Xonas Pitfall

How did it feel and unveil for you?

HAHA, what does this mean?

That's what she said... (˵ •̀ ᴗ - ˵ ) (Hahahahahaha...)

Thank you very much! It's designed to have very little to no meaning whatsoever. I like creating my usernames from,̵̩͓̊̈̌͒̑͛͒́̄̍̅̐̚͘͠ ̷̢̺̳̣̜̪̦̻͖̱̂͆̉̋͝͠ư̷̰̘͕̋̐̀̈́̔͆͂̄̓̔̈́͑͠n̷̨̡͕̲̤̖̪͇̙̉̆͐̋̍̅̚d̸̯͈͎̭̩̫̍̃̋̿̐́͑͐̋e̵̛͓̒̑͒̍͛f̴̢̨̮͚̗͍̺̱̫͕̥͒̇̌̓̊̓̅͘͜͠i̸͇̾̑͛̌͒̆͐̊͝n̸̡͖̖͎̺͓̘͈̟͇̠͚̠̞̬̿̽̃̎̈́̌́̌̚e̷̬̫͚̠̪͙̞̓̈̈ͅd̴̻̠̬̠̱̺̟̳͑̆͂̒̿̓̆͋͗͝͝ strings by humming random patterns as they come to me (perhaps a reference to Unfiltered Infinity? ). And for the answer... I’m very open to that. I probably should just do more trips and keep contemplating during them, as you suggested! I think the issue is that I still have some lingering 'otherness/materialism/separate reality from the mind' arguments in my brain that I can’t seem to deconstruct. I keep thinking: "Sure, I can conceptually and even experientially understand how the mind works, and how it uses concepts and experiences to define infinity, beauty, God, oneness, and the reality it’s perceiving." But I think the fact that I cannot truly control reality in both my waking and higher consciousness states makes me believe there is 'otherness' independent of my mind, with properties and processes I can never know. And this whole concept of God is just the ultimate way my mind can understand itself and ponder on itself, but the actual source, or the Creator, who is able to mold, spawn, and twist reality, is far different from what I could ever imagine. The best way I can describe it is: There’s reality, then there’s my mind, which evolved from that reality into consciousness to try and understand how reality functions. Sure, my mind is trying to understand reality, and it has plenty of infinite properties, processes, concepts like Infinity, God, and Solipsism, and psychedelic experiences it can create and explore, which is fascinating. But who’s claiming that it’s what created that reality, or is that reality? That's a huge assumption to make. I don’t know if I’m making sense. Leo’s post about being able to manifest a unicorn from pure thought and consciousness was curious to me, but I’ve never really experienced that, nor seen anyone actually do it, just claim it. The closest I’ve ever heard of it is Tesla and how he created his inventions, but even then, he still had to go through a process of materializing those creations. It’s not like it just poofed in front of him for all eternity. And also, this idea that the only present moment is the actual starting point of creation, and from there, I create stories to make sense of it, feels very weird. I had some psychedelic experiences that denied this idea, but it faded sadly. I guess I’ll just keep updating on the forum as I keep breaking my mind, teehee . Thank you!

Agreed! Hence, why I put the HUGE WARNING at the start, haha. Let's pray so!

Nope! It's not a choice; it's a tautology. Basically, it's infinity (all), and it cannot be anything but all. It must be, and include all because it is all. And in order to be all, it has to be both finite and infinite. That’s really all. It didn’t 'choose' anything, it just had to be everything from an absolute perspective. Choice implies an inherent preference for one thing over another, which can only occur from a non-dual, finite perspective.

Yes, please! Moving, maybe...?

Again, the point is to present a very 'biased' and myopic perspective to highlight the silliness! I realize there are a lot of things missing here, but that's the point, hehe! I'm dividing consciousness, splitting it in half, with the hope of uniting it once again! I suppose we can use this post to present biased perspectives and then show the reverse, with the aim of countering that bias.

What would be the male version of this? Attractive interaction with men is about one thing: Openness? Reactivity? Or maybe it all just points to "play", just expressed through different playstyles. Haha, funny... the key insight to 🎮 🕹️ GAME is PLAY! 🎮 🕹️

@Princess Arabia Your profile picture looks like it’s straight out of an epic retro 80s musical aerobics and Pilates weight loss training video! I'd totally get your tape, neon headbands, and leg warmers!

