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In the first vid he's talking about you turning inward. That you’re too focused outward on conditional happiness. Like trying to create a positive karma effect which is good and will get you all the external things you want, but neglects the filter in your mind, it neglects the fact that every single day of your life, at any moment you can choose to be happy. That option is always available if you're conscious of it. And when you're not conscious of it you brow beat yourself creating a lot of pain and suffering for yourself, especially if you're in the problem solving and negatively driven paradigm (negatively motivated) In the second video he’s talking about simply the beauty and absolute freedom of reality and existence itself, if you never just been struck by existence itself and your consciousness of it, you’re gonna miss this point he’s talking about. And communicating the freedom and beauty of reality is difficult even though it's right in front of you right now, so instead he tells you all the ways in which you’re not seeing it. Overall what I'll say about these are the law of attraction or positive thinking are just subsets, just a piece to get in place while on this journey. Nothing more than high quality techniques if you know how to use them.

Then just go with the external benefits, just be mindful of any toxic values that come up, if you haven't already heard about the toxic values, Leo will discuss them soon enough.

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@username I'd say my friendships are really healthy :), although I'm sure they'd be happier if I was more compelled to hang out with them/talk with them, but I'm pretty focused on the excursion of the self actualization path.

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I'll tell you facing those fears in solitude, putting full awareness on it, re-framing them and taking the lessons will undoubtedly grow you the most. you have every answer to your problems already inside you, you just gotta spend some time in solitude to dig for them. Kind of exactly like you did here.

Yeah you should definitely be spending most of your time doing meaningful things that align with your values. And when I say icing I just mostly mean sitting back and just being mostly. Like listening to music or watching an episode of your favorite show (not going on a full on marathon) or simply meditating, just sitting there and letting your thoughts spill out. And not everyone is really in the mood to make that connection, I find that when I can get in that mood to be playful and start to amuse myself I dont really care about any of that stuff. I just feel free. And that too is what I mean by having the cake down. The goal is that everything you do in your life is the icing on the cake no matter how mundane or pointless everything is. No ones forcing you to hang out with people, just be honest with yourself and them, you're after something bigger, just expect to be alone more. And I think you should really question that desire to connect with people. I bet its grounded in some type of fear of loneliness because if it wasn't this issue wouldn't be popping up for you, you'd drop your friends realativley easy and realize you don't need anyone or anything external to fulfill you, your still using conditional happiness, your still too focused outward, focusing more on them than yourself. Truly face loneliness. I really think that could grow you the most. I think you should watch Leos new video on loneliness. Should help give you more insight into this issue

Yes, if you embodied this value it benefits you by making you happy and fulfilled, it's meaningful to you, its not about what it can get you externally and more about what it can get you and how it can make you feel internally you would feel good doing and living up to this value, whatever it is and if you weren't living up to this value you would just feel off. If you really value success, progress, purpose or passion might be a good value to choose. You'll figure out your true authentic values through trial and error remember this is a long term journey your on, just make sure to do your best.

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Agreed its a really good video this video has really good correlations with this idea of "Radically Turning Inward" that Leo constantly stresses. All your answers to your problems are within you, including your happiness. Its all found, fixed and cultivated from the inside out. An amazing principle that I haven't been fully appreciating until just recently.

all those pleasures and socializing is just icing on the cake. besides that it's just a distraction from doing the inner work you gotta be doing. It feels superficial and worthless because it is. you pursue deeper connections because they're meaningful, have purpose, have value and that creates mutual benefits between two people and without that you mope, and label things as petty, superficial and worthless because it's true! and you choose to wallow in your own self pity. Don't be surprised when you chase the superficial stuff and find that it's not fulfilling you or finding out it's exactly that, superficial. You can't even enjoy the icing because you got the cake so shitty. Get the foundation down, all the inner work you gotta be doing and you'll find that the icing -- socializing, cracking jokes, playing cards and being playful is not worthless or superficial but actually the spice of life, literally.

