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Yeah would be an interesting experiment. I hope it happens.

These are the things I need to focus on.

This will be my journal that will chronicle how I choose to embody this video in my life. I'm glad to have had people in my life who I have given space to be honest, and also sometimes angered which triggered their honesty and so there is an awareness of some deficits I have. My main issue or struggle is listening to another's perspective and learning it completely. I have a very know it all energy, which even though I don't know it all I can come across as if I think I do which rubs people the wrong way. It also makes me sensitive when someone attempts to teach me when I do not believe I need "correction" or a "lesson." Its interesting because what I have learned about life is karma is real, its also the same as the law of attraction. What you put out you will receive. Since I like to teach, correct, or provide a lesson I will draw those to me who will do the same. Your life will give you what you give to others, so be careful what you give because you will receive it back. Its like cooking spoiled chicken and it giving it to someone and getting mad when it finds it way back to you. Anyway the video I am choosing to embody to integrate into my life is this one. A person in the comment section Jenny Gao listed the many points in Leo's video. I was doing my own list until I saw there list and basically got lazy and was like "They probably have all the points he made." So I admit I am going on blind faith (I was an hour in of recording his examples with an hour to go left) but I am sure they got the gist of it. So here is their list. List of how to love. (As written down by Jenny Gao (Youtube Comment Section) Giving it attention and awareness - Being in physical proximity, physical contact - Connection (physical, emotional, intellectual, spiritual, etc) – Taking good care of it, helping to meet its needs, sheltering it from excessive trauma, fear and or suffering - Taking its agenda as your own, making its agenda and it an extension of you - Treating others as well as you would like to treat yourself - Be happy when it succeeds - Wanting for it what it wants for its own, even when it may be very different from your own - Sacrificing for it on its behalf, and work on their behalf - Supporting, nurturing, and encouraging what is in alignment with their self-expression, self-exploration, and self-actualization; being a cheerleader - Respecting its sovereignty, not holding yourself as better or more dominant - Total acceptance of it as it is, absence of judgment - Valuing the thing for its own sake, not for what you need - Appreciate them as they are - Seeing its intrinsic, infinite beauty - Not needing anything from this other - Respecting their point of view, wanting to understand their point of view - Listening and caring about their interests, sharing common interests - Sense of togetherness and company, collaboration - Being there when the other feels down, hopeless, at their lowest - Helping the other to not feel lonely - Validating its feelings, empathizing (“How are you feeling?”) - Sharing emotions - Caring about its suffering for its own sake - Meeting the other where they are at - Understanding and forgiveness, not demonizing and moralizing them - Being patient - Seeing the god and the good in them even when they don’t - Recognition of its uniqueness - Generosity and kindness - Verbal approval and praise, compliments - Keeping your promises - Maintaining peace - Telling the truth - Safety and trust - Seeing the other’s realness as it is - Appreciating the finite portion of consciousness as it really is, out of the infinite consciousness - Fully accepting, and not be disturbed by its selfishness, and not wanting to change it Love = Selflessness Okay so the parts I put in bold are the parts I fall short, could improve upon. The parts I have in ITALICS I have nailed down. So this shows my main weakness when it comes to relating to people is Emotional Empathy. This is actually normal for most Men as we are trained to repress ignore emotions. Now I am not terrible at this, but I am not exactly stellar at this either. Most of the time I am aware when I am doing it and I try to justify it to myself when I know better. I've constantly been promoting this book I read on the forums because it actually teaches techniques on how to be more empathetic emotionally but doing it in a logical way, basically with techniques!! This book is important because socially we are moving more towards an empathy/emotional based model in the society when it comes to leadership. You are already seeing it in sports when it comes to who gets to keep Coaching jobs such as in the NBA. So I am going to pick a technique from the book I am referencing called "Never Split The Difference." https://www.amazon.com/dp/B018FHCPDO/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&btkr=1 Its called Tactical Empathy which is basically a marriage of the Masculine Tactical, with the Feminine Empathy. What could be better than this? This video gives a nice summary of the book. One flaw in the video I noticed though at the 4:38 minute mark where he stated the woman could say "I didn't say that..." don't do that lol. The statement I did not say that, or I did not do that, are statements that communicate that you believe the person you are speaking to you is dishonest or not listening which will cause conflict. I know the person who made the video was well meaning but every action you take needs to generate connection not break it. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OaEw7ZFs5sU&t=542s&ab_channel=SuccessfulByDesign So the first technique I will practice is the summary. You get to the summary by listening to what the person says and labeling their premise but using the phrase "It seems like ......" This shows you are paying attention and are trying to grasp the gist of what they are saying. Once you are able to repeat back to the person what they are saying (basically the spirit or essence of what they are trying to communicate) then you will get a phrase such as "That's right, You got it, Exactly!" At this point NOW you can communicate your perspective. When you do so, don't accuse the person of trying to do something to harm you. Merely discuss how you are seeing it. You can even bring in what is called an accusations audit with the phrase "I know I must seem arrogant and irrational here but here is how I am seeing it." This lets the person know you are in tune with how they are perceiving things. Anyway this will be a struggle because it goes against all my conditioned patterns, wish me luck!! If you find this of benefit check the book out and their Youtube Channel as well! https://www.youtube.com/c/Blackswanltd1

