Devin

Be okay with shaking and freezing. If you don't ever choose to put yourself out there to be with a girl you'll never put yourself out there right? If you do shake or freeze you'll see it's not the end of the world and you will be less anxious next time. Do it again, so on so forth If you do nothing you lose the girl, if you try you may get her or at t the very least make progress with your problem. Zero lose by trying

Suffering or love have never "existed"

@Recursoinominado yeah, maybe that's all old yeller needed after all

Do you really think compassion and understanding would work on them? I think that's foolish to believe. Sodom and Gomorrah, the flood, burn em down

Abraham hicks emotional guidance scale, be honest with yourself and acknowledge the emotions you feel, observe them and move up the scale Try not to judge yourself, just observe the emotions, feel them

@Tahuti it's what works for me, actualize doesn't seem like the appropriate word for this. Anyone should easily be able to try it, nothing complicated or long and drawn out about it. Actualize to me means to make something happen, but what I'm describing is already there it's just covered up. I think everyone can already, and do do this, they're just not very aware that they do.

It says emasculating under the yellow guy with green girl. Interesting It shows the woman being ahead of the men in most successful scenarios. Interesting

@Tyler Robinson go get em' killer!

How hard is it to gain Swiss citizenship?

Just walk with them, amount of time depends on the person. Phileo love

What is your endgame? That is the question of the century Mine is fun, and mines a nowgame

And why can't you turn this woman to high value also? Why ditch her? My argument was be selective yours was any would do it's dependant on the man

So she needs to walk on egg shells

@NoSelfSelf do you think there are women on this earth that won't at least a few times be abusive in a relationship? Not habitually but a few times Even in your domineering relationship, she may sabotage you

I believe in you

If she became abusive, I would put a healthy distance between us but even then I would never completely leave her or quit loving her

? What's your endgame? Yes I think I could still love her, I wouldn't let her handle hot water anymore though.

I can love someone unconditionally, I agree I don't expect it in return. But there is a realistic scenario where I can love my wife unconditionally, without that romantic relationships are a negative to me. There is no endgame, there's only right now. What's the endgame? I would've thought love. Procreation? Hollow to me without the relationship I described, but surely only because I believe the fairytale I believe you can do the polygamy thing, I have no interest, seems like the reality of it would be boring, to me. You go deeper with quality over quantity, I have relatively little physical needs compared to desired intimacy and relationship growth, I've never met a woman decent in bed without good connection, barely met any good at conversation without connection come to think of it

Yeah, chasing answers comes to no end. To me your first step is calming down; I would do this by focussing on your breath, then maybe sleeping and or eating well. Temporarily forget your goals and aspirations you will not attain them in this state. Then feel your emotions, use the emotional guidance scale Then soak up the joy of the simple things, the sky, breathing, drinking water,... Then when you are well rested you will find yourself ready to have fun with the world, I.e.; attempt things Forget ignorant concepts like free will and nihilism, just go live

I don't like the PM conversations for some reason, fear of intimacy apparently, I like community discussions. But thanks for the nugget to chew on, I don't think I can come up with any other question than is it a joyous union? It just seems like "conditional love" to me

Secure attachment seems to be the only healthy style, I consider my style secure not avoidant but not an expert Connection and intimacy is a requirement for me as well, I guess I thought that went without saying. I can't have sex with a woman without that,,, well maybe if there was a really long dry streak. But I gave up on the spiritual depth with others and I don't regret it

@sholomar ? sounds amazing to me as well. I missed the political gridlock on mine, we've been being more red as of late but traditionally purple, and I like a moderate state. I haven't been up there but it is now on my list to visit, thank you! Too cold of winters for permanent residency for me though

Have fun with them, explore stuff, team up on life stuff, you need to have a mutually agreeable life direction, but I think you need to remain two different people. Secure attachment people don't love each other or go deep either I don't know about anxious attachment style if that's what you mean, you'd probably need jesus

Yeah, I had to let go of going deep with others, but I let it go easier than expected. I don't think there's any need for it.