Devin

What do you get sick of? A need of mine is time and space away from them, I cannot spend every non working moment with them like a cheesy sitcom. And I also don't just mean hours, but days, even a week or more occasionally, we do not merge into one. She has to have friends for this to work by the way, women don't like being alone. Have fun with them, explore stuff, team up on life stuff, you need to have a mutually agreeable life direction, but I think you need to remain two different people.

@NoSelfSelf sincerely I would like to hear more, I by no means know what I'm saying is absolutely true. I apologize if I was being disrespectful, I think there's cultural differences in how we communicate, I will be more cautious if you would please proceed. I will say, if I were to be with the average woman your way would be my way. I think I would prefer being single to that though, that feels like you have a kid you have to take care of the rest of your life.

They have a knife at the throat of democracy and ethics and morality, they're cowards like that of all heinous acts in history, there are times for civility for saving up the potency of vulgarity for when it is time for it. If you don't like the bluntness you wouldn't like the violence it's trying to prevent.

Red- teasing; drunk at bar, or high school sweet hearts Orange- compliment; college sweethearts, or sober at bar Green- mutual interest, question; event, activity Yellow- casual conversation with random stranger, small talk; anywhere

I can't. I want to know more

Healthy relationship is win win

Sounds like your type of relationship to me; someone wins someone loses

Yeah I like to be pretty cutthroat during the introductory phase of people, unless you're wanting someone pretty bad right now. My thought is I'm well above average and I want above average, which means you're gonna pass on most people, so if someone screws up like the disrespectful stuff you're describing I'm done with them on that go around, no hate and always willing to give another chance if they look promising again, but I move to the next one like speed dating or something, just go with your gut. If you start passing on everyone you'll start to recalibrate, you'll get screwed and then recalibrate back the other way, always improving. Meet a lot of people though

How do I feel?

The only criticism of religious people is that they want to force others to follow their beliefs. Your "Irreligious" folks are not trying to force self proclaimed"religious" folk to follow irreligious beliefs. Don't tell others how to live, is the problem.

Have you looked into the emotional guidance scale by Abraham hicks? "Like Nisargadatta says, stay with "I am". Like Jesus, says, seek first the kingdom of heaven. Like Louise Hay says, approve of yourself, like Abraham Hicks says, get in the Vortex and then." Be content, accept what you have and don't have, appreciate what you have, right now you can't have anything other than what you have so try to be happy with what you have; happiness and joy is where motivation comes from to do what you want. Fear will motivate you to do what you don't want Follow the emotional guidance scale to identify, acknowledge, and that releases the chains, then that allows you to move up the scale to get to joy where you have complete freedom(motivation) Quit comparing yourself to others, admit and feel jealousy, appreciate what you have to be happy; only then will you have control of yourself, you're repressing your emotions to do something (will power), doing something really doesn't matter, joy is what really matters. And when you have joy then you have complete control of yourself and motivation You can look at others for things you want to try, but not to see what you're lacking; you're lacking nothing, joy is yours if you choose it, and all that matters is joy, therefore you have everything, everything else is made up, it's just entertainment, a distraction, partake if you want but it has no meaning Is it possible for you to enjoy right now? Your breathing, the sky, drinking water....? Do that, enjoy, know that joy is your choice at any moment, choose to always live in joy, THEN, you can do what you want. Although, for a time you will likely want to soak up those simple joys, but don't fear you won't move on to something else in the world, you will. This is the rest and relaxation im talking about.

I think the greatest motivator for me might just be rest and relaxation actually, you get all rested and raring to go take on the world

I just read something like "pain is actually the part that moves us away from something", and I remember a swami talking about how the craziness and suffering that people "cause" us is a gift to keep us walking away from them. If you were comfortable in normal life, no pain, why would you seek something else?

If the forum was more rigidly controlled it would be more respectful and peaceful but less creative and more like a cult. There are Zen forums for what you may be wanting. Hopefully you feel love sometimes though, a lot of caring people here, they all seem caring to me actually, but they are people.

Does anyone really think we're going to get off fossil fuels as quickly as people are insinuating? 84% world energy is fossil fuel and it's been only slowly decreasing since the 80s and that includes hydro and nuclear as non fossil fuels At what level of fossil fuel use do we need to get to? And how could we reasonably get to that level?

we're going to need her number

@NoSelfSelf please proceed, none of us are lactose intolerant

@NoSelfSelf how about wozniak and jobs? Ever hear of Apple? Edison and Chase? Ford and Firestone? How about PayPal musks first thing; he did it with partners and what's better than a successful business partner/best friend that you have sex with!!!!! A maid?!?!? Even if you get to sleep with her!!!!! It has traditional and primal survival value I give you that, but it ain't the Crème de la crème I don't think so anyways! But glad to hear an explanation

By that logic Sperm are autonomous being/entity capable of feelings, thought and virtually every other functions that is done by a fully developed human body. You ever watch a microscopic view of sperm? They have character?, intentionally removing them from your body with no intention to help continue that life must be murder then eh? Male masturbation or pulling out must be a massacre then? Trojan is a terrorist organization!

Something else in healthy relationships is forgiveness for making mistakes, no need to walk on eggshells, just be considerate of her and yourself

Rid yourself of a decent amount of ignorance to a point where you can figure out a life to live that you are truly at peace with, when you walk more in joy than fear

Someone down to earth, compassionate, intelligent, and living the life they've consciously chosen.

Sometimes other people can see where I'm wrong easier than I can. I don't shy from criticism

Sorry, wasn't trying to debate, I was interested in what you're thinking. I was showing you what I was thinking so you could point out the holes. I think we're from different cultures, and I think it's great we have different ideas on how to live