Again, this behavior isn’t gender-specific. People love hearing things that soothe them. That’s how cults persuade people, how political parties gain support. Who do you think brought Andrew Tate, Trump, and Hitler to prominence? Do you think it was women? Men also love hearing things that soothe them, and once you can whisper those things into their minds, they, too, can be easily controlled, manipulated, and will submit to whoever the authority figure whispering sweet words is. Another good example is when it was publicly believed that women were too stupid for schools. "Women can't do this... All this logic thinking it's a 'guy thing'!" Now that the majority of women are outperforming men in schools, suddenly the 'narrative' is: 'Well... uh, schools are just made better for women because it’s all about brainless memorization and people-pleasing to authority. Men like sports and activity more.' Instead of acknowledging that men are failing currently in the very system that was originally designed to cater to them. Plus, I think she was just accepting a cute compliment. Teehee >.<

100%! I was just pointing out the gender bias happening, both can be crazy crazy ones! 😅

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The hotter the guy, the more difficult it is to handle their ego, greed, lust, and narcissism. It goes both ways, haha. The more attractive you are in general, and considering you haven’t faced much backlash in life and are still relatively young, the more you can get away with things. This is an attractive-people thing, not just a guy or girl thing. (Also edit: As @Schizophonia pointed out, it’s more of just a toxic person thing, to be honest haha. It’s just that the more attractive you are, and if you’re a toxic person, the more you can get away with. But yeah, still non-gendered.) Again, you can’t call women the crazier gender when men, throughout history, have been more aggressive, impulsive, cheating, causing unnecessary wars, domestic violence, and creating laws that benefit them and disadvantage anything not like them. It took thousands of years just to get some gender equality, who do you think was electing for this? History alone shows plenty of blind spots on the men’s side. Again, I’m not saying women are the better gender now; I dislike these gender wars. I’m just trying to point out the biases here. You have to remember that anger, inability to control lust and horniness, and inability to be vulnerable are also unhealthy emotions that should be seen as "crazy" and incredibly toxic as well if not regulated.

Also, just a note: being 'outward' doesn’t have to mean bungee jumping or suddenly flipping to an extrovert; it can be as simple as 'speaking out loud,' 'writing out your thoughts,' or focusing on a movie/video game you enjoy. You can still be heavily introverted and contemplative, but just 'articulating' your thoughts helps, so you’re not just stuck in your head, daydreaming. That’s what you’re really battling, since that's the main cause of that 'trance-like state' that leads you deeper into depressive moods. It’s a meme, but... to not depress, you need to express. As corny as it sounds, it’s true. So, honestly, even taking time to write on a forum or slowly expressing your thoughts will help you get off to a better start. You’re not necessarily battling introversion and reflective interests; what you’re battling are ruminating thoughts and maladaptive daydream-like behavior. Anything that gets you out of that is much better. You need to externally keep explicating yourself in any way possible.

I think it's also about how relevant and helpful education is perceived to be. With the internet, kids are more likely to stumble upon "anti-schooling" content and realize how irrelevant many of the things taught are, so it’s even less motivating when online learning feels like a better alternative to traditional education. Personally, and for many of my friends, this has been a significant issue. When you compare traditional education to online resources, and also become aware of how little school guarantees a job (if anything, it might just get you into more student debt), it makes school even less appealing. I guess in the past, there was a sense of security that if you got a degree, you could get a stable job and stay with a company long-term with little fear of sudden laid-offs (though maybe that’s just a myth, I am not well-versed here). Education fundamentally has to feel like a worthwhile investment compared to other alternatives, which is why people are pushing for school reform. There are (for example) plenty of AI tools that can potentially be implemented to personalize teaching for children, and that’s just one of the ways the system could potentially improve. Before, students didn’t have as many distractions, so even if the teachers weren’t great, they could still get by. But that’s not a good situation, and it shows how many flaws have been overlooked in the system. Not saying teachers should be disrespected at all, but it’s clear that the education system has long been ignoring some key issues. It could push us to rethink how we engage students, allowing them to explore subjects they’re truly passionate about and helping them discover what interests them. This, to me, is what real education should look like. Obviously, it sounds somewhat utopian for now, but I do think many of the flaws in old-school approaches are slowly being more and more exposed. Which is good!

South Park makes me nostalgic :') ❤

Yes, this is how depression feels or "comes to be": you're overactive in your 'ego' or neural default network. Research suggests when depressed, there's a heightened activation of areas of the brain involved in self-referential thinking, like the default mode network (DMN), which is responsible for mind-wandering and processing personal memories, and when it's overactive, it can lead to persistent negative thoughts and a sense of being trapped in your own mind (just as you are reporting). Here, if you want to read more about it: https://www.pnas.org/doi/full/10.1073/pnas.0812686106 That's how I feel myself in the 'emptiness' stages, especially if they are prolonged. As I said above, you're completely immersed in the Default Mode Network (DMN), stuck in your own recursive thought loops. It's a completely different state of consciousness from normal. And... interestingly, psychedelics have been shown to reduce activity in exactly that area of the brain (the DMN). This may explain why they are one of the few things that actually seem to work for you. https://doi.org/10.1073/pnas.1119598109 Changing anything in life (whether it's your body, your career, or your mental state) follows a similar process. To change your weight, for example, you need to make gradual adjustments to your diet and exercise routine over time. Only after consistent effort will you eventually return to, or even surpass, your "prime body" and healthy state. The same principle applies to switching careers: you must let go of your ego, admit that you don't know anything about this new topic, and start from scratch, which is painful. Only by taking small steps over time can you reach the same level of success, or even exceed it, in your new field. However, this slow, long-term process can be incredibly painful and discouraging, especially since with all of these you have the motivation to push forward. But with depression, the unique challenge is that you start feeling more exhausted and tired, and you lose any apparent reason to do things. It’s as if you have to work against your own mind and rationality if you want to make a change. It's like you're fighting just to have motivation; you're developing a habit/goal of being motivated. The same goes for overcoming depression. To break free from the negative thought loops of the Default Mode Network, you need to deliberately engage in activities that pull you away from introspection. Movement, social interaction, self-expression, engaging in speech or communication, meditation, or focusing outward, anything that interrupts the recursive, self-referential state. Only then will you begin to feel a shift. Basically, think of the nihilistic impulse of "Why does any of this matter?" as your mind saying, "Hey, eating another doughnut isn't that bad, is it?" or "Who cares if I lose weight? I don't want to be motivated by shallow reasons." It's like the devil on your shoulder. You can point out the trickery in those thoughts when it comes to something like losing weight, but with nihilism, the argument feels more intellectual, more convincing, and therefore, harder to challenge. It feels more "personal", "true," and "correct," but it's ultimately the same kind of illusion. Alternatively, you could opt for a quicker fix: plastic surgery to change your body, a career referral to bypass the grind, or a psychedelic experience to temporarily step outside of the DMN. Both approaches work and are fine; one is gradual, long-term, and often painful, while the other provides immediate results (and sometimes only short-term). In the psychedelic state, for example, you get a brief glimpse of what it’s like to function beyond that exhausting, numbing, self-referential state. It’s a temporary break from the cycle, which can be incredibly helpful, I know it was for me. But if you don’t have access to psychedelics at the moment, I’d strongly encourage you to try sticking to a routine that forces you out of your mind. See how you feel after a week (or even a couple of days). Your mind is highly self-deceptive in its nature, so it could be worth a try; nothing to lose really, in attempting something different if possible. I believe in Sugarcoat ❤

Thank you very much! I highly suggest this tip, to be honest. I feel like my thoughts got progressively clearer once I started doing it. I guess seeing them written out 'prettier' and properly motivated me to push extra hard to keep redefining my logic and communication style.

I write it myself first, but I can't be bothered with grammar, capitalization, or spelling, so my original is very wonky. Then I run it through AI and say, 'Hey, correct grammar and capitalization.' It's an awesome combo, hehe!