This is a pipedream. If you think this is friendship then you don't know what friendship is. This entire list you gave....is judgment. You are basically saying if someone doesn't fufill all these qualities then they aren't friends when you don't even fulfill this list with your own self. You just violated your own rule by making the list in the first place. Stop looking for "perfect" friends. A real friendship is understanding that people will let you down, and still sticking by. I've had friends who have betrayed me, and stuck by them. As a result in the future they came through. Sometimes people will let you down, and not because it has something to do with you but because of a fear/insecurity issue they have with themselves. I see so many people saying its hard to make friends....its not friends are easy WAYY to easy to make a friend. How to make a friend? Be willing to give and GET NOTHING BACK IN RETURN. When you enter in with that mindset you set yourself apart and as a result the person WANTS to give to you.

Narcissists and psychopaths are not the same thing. Most psychopaths are NOT in positions of power in modern society. Majority of serial killers are psychopaths. A psychopath can cut the head off a human and feel absolutely NO REMORSE. People who lack that much empathy generally cannot even live in the same area for long much less get married or have a life and this man became a professor. Narcissists and sociopaths fare slightly better, because they are able to feel empathy just very little but a psychopath feels NO EMPATHY. Your comment reveals a lot of hurt and pain associated with low empathy people. Work through that, and accept the things they did no matter how painful as what happened. I'm sorry for the pain they have caused you. I've gotten over much of the things people like that have done to me, and all I personally see is love so one day maybe you can get to that place as well. All things serve a purpose, they exist for a reason.

Simple....create it. Provide the music you believe is missing.

Sometimes people want to vent...

Your fine man, he doesn't like critiques of Jordan Peterson. He identifies too closely with him so attacking Jordan Peterson to him feels like a personal attack against himself.

^Completely true

After I took a psychedelic mushroom it literally rewired my brain and supercharged my meditations. Here are a couple of things it did. 1. It quieted the mind. Made my thoughts not as loud so it is easier to not get pulled into thought thus increasing my concentration and ability to be present. 2. It increased my awareness slightly, allowing me to have increased meditation practices. Just in the last 2 days I almost left my body twice off meditation (the fear stopped me lol) so psychedelics are VERY important to this process. Ignore any Guru who says otherwise. What almost happened to me: https://www.iflscience.com/you-can-meditate-yourself-into-a-neardeath-experience-and-if-you-practice-you-can-get-better-at-it-50898 3. I have only done a mushrooms once, and ate an edible once and I have never drank or smoked or did any drugs prior to this and those two things gave me a Kundalini Awakening. So I can confirm that psychedelics are a powerful tool that will prevent you having to spend decades doing meditation and I thank Leo for revealing this. But at the end of the day it is your decision. Note: I am not a master or experienced meditator I just started doing meditation this year and psychedelics have pushed me further than a beginner would normally be at.

