BlueOak

Create something. Love? Happiness? Understanding? Sounds like you could use some certainty. A strong, deep and meaningful connection to your signficant other? Whatever you like, the shackles are off right?

I've tried banning people I don't like. It's a lonely life. Anyone even your pet can lead to development or understanding of yourself/yourselves. Life.

@WelcometoReality @Benton Thank you both for your thoughts I'll take a look at the video tomorrow also.

I never saw that side of it. Thanks.

Also I just heard the threat could be to put him in a stronger negotiating position, and seeing the negotiations are scheduled lets hope that's the main reason for it.

We are going through the same loop we had before on this We wouldn't do it, doesn't mean he wouldn't use a tactical nuke. Tactical nukes are part of the Russian military doctrine to win. Smaller than strategic nukes not that it matters much. But again he uses the fear of this to get his way. We can't let fear rule us but also we can't ignore he would do it.

People are talking about negotiation again so there is still time. They are arguing about where it should be negotiated. Which I understand is symbolic but also not important.

Putin uses fear. I've noticed he uses that as a weapon to get his way. He acknowledges strength and dismisses fear. We also can't ignore that he will do what he says. Other countries can't backdown as he will use that hesitation in the same way, and with their own populations calling for action they can't politically do that either. Its negotiation, for everyone including him, or living with this threat. Nato can't negotiate with nobody on the other end of the call.

In reference to the above points on Europe uniting against Russia. Germany has decided to send weapons to Ukraine also, alongside others. 1,000 anti-tank weapons and 500 Stinger surface-to-air missiles from Germany. 25 Nations are part of the deal offering their own lethal weaponry or non lethal supplies with the UK providing logistical support in delivery as well as weapons oureslves. Best case, this further stalls the invasion, everyone goes back to talking and Ukraine gets neutrality, Russia gets a non Nato buffer saying they won so they look powerful to their people. We avoid a protracted conflict. Failing that this allows Ukraine to continuing fight against Russia air and armor superiority with infantry, rather than being overrun by both over the years to come. https://news.sky.com/story/ukraine-invasion-uk-and-us-among-28-nations-which-have-agreed-to-give-more-weapons-and-military-aid-to-country-sky-news-understands-12551824

Yes. But memory. That doesn't fit. You can go internal into memory and the world falls away to it. That would have to be stored. Experience etc. We are not the mind yet it exists as a place we can go into completely at the expense of all other perception.

Try putting your fingers in soil see what happens

Sexual energy is like a resevoir if you don't use it. If the level of energy following through you is too much I would honestly say go use it. Either to manifest what you want in life through increased drive and action, or just having sex. Ground of course, lots of grounding. Bare feet on the grass. Drink lots of water, time near water is great. One useful way to tell if its energetic is go to sit by water or the ocean and see if you are suddenly calm. Calm exercises, spend time in nature, eat the right foods, get away from what is making you tense until you've given yourself time to breathe that sort of thing. If you are into incense white sage is useful, tibetan bells are great, calming natural music, or finding whatever works for you. Of course the go too book: http://www.biologyofkundalini.com/ Finally I read its a long way to a piece of grass. That's probably an issue right there. If you are surrounded by concrete, metal, and electronics you'll have trouble. Infact when you get into energy work the first thing you are going to need to do is remove your rings or metal piercings. Someone post the same link at the same time, well if that isn't a synchronicity heh. *Oh of course get some plants too, look after them. If nature is a long way from you bring it inside.

@Leo Gura Male Vulnerability. Sorry to tag you again. It occurred to me when I reflect that a video on vulnerability and men. I don't have the words to give you the title it would need or the full perception of it, also the stigma or resistance that would be there attached to it (shame). I see men act in a emotionally charged way when they feel any vulnerability and this applies to men leading countries, alliances, anything on the macro scale or down to myself too. I think exploration of that might help on healthier ways men can deal with it, without having to directly talk about ongoing events. *This could be expanded to a lot of different topics.

In war countries move to the right. Always.

Yes to an extent. If any imposed government could even stand after this and the worldwide pressure. Their next revolution, would never start peacefully given the history like the last, only by continued civil unrest. Its a bigger country, better terrain for resistance fighters not just a desert, lots of countries willing to ship arms there with longer borders for entry. A more resistant population even from the start, Iraq had some element of the military for example that welcomed the invaders, until foolish decisions were made to stand them all down. I was going to say Ukraine has less radicalisation which is true but not less potential resistance fighters. They've opened up their weapon stockpiles to anyone and others outside of Ukraine are still willing to arm them. A few from other countries have gone to join them already and its just days in. Then you add the element of the population calling NATO weak in its response, and they have incentive to show strength and keep arming resistance, showing a response and increasing border security. The predictable rise of the right. I saw the UK defense secretary in an interview say the UK would continue to arm Ukraine. To be honest I would never say this about Syria, Iraq, Lybia or the others wars I have lived through but this felt like an attack on Europe and so I want them to get whatever weapons will help defend it. There is popular support for that right now over here, with all major political parties working together and no political point scoring off each other which is a rare unity for UK politics and popular will. *I think the EU is also sending further anti air weaponry as well.

Resistance does yield results. Hard fought painful results. The USSR pulled out of afghanistan once for example, but we can go through many conflicts where people have left because the cost was too high. Vietnam for example. There is no escaping that hatred will result from this, that's already known. Whatever course is taken from this point hatred will exist. Resistance exists and won't be stopped by violence, it has the opposite result. These are known results and I have seen many times repeat. So these are not the things we can do anything about existing. When people say this situation may last decades I can't see it, but ten years yes.

That will happen anyway. When a population doesn't want something they resist it. The same as if I were to tell you something you were resisting, you'd resist the comment. Violence and resistance won't end whenever the war does, it will go on for a decade. Its a big place, lots of people, large borders, lots of ways for fighters and arms to get in.

Overall there is a certain level of detachment from many here and elsewhere I have witnessed in a time where we would benefit instead from the opposite, from sympathy and understanding. Right now when people need it. That is in me too, I am not immune, I go to fantasy or hopeful reality as well rather than truth.

Being addicted to trauma and pain. Do you find naturally living is the only way this goes away? It has done over time. I no longer need to write out traumas as much, when I have spoken about them and got feedback or help I don't need to shape my reality, conversations or experience around the emotions that I am used to anymore. Integrating powerlessness, hate and shame were tough ones. Shame or humiliation isn't done yet fully. I haven't for a long time but now I am listening to music that makes me feel sadness or just intensely on repeat. Do you experience that yourself? The deep moving songs that bring it out of you so you can relieve the emotion. Its still addictive, and its hard to let go of what defined your identity for so long. The welling emotion and full bodied feelings that come out of the knots in the stomach or pressure on the chest. It makes you feel alive, when otherwise you can be apathetic, disconnected or dead inside. Thoughts?

First off thanks to everyone that posted. I resisted coