Devin

I like sitting looking over prairies or water and just relaxing The Sun, the clouds, the stars, storms, snow Trail running Hiking Glass of water Yoga Sleep Shower Kicking the soccer ball around the yard or park Exercising Learning Good people Nice areas of the city Walking around a park, we have nice wooded ones here. Biking places

It's usually best for me to say the bare minimum about anything when I'm sleep deprived.

@Carl-Richard you're an amazing communicator in even a second language, and an obviously super intelligent individual, I cannot imagine anyone writing you off from occasionally dropping spiritualisms at opportune moments.

Since the lecture gave credence to OBEs, mentioning yours with meditation would have been great in my opinion. But yeah watch what you say about spirituality stuff and to who, but bring it up when you get an in like that, or with really close friendships or open minds.

The longer this goes on the more perplexed I am about Putin's long game, how can any nation develop within isolation from the west? Putin is destroying Russia.

It definitely would've been a novel idea these days, but I think they try too hard to make him seem spright and it backfires. Really the President doesn't need to be energetic and hip, especially after already elected, have some great speakers like Blinken, Austin, Buttigieg, do all the Press work and PR, and have Biden just make short meaningful statements rather than needless long speeches every week about every little thing,

@sda Don't worry about it and just try to find better people to be around.

Exactly, the 'get laid' thing is about validation from others, if it was for just having sex it would be more logical to be a nice boyfriend and you'd be able to have sex anytime you want with zero work.

Right, there are growing pains and phases for processing trauma, you're likely to be mean through some of it. "purpose" is being consumed by what others think, goals, aspirations, results, all of those are fueled purely by the desire to impress others. If you let go of worrying about what others think you will love and appreciate everything how it already is and however it will become, this doesn't mean you won't do anything, you'll do more because you won't be saddled with the dread of possible failure, but you won't do it for the result you'll be doing it because you love doing it. The only way to create real change is through giving others love, anything else is perpetuation of the status quo. Right, that's not what he means by nice. He means not being an instigating asshole, not having lying as a defining trait, being respectful and considerate.

I disagree, assholes are assholes because they're consumed by what other people think of them, they buy into their mommy's narrative and resent the world because it doesn't work out that way for them. Someone not trying to prove to others would radiate the love and appreciation they have for the world and life that is, not anger and haste towards it. The asshole does get laid though, but a lay of no value with a lady of no value, it's on the same level as a 13 year old finding a playboy.

I strive to be, still some work to do. I'm not meeting the bar for the woman I'm doing it for myself, regardless of dating it's the good life.

See, that's not the nice the OP is referring too, it takes a lot of development to be a noble gentlemen like he's talking about. I think he's just rightfully irritated about the sentiment thrown around about how being a good person get's you last place, it's patently untrue, being a door mat and giving up get's you last place, but an asshole will never get peace or a great life or wife.

I think you're glossing over the OP, he doesn't mean a pussy, he means not an asshole, and I don't think it's targeted to the black pill incel audience. Being a nice guy, masculine as the OP described, is a bar every man must meet to be with the type of woman sane men desire and to have a satisfying relationship and life. This all includes integrating the Shadow like you suggest, it's not necessary for them however to have mindless sex with Sluts. I think it is good to have sex by your early twenties, not a problem if they don't, but it does do away with that mental nagging and wonder that can consume a lot of energy, I think it's best to do it in a healthy relationship though.

Best I've got are the usual suspects I'm sure you already thought of, sleep and stress.

No high value woman will be with an asshole, being a nice guy is requisite.

@Mesopotamian It's a win win situation, not only do you not need to sacrifice your life for change, but the way to enact actual change is to actually live your greatest life, the more you live the life you truly love the more loving you'll be, which is the only thing from you that will truly change anyone.

What is the fear about? Renting can be better if you won't live there long, owning can be cheaper if you will. It's more cumbersome to move if you own compared to renting. Renting in general is a luxury, not a sacrifice. Owning is more work especially early on, and a larger commitment. The only benefit to owning is financial.

I think you may be overlooking the value hierarchy illustrated, we value things more than people. Consider how slavery was accepted in the past compared to how it is viewed today, future generations will lump the current exploitation of people right along with slavery, they'll just reference all of it together with slavery under the umbrella term "employment". I think you're overlooking how poorly we regularly treat people, especially when the relationship is faceless, we all know how poorly Chinese goods workers are treated, we all know chemical industry and microchip workers die horrendous deaths from cancer, and yet all of us on this forum are here via Chinese devices, microchips, and using electricity paid for by someone with cancer. Another example is the climate crisis, it's over consumption at the detriment of future generations. The existence of money itself shows you this value system.

I think it will grow the anti-imperialism sentiment.