^ This right here is all of life. All of life is just a dopamine game until you realize that nothing outside of you will make you happy. You only feel this way because you are young and haven't lived life. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JO0sZMAn_Cw&t=3s&ab_channel=ActualizedClips

^ This is so true and it is hilarious!!! I wish people could see this. But eventually they will....

^ This absolutely this. I have been where you are. You don't love what you are doing but you are trying to FORCE yourself to do it. Life is all about flow, if you aren't flowing you aren't doing it right. You can no more FORCE yourself than you can FORCE another. You have two things you need to figure out. 1. What do you most enjoy doing so much you would do it for FREE!!! 2. How to earn a living doing what you would do for FREE. If you can pull this off....everyday will be paid to play because if you are enjoying something it isn't work its play.

We are in a recession. https://www.npr.org/2022/07/28/1113649843/gdp-2q-economy-2022-recession-two-quarters The definition of a recession is 2 consecutive quarters of negative growth. Recently President Joe Biden's administration has been trying to change the definition of what a recession is (with the help of the media) but I'm sorry you can't go around changing definitions when they don't suit you. America is in a recession anything else is lies. Benefits of a recession. 1. Its the best time to start a business. 2. If you stay with your employer throughout the recession you will probably get promoted for loyalty throughout. 3. Best time to get into investments as new companies enter in and you could pick a winner. Cons 1. Inflation 2. Crime can increase 3. Mental Health of loved ones will usually take a dive Strap yourselves in, we are going to be in this for a minimum of 2 years but will probably take 4 years to fully leave it completely and get back to how things were before.

......We step on ants everyday....and you are talking about suffering? From an ants perspective our cruelty knows no bounds. Not to mention all the other insects and plants we kill. Don't even get started on our meat factories. A Lion brutally kills its prey, a frog during famine eats its own young. Its infinity. Infinity means anything that can ever be, must be. So everything has to be the way it is....because its infinite. You may not like the answer....but that is the way it is. If it wasn't infinite....we couldn't even be here to complain in the first place. You can't have the current life you have without it being infinite. The moment you can realize what that means...you won't even question why everything is the way it is. https://faunafacts.com/ants/ant-extinction/

I am completely confused by this comment. That is a masterful accomplishment....

The same level of desire/motivation it takes for someone to change their life, is the same level of desire/motivation it takes for someone to take their life. When you want something bad enough, nothing will stop you.

You see what you are, because you are all that is, so yes if I say someone is projecting then I am projecting as well because whatever is in your awareness is there because its what you are bringing up. But being able to point out your own projections and projections of others allows you to escape the grip of the character/ ego (every gathered opinion) and allows you to truly see things clearly. You can only see things clearly (clarity) if you are honest. As long as you are stuck on your perspective that is all you will ever know and you will be unable to grow and that will be your reality. Also projection is not a judgment, projection is a label. I notice a lot of you all get judgment and discernment label confused. A judgment is saying something is bad, a label is just a tool to discern something. Example: I see an apple next to an orange. = I have created a label which signifies a difference between the red circular object and the orange circular object. An apple is better than an orange. = Judgment. Judgment is always context related, as it puts a value on something in relation to something. We do it all the time without realizing it because we are always chasing goals. So we could say being nice is better than being mean if you want friends. So we just judged mean as inferior to nice in relation to the goal towards friendship. Judgment is ultimately based on values, our concept of good and bad based on the different identities we have constructed and our limited understandings of how we think things should work or be. We all do this constantly in various ways, I'm not immune to this nor have I ever claimed to be. But if you are open to dissecting how this works further...go ahead I'm open to it. But let's throw away the pointing finger, the pointing finger always points back. Its how karma works, and how infinity works. The paradox is what you put out always returns, and what you see as one, is also the other. All conflict is pure comedy because its akin to a man arguing with the reflection in his mirror. Again I haven't transcended this but I am truly aware of how funny it all is. The truth is we are all hypocrites, so I love it when someone tries to debunk me or say you are doing it too!! Of course I am, I'm YOU!!!

