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@Tyler Robinson Is 'strength' more important, or 'having an interesting personality'?! The latter is said to come from having a 'sense of humor'. There are all of these myths in the male world. What do you have to say about them?

Do you like someone who's serious or do you like someone who has a good sense of humor?! The mixed-message is undeniable.

That's what a monarch fundamentally is. A slave-master. And that's how they see themselves, no matter who you are! This was not an assumption about you. It was merely a fact about monarchy.

You can feel free to mourn the loss of your slave-masters. In the meantime, here's what the Irish have to say about that.

@Someone here Where do you live? If you live in a small-town in India, that's a very, very obvious problem. Chase some success and move to a big city. Like Mumbai, Delhi or Chennai. Or, better still, tourist-destinations like Goa, Pondicherry, etc. There you'll meet lots of hot women. And online-dating is by far the worst way to meet women. You should look to meet them through work-circles or gym-circles. If you go to the gym, for example, 99% of your confidence-issues with escalation will go away! That's how you bridge the 'league-gap', so to speak, in terms of looks. Cuz your body-language and skin will get better.

I would rather ask her for her 'dating-resume' lol.

@Norbert Somogyi You're welcome! With all due respect, when you say you don't want a long-term relationship right now, I don't get it. The reason being that you're getting attached to women with whom things go well. If you have karma to burn, maybe consider open relationships?

You need to rewire your subconscious such that you're attracted to women who you're compatible with. Essentially, you need to really learn compatibility. The issue right now is that on the one hand, you're getting attached to these women who you don't really want a long-term relationship with (essentially, you're friendzoning them), on the other hand, there are going to be some really hot women who you want a long-term relationship with, for rational, sexual-compatibility reasons, but you're not pursuing that. My suggestion would be to pursue that! And stop wasting your time getting attached to girls you don't want a long-term relationship with. HTH!!

RIP Trust-fund billionaire who is irrelevant to modern times.

@Vercingetorix Have standards for the quality of woman you will approach.

@Jalextheopenminded You were talking about tourism, so that's what I responded to. All of this is being done for capitalistic, marketing-purposes. Grifters benefit from keeping it alive! The reason authenticity has such a strong pull on us, in this context, is the fact that humanity, as a whole, has a common history. Cuz the past cannot be changed, whatever happened happened, so a big uniting force is having the same historic worldview being taught across schools all over the world. History gives us a collective identity, a collective worldview. We are our past! We are our past memories. No past, no identity! The reason authenticity has such a strong pull on us, is that it calls us to ourselves, our identity. Collectively.

The idea is that ultimately, our Absolute God-self is the creator of everything. Including the cultures that are 'externally created'. But, as a human self, the way we 'create' it, is by getting someone else to create it for us! If we're in the tourist-role. And, if we're in the tourism-role, we do the creating in and of itself! Humans are finite and limited in what we can do. So, we help each other get what we want, through transactions. #Capitalism. And yes, the corruptions of capitalism will affect your creations and the intellectual-integrity of it. Cuz reality is a strange-loop, therefore all the creations will have a 'glitch' in them. Because they're imperfect!

@assx95 Do you want to be with women whose friends don't respect the privacy of her dating-life?! It's the awkwardness created by her friend that was the problem. You didn't reject yourself. You rejected her! I wouldn't worry too much about it.

War is good because it makes you appreciate the peace that you had. Basically! About WW2 - that's where we got the desire for World Peace. Cuz in the Holocaust, we saw the ugliness of industrial warfare.

'Inflation makes you appreciate what you had'!!

