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I have nothing in common with my grandparents, cousins, aunts, uncles. Absolutely nothing. I tried to start a conversation but we don't have interesting stuff to talk about. They are kind and nice but; I can't relate them. I'm really sociable and friendly with people; but I become a shy little kid when I am around with my family. It's uncomfortable and boring. I see family reunion as a waste of time and energy. Also I see as a useless gathering Why family reunion exists? What is the purpose of family reunion? Do you guys feel the same as me? Or Am I the weird one?

I purchased the Life Purpose Course and I used it. Then one day, they blocked me for security violation out of the blue. It happened two times: At first, they blocked me because I was using the course on Ipad, computer, and cellphone. I sent him an email about technical support and they unblocked me. After that, I was careful and I started to use only on the computer; and guess what? They blocked me again. But this time I sent them an email and they ignored me. I am really annoyed about what happened. I didn't do anything wrong. I was just using normally. What can I do? @Leo Gura

@Thinh Thanks for your recommendation! I sent him a message through the forum! I wish he would read it

The best learning experience is when you really NEED something; and not just in case. University and schools teach us just in case subjects; such as History, Politics, Anthropology and so on. All these subjects didn't remain in my mind. After studying it, I forgot almost everything. If I take High School subjects test right now, I would fail the test. But, when I had bulimia and depression. I started to learn self-help; such as happiness, life purpose, nutrition. All these subjects I learned it when I really need it and still remain in my mind. I believe all this knowledge will remain until my deathbed. Also, school and university teach you to become a slave to your boss. They don't teach you money management, leadership, public speaking and social skills. I was feeling miserable going to University and School. Nowadays I am self-educating. I am learning and growing every single day. I feel satisfied and happy.

@Spiral I like so much! What you said!

@see_on_see I am independent of people opinions. I don't give a fuck what others think about me. But, right now I'm depending on my parents. If I don't attend family reunion; I am gonna have a fight and a really bad time with them. So, when I start living alone, I can decide freely

@see_on_see I am forced to go to family reunion because of my parents. They consider impolite not attending them. When I start living by myself two years later, probably I stop attending family reunion.

Is it energy? Is it good or bad? Is it toxic? What is food? What "food" means to you?

I'm SUFFERING SOMETHING. I don't know the name of this disease or whatever. I'm gonna describe it to you and I hope you can tell me the name of this suffering! On Thursday, I was in a Business classroom; I was really confident; I was being myself; Energetic; Happy; I was so comfortable on my own skin; I participated the class and asked questions. BUT That same day (on Thursday), After finishing business class I went to Toastmaster Club (Meet up Club). It's my favorite Club; On toastmaster club; I started to be anxious; Uncomfortable; Fake (I wanted to be myself); Unconfident; Unhappy; Started to become a people pleaser; I can't focus the present moment; Really conscious of everything. After toastmaster club I felt sad and depressed because of not being myself. I was suffering internally. I wanted to relax but I couldn't control it. It happens many many times this situation. Sometimes with different people or places. I don't need anyone something valuable. I don't need approval. I don't care other people 's opinion. I don't need love. CAN YOU GUYS PLEASE TELL ME WHAT AM I SUFFERING ABOUT? IS IT SOCIAL ANXIETY? SHYNESS? INSECURITIES? WHAT IS IT? I went to a "really confident girl" to an "unconfident girl" on the same day. I went to "being myself" to "a people pleaser and fake girl" on the same day. I want to stop this kind of suffering; What do you recommend me to do? and How can I call this suffering name?

@sgn I don't have the need to fit in. I'm just describing the people I have met to @smd

@smd eeeemmm it's nothing related what you talked about. 1. First, this kind of social anxiety attact appears with specific type of people during a day or night; any time. 2. Second, Toastmasters members are really motivational, energetic and inspirational people. 3. Third, I didn't prepare anything on toastmasters. Anyway I have tons of reasons about not being related what you have said. I think one of the reason that causes me social anxiety is because something happened in my childhood experience. Also, my parents are normal, mediocre, disfuntional people. I believe this is the origin of my problem.

