do it out of love for humanity, women and men, children and animals, and everyone on this planet. I want everyone to thrive. I am seeing the potential of what we could become. If you are open enough, I can share more resources like this: https://celestemdavis.substack.com/p/the-antidote-to-patriarchy-and-patriarchal?utm_campaign=posts-open-in-app&triedRedirect=true

The language you use, such as men being “denied” sex, is incel and red pill rhetoric of entitlement. This is problematic and shows a lack of empathy toward women, which may be the reason you are “denied” sex to begin with, because you are not emotionally safe. I can empathize with your pain and romantic needs, but you don’t have to turn them into such rhetoric and blame all of your problems on women while never holding men in power (and the men and women who enable them) that reinforce the system which hurts everyone, accountable.

I see this among conservatives, the pro-life dudes, the incels, the red pills, the religious authorities, but also among liberal men and even “normal” dudes, in the way they consume women’s bodies in the form of porn and talk about women when there are no women around. The dehumanizing and degrading way it happens speaks entitlement. The covert and subtle misogyny, the two-faced nice guy. And this is not a black or white issue. Men are certainly victims of patriarchy, but also the enablers of it. Women enable it too, especially the right-wing conservative ones, but there are various women who enable it without realizing. Patriarchy is a system which enables male and female toxic behavior, which protects first and foremost the most immoral men and the women who unconditionally support them. But the issue I see with men who get hurt by patriarchy is that they rarely blame it on the patriarchy or the elite men who reinforce those patriarchal beliefs, they admire them! They always blame women. They rarely look inside, or in the right direction, to understand it and to make life better for everyone.

😂 Brazilian Portuguese is beautiful. One of my favorite novelists is Brazilian. If I had enough time, I would study this language only to read her novels in her native language, to experience her art through this complex and poetic language. I am also not perfect with English, I write better than I speak.

I am happy for you that you have reached this level of peace. I don’t think that all men feel entitled to women’s bodies either, but there are enough men who feel entitled enough to cause serious damage across the globe, regardless of their background.

I can understand what an intense sexual drive is. Women experience it as well. I know how it feels. I don’t know how strong it is compared to men, it is difficult to compare. But I can’t imagine hurting someone and feeling entitled to someone’s body just because I feel an intense sexual drive. It doesn’t make sense.

I can accept that there is a biological male sexual drive, which is more intense for biological reasons. But I also can’t help but notice an additional layer that increases male sexual competition, and that is the social one. The social pressure put on men to chase sex as much as they can, as a tool to validate their status and masculinity within the society. Sexual energy can be channeled into human connection and bonding, great inventions, creativity, and contributions to humanity, or it can be channeled toward the destruction of life, children, women’s bodies. I feel that since we live in a patriarchal society, it is far more lenient with men doing the latter. It enables it. So I don’t think that men’s entitlement to women’s bodies is justified just because they have a strong sexual drive. Men’s entitlement is more due to misogyny and dehumanization of women.

Hahaha they talk through me, occupied my mind entirely, could you believe? I speak Russian, Hebrew and English. Those are the main alien parasites. But now when I think about it, I have MAP (Minor Alien Parasites) like some Spanish here and there, some Arabic, some Korean and even Sanskrit. How do you live with your Portuguese Alien parasite (are they nice to you)? Is your English alien parasite is the american or british one? 🤔 Now I’m curious.

Looks interesting. I would like to read this book. I don't want alien parasites stopping me from perceiving reality. I have 3 aliens parasites (that I am aware of).

Beautiful. That's why I'm attracted to emotionally mature men 🙂 I see what you mean, that it is less socially acceptable for men to connect with women by directly expressing emotions, so the only thing left is sex. I still don't like the way men talk about sex and the entitlement around it.

I think that women view sex more as a way to connect with men emotionally, while men tend to view it less that way, if I am being realistic.