@7thLetter Depends on how well you understand women. My first priority in your position would be to understand women, how they work, how to attract them, how to hook them, maybe get laid before I figure out what 'having it together' even means, in the context of dating. And yeah. At this stage, keep it casual. Don't try to get too serious. And if you find yourself wanting to get serious, that's desperation. Maybe get therapy, maybe do shadow-work to resolve that stuff. Whatever you do, don't cope with it or assume that a woman is going to fix that for you. Now, if you're past this part and you have no problem attracting women, you know what you want and how to get it and now, you want to build your life up for a serious relationship, now casual sex is a waste of your time. Now, you cut out the distractions and build yourself up. The reason for this order of doing things is that I would want to make sure that the way I'm attracting women isn't dependent on things like my body, my money or my social-status. I would want to be able to attract women only using my game. Cuz that's how to find true compatibility and that's how to have a relationship last long-term. You don't want your 'personal-development' to be the reason your woman sticks around. Cuz if that's the case, when shit hits the fan, she'll leave you. You want someone who will be with you in the journey. Not someone who will 'stand at the finish-line and pick the winner' as the Entrepreneurs in Cars guy says!!

Let's say you are at a restaurant-table and let's say someone on an adjacent table is not following your definition of 'proper etiquette'. Nothing unhygienic or gross, just not the most conventional table-manners. Would you be judging them for it?

Whenever someone says 'love yourself', a lot of times, it's because they don't want to love you! So, I tend to want to next them. That's the most self-loving thing I can do! But, they don't understand the ramifications of 'self-love'. It's just theory that they're conditioned with.

It means, be loud and obnoxious. Cuz if you're quiet/introverted, women see that as 'meek'/'weak'.

That's it?! Is that all 'self-love' takes?! Okay, that's easy, I can do that. That's the popular image of 'self-love' right now. Doesn't have much to do with what 'love' actually means, it doesn't mean 'approval', but whatever. In essence, they're saying, hold a positive frame. I mean, that's kinda shallow. And it's easy to trick them by being inauthentic using an image of 'authenticity'. I don't know why they think that being 'self-loving' and 'trying to get women's approval' are mutually exclusive. That's the image right now, I guess. I think they're projecting their tendency to chase men's approval and this gets in the way of their self-love. That's a possibility.

Something I find very interesting here is that whenever I say something that you disagree with, your rationalization is 'you don't have enough experience with women. Go talk to women and you'll see that I'm right'. I could do the same thing! I could say that 'you don't know what I'm talking about cuz you don't have experience with women'. Just throwing it out there. It's disrespectful. It's like saying 'you can't know what a woman is, if you're not a biologist' or something absurd like that. This is not an issue of 'growing bitter'. This is an issue of vetting. Here's the thing, though - you can. I can be confident and choose to behave however I want!! But, their so-called 'sixth-sense' would not pick up on it. And I'd have to get manipulative now to show them how 'confident' I am.

Looks like I'm going to have to spill the beans. Women get an idea of what a 'competent man' is, from their fathers. And this is where they get their subconscious definition of 'strength'. And, if their fathers were faking 'confidence', which a lot of them are, this fucks up their internal compass. And, they hold onto it, cuz daddy! In theory, you're right. In practice, some of them can't smell confidence. They can smell what they associate with confidence. Which is money, status, a certain body-posture, a certain way of walking, a certain way of talking, etc. That's how they do it. If we're talking about pure biological instinct. Now, some women are smart and they can see through fake confidence. Some can't. We take what women offer to us. If women weren't competing against each other to be hotter, trust me, we wouldn't even have an idea of a 'hot woman'. They exist because they want to exist!

@petar8p Well, confidence that has to be proven by their reactions isn't really confidence now, is it?! I'm talking about their problematic interpretations of my behavior and what they make it mean about 'confidence'. Confidence, is a feeling-state. And that has nothing to do with my choice to act a certain way!

Is it evolved intuition? Or conditioning? And if it is conditioning, how do you break it without rational thought?

That is pretty scary. That it's just a 'biological radar', that no thought gets put into it from their side. I've had women mistake my silent confidence for meekness/weakness. And trust me, when that happens, you lose all trust for their biological instincts. Kinda like someone who gets molested loses trust for other people's biological instincts! Seriously, man. We have lost trust for each other's opinions so much that PUAs say 'just don't listen to women on dating'.