Which one is better? Psychologist (hospital) or self-help book? I overcame bulimia in a 1 year by reading lots of self-help books; And other clients overcome it in 5 years by going to the hospital. Is it really worth going to the hospital? Wasting my precious time and energy in a slow and long process (aka hospital)? I recently went to the psychologist twice and she isn't solving my problems. It's frustrating talking to her. I can learn 10 times more in a book than going to the psychologist; But the psychologist said that I MUST come to the hospital no matter what. What do you recommend?

@I Am That Thanks! I'm gonna definitely reading it! I love understanding psychology. I love understanding what is happening around me.

What do you consider a toxic family? (not to extreme; for example; abusive family) In my case, I consider my family as a toxic family: They are gaining a lot of weight. They are average and mediocre. They are addicted to TV and computer games. They can't control their emotions. They are stressed all the time in their business. They don't grow. They are unconscious. My parents fight most of the time. I don't admire them. Today we fought on something really stupid and tiny thing. I'm crying right now. They are making me emotionally and mentally unstable. One of my goals is creating passive income and living alone in 2019. So... I just wanna listen to your opinion. What do you consider a toxic family? Do you know some great books about toxic family? If so, what is it?

@The Monk I watched that video last year

@Vinnie I let them be themselves I don't try to change them. But, what I hate the most is when they interfere with my life; also I hate having fights with them. When I say my opinion while we argue, they think I'm being disrespectful and arrogant. I'm just tired living with them. They are making me unhappy and frustrated.

@Vinnie My parents wanted me to work in their business; I hated their job; I neglected them during a year. But, Now, my parents are letting me do what I want to do. They trust me more than before; maybe because I grow as a person and I am more responsible with my life.

@Shiva I was thinking; if those clients read self-help books, they would have instantly cured bulimia! One of the reasons that I cure bulimia in a year was changing my mindset, my perspective; I change my way of thinking. I read lots of nutrition book, self-esteem, self-love, self-acceptance, confidence, etc.

@see_on_see @Max_V I really love your posts guys! I'm gonna listen to your advice! Thanks for your great answers!

@Mad Max no need for love and approval; I learn from Actualized.org videos! The video names are "How to be yourself" "How to be attractive"

@Mad Max I really appreciate your answer! I tried to read your answer many times. It was a little bit complicated to understand. I definitely gonna look for more information where you highlighted! Yes, I have a normal and dysfunctional family. My people pleasing attitude maybe comes from my dysfunctional family and my past experiences. Thank you so much! You helped me a lot! I'm gonna learn a lot more about psychology!

"If you don't like how things are, change it! You're not a tree." - Jim Rohn Stop living like a victim. You are responsible for your own happiness. Change your mind and change your life. Life is beautiful and awesome. Focus on what you want. Focus on your goals and purpose. Remember, You have the power and choice to; eliminate toxic relationships; stop working on a job you hate; starting a passion business; doing what you love; eliminating toxic habits; being happy; moving out another country; contributing to the world; etc. You only live once. Don't waste your precious life.

Let's share our most favorite podcasts! Let's write the name of the podcast and the domain (money, self help, nutirition, relationships, etc) My favorite podcasts: Tiny Leaps Big Changes - Self help Smart Passive Income Pat Flynn - Money MWF Motivation Podcast - Self Help Love Life with Matthew Hussey - Relationships (Specially dedicated for women) Successful Dropout - Dropping out college duh Blender Guru - How to succeed as an artist Libro de Emprendedores - Entrepreneurship in spanish What about you? What are your most favorite podcasts and what domain is it?

Hi everyone! I'm 20 and I'm living in Argentina with my family and I'm really working on moving to Korea by myself. Can you give me some tips or advice about moving out another country?

@Shiva Oh I see! hahahah! I visited Park Guell too! High five! I put Park Guell in my vision board, because I wanna contribute like Guell! I'm gonna contribute with my artistic skills