This I understand conceptually, but if I truly ask myself if I’ve experienced, believe, or know this, I’m not quite sure. That was my original question in this post. How do you know this isn't just how the mind works, and that it’s all happening in my mind? Sure, the mind has an infinite looping property, and yes, it's contingent for reality to exist; but can’t I just say it’s contingent for reality to be perceived, not exist? How do I know if my mind dies, then everyone separate from my mind in this "reality" will die too? I cannot ever know this. Nothing I ever experienced points to this, both logically and experientially. So, I wanted to ask: how do I contemplate this further so I can grasp what is being said? Thank you so much! ❤

Meaning usually follows this path: You notice or experience some suffering → You alleviate it for yourself → You share, teach, or help others alleviate that same pain. Or, in a shorter and broader sense: You notice how to generate more happiness for yourself and others → You share it and help others experience it. It’s about sharing happiness, alleviating suffering, increasing love, self-expression, exploration, understanding, and care. Life purpose and "calling" usually imply the specific skill or type of suffering or experience/happiness you’re fixing and sharing. That’s why children and relationships are meaningful to a lot of people; you get to feel loved, share love, and feel the direct impact of your actions on others. The same applies to high-purpose careers. This is the more "human" definition of meaning. The more spiritual/metaphysical view is: The universe is unlimited, undefined, pure chaos, and infinity; what it’s missing is finiteness. So, it creates finitudes to experience and know itself. We are small pieces of consciousness, or figments, that help consciousness define itself. Think of it this way: If you don’t know how to gain muscle, you enter into a chaotic, unpredictable world of the gym. Then, you discover how to achieve that goal, and in the process, you’re slowly defining and paving the way on how to do it. See how it connects back to the human-purpose version, too? It’s about defining infinity, making infinity know itself. It’s ultimately meaningless since we are the meaning generators. Meaning fundamentally implies that something is more meaningful than something else. But in non-duality, nothing is more meaningful than anything else. Therefore, all and nothing are meaningful. You're filtering and creating structure in the undefined to achieve your specific bias (goal). For God, this specific path is meaningless because God is both overweight and lean, big and strong, small and fragile. But for you, you have a very specific preference for how you want to be, so now you make that specific distinction in the "unknown" meaningful. You give it special treatment and notice. This is something God "alone" could never do. We are the creations He needed to make this specific distinction, and that's why we exist. God can never alone experience attachment because God is unattached and equally attached to everything, fully connected. He both loves a glamorous movie star and a reclusive, bookish introvert; a tough, battle-hardened soldier, a free-spirited artist, but also a corporate CEO, a passionate activist, a hot playboy bunny and a 48-year-old basement-dwelling nerd, a rugged military man, a redneck, but also a spiritual delusional hipster, a man in his peak athletic capabilities, and a disabled person. But YOU have a unique ability to love a very specific set of people or one person fully, and see, distinctly to you, why they are so special. You give them meaning that transcends all others. This is why we are needed by God. This also applies to yourself, your career, your hobbies, and your taste. Why are they so special to YOU? Only you can make them beautiful and meaningful because God cannot do it for you, since He loves all of them equally. It’s just that people often have a hard time loving themselves or feel self-deprecating unless they have more narcissistic tendencies. So, it’s sometimes easier to see this as a service to others and separate aspects of reality. But both are completely valid points of meaning. You can only experience meaning from a finite perspective. So, the most meaningful thing is the thing from your personal, limited self-perspective, and that’s your "purpose." Keep chasing your bias. Humans’ bias is towards happiness and fulfillment, and away from unhappiness or hopelessness. So, whatever form your personal point of view gives you, that is the highest meaning you can ever have and experience, since you’re the only ever source of finitude in the universe and the current NOW.

Bless! 😊💞💗💛

Masculine is Self Feminine is Love Then: What is Sex? Self-Love! ❤

Is it possible that you’ve simply moved beyond more shallow desires? Do you feel like you now resonate more with "higher" desires, like service to others, contributing to humanity, helping, meaningful and stable connections, or the expression of love and wisdom? I'm not entirely sure if this is the case, but everything you described above seems like a perfect setup for someone noble and selfless to do the right things this world needs. But I’m not sure how you actually feel, just wondering!