I want to help you get to the root of your issue here. “There is nothing either good or bad but thinking makes it so” - Shakespeare A meaningful life/reality vs a pointless life/reality is truly all up to interpretation. Have you realized for something to have meaning or substance you have to point at it and tell yourself that it has meaning/significance or no meaning and no significance? What I mean by this is you are supplying the meaninglessness just as much as you supply the meaningful. It’s just as equally valid to say something has meaning just as it’s equally valid to say something is meaningless because the mind blowing insight you should be having from that is reality is absolutely free. Free to be anything that it can be. Reality is like an open space for meaning and meaninglessness/pointlessness to exist literally. Reality is Absolute Freedom. The freeness is outside of everything else. Paradoxically that’s the point. Because to say something has no POINT is the point that signifies meaning. Can you read between the lines of what I’m saying? To say something is meaningless/pointless or meaningful is only partially the truth of what teachers including Leo are trying to make you aware of. What they are trying to make you aware of is The Absolute. Absolute Freedom. Absolute Infinity. Absolute Detachment. Please try and grasp the significance of what Absolute Freedom Is. Reality has a higher order truth at play here that you’re missing. Meaning refers to a point. Meaninglessness refers to not the point which reality contains both of. It’s absolutely free and that’s what everyone is talking about. Meaninglessness is everything else that normally one would consider to have no significance → The open nothing, the free reality, the Absolute Freedom. That is what’s meaningless! Freedom! Debating to yourself about what’s meaningless and meaningful you’re just debating about what exists to have meaning and what does not exist to have meaning when the truth is BOTH are the case! Meaning is something you can point at, meaningless is something you can’t point at and the absolute freedom contains everything for both to be true. The most meaningful and meaningless beautiful profound, pointless insight you can have about reality is Absolute Freedom. That’s what existence is about. You’re completely free! But sadly nihilism has got you by the balls because you don’t see the big picture. Can’t you see how your debating about the meaningless of things in turn gives them meaning. How paradoxical. Can’t you see how free you are?

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I think you need to make a clear distinction in your mind about the true value of something rather than the apparent value, or the value society, or yours or someones else personal beliefs put on it. Straight from the horses mouth --> True Value Vs Apparent Value and it's an older video, so this should do wonders towards your resistance to listen. The course is barely 2 years old, the video in the book list is a year older than that. you are being very, very, very nit picky.

It seems your agenda is to not fix the root issue, just cover more delusion with delusion. How can you help someone who doesn't want to help himself? I say this cause you can't see how your shooting yourself in the foot, how your ego is literally feeding off itself. Study the ego, study self fulfilling prophecies, how beliefs work, how the ego works.

nihilism is very interesting, it's very humbling. I found it's difficult to walk through life experiencing this truth, but you must be careful about how your ego is using this truth. is it using it to make excuses not to do anything? is it using it to push things off? is it using it to procrastinate? I find that this is usually the case. because regardless of it's meaninglessness you still want to be happy and it's clear that this is not helping you be happy at all. be brutally honest with yourself here. could it be the case that you're using nihilism to be lazy and unproductive? To not do the work you value? To not doing the things you know you should/value/want to be doing? If your answer is no it's all meaningless then this is the video for you -->

Love this quote. I have yet to try shrooms but the trip reports people have on them is always so fascinating and inspiring to me.

I'd say its not so much what you do but that its what your heart wants, what's most meaningful to you its the internals we're after, not the externals. If football is what's meaningful to you and most authentically you meaning It aligns with your strengths and your values (or inclinations) then that could be your calling. Jumping Into something your biased towards is okay as long as its aligned with those things I mention above in fact its encouraged. Its your job to do some exploring and testing to find that good fit. This is why its important to know yourself, know what you want out of life. You use that as your compass to know what to choose, and that choice needs to be made, because not choosing at all could be a bigger danger here because when you say biased I hope your not meaning that its not gonna work out. In that case this would definitely be limiting beliefs and you being indecisive in your plan to commit to your one thing, in this case this is definitely your bigger obstacle at the moment.

His agenda right now is not practicing mindfulness like you, its knowledge and wisdom.

Go for it, let us know how it goes.

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Here's a counter intuitive move for you, force yourself to masturbate for 30 days. I found that when I did no fap for 30 days, I learned all the advantages and disadvantages. after that 30 days I forced myself to masturbate every time I felt that desire and took all those lessons and advantages and disadvantages. after those days I found myself striking a really good balance of when to and when not to masturbate. Above all not stressing or fretting about the whole paradigm of porn or masturbating in general. being totally at peace with it. Masturbation is not much of an obstacle at all for me anymore because I seen both sides of the spectrum fully. This might or might not work for you, just giving you some ideas.

I think Leos new video on theory vs practice would do wonders for you. To take from that video I'll say this. Chances are you've just been sitting and taking in all this existential wisdom, mental masturbating, analysis by paralysis, try your best to just drop the nihilistic shit and realize how its making your life shit, your thoughts shit and let it go, and hold that knowledge for another time, because that theory is not helping you at all right now.

You will probably never find that perfect girl who will just show up and everything will be exactly as you want it, understand that over time as you get to know each other she will learn to be the right girl for you.