I believe comedy is paradox, so for example we like to make fun of the hypocritical nature of us humans!!! Infinity has no choice but be paradoxical and and that lies at the heart of comedy.

Love is identity, why do you think that is a problem? Its not. If you form an identity around it great!!! The path to dropping all attachment is a process!! I'm sure you heard of burning through karma right? The attachment drops when you are done with it. All love comes from us, we mistakenly think the thing we are loving is the source of our love when we fall in love with it. Nothing wrong with this. But eventually it falls away because we realize it was never the thing we wanted, it was us, our love we wanted. But its a process, so enjoy the process!!! Nothing is wrong, everything is fine!!!

You can be friends with anyone, even people that annoy you and you annoy them. Many of my friends are annoyed by me and I annoyed by them at times and we are still friends. All you need to have friends especially online friends which is even easier is acceptance that you are going to rub each other the wrong way at times and an acceptance of that. Its easy, not even hard especially when people know the intention or motivation behind all of your words/actions. You gave a lot of disclaimers of who you don't want as a friend....that's a long list of no's you have created. I don't know if you realize....but your entire post is discriminatory. You could just as well replace the words, low consciousness, and barbaric, with the words poor, or some race or sexual orientation. You can't complain about people being discriminatory.....and then be discriminatory. Not saying you have to be buddy buddy but you are displaying the same traits you are complaining about.

Listen to this story of Ari Shaffir's Salvia Trip If you doubt you are living a dream....listen to this report. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qc7xAq29J7Y&ab_channel=TheoVonClips

This is true...something I still need to work on. But I was aware of this, but good job noticing it.

All judgment is projection, you see what you are not what is there. To call someone arrogant means you are arrogant and to call someone unempathetic is to be unempathetic. A humble man does not see arrogance, only an arrogant man can see arrogance. Arrogance= the person thinks too highly of themselves, to think someone thinks too highly of themselves means you think they don't know their place. For someone to have a place, means you believe you know better...which is arrogance and pride. To see someone as lacking empathy means you view their action as unloving, or lacking in emotion. All human behavior is driven by emotion. So to see a lack of emotion means you are no connecting with the emotion that is driving that action, thus you judge it devoid of emotion. A loving person can see the intent behind a person's actions and understands them. This is why the judger is the judged. The moment you judge another, you have just judged yourself. You cannot escape this. Every single one of your responses...reveals how you feel about others. Because how you feel about others is how you feel about yourself.

1. Calling someone disrespectful is projection. I could make the same claim based on the many assumptions you have laid waste in your diatribe. 2. Suffering? Suffering is a creation of the mind. It has been proven for thousands of years that there are various techniques to alleviate suffering because it is caused by issues with awareness and lack of control with the mind. There is even research out there with techniques to alleviate pain. As long as you project this victim mindset of woah is me you prevent yourself and others from finding out these solutions. 3. I struggled with concentration issues growing up, I struggled with being bullied, I've had a gun put to my head, and been jumped by gang members. Throwing out hard times as evidence of suffering is a waste of time, suffering is a result of ignorance. I once suffered and sought out ways to cope and eventually overcame it. 4. I'm a black man in America and you actually think you have gone through worse crap than me? What reality do you live in? The difference is BECAUSE I have gone through the crap I have gone through I understand that I suffered because I didn't have the right perspective. Which is why I searched for answers my entire life and eventually discovered what I needed. We don't need people going around labeling people as victims, you take their power away, and prevent them from overcoming their situations. Instead seek solutions alternative solutions, there are many sources outside modern practices that have helped hundreds to thousands of people. I already posted a video earlier of a guy who healed himself from chest down paralysis. As long as you think conventionally you will be stuck in that cycle of labeling, victimization, and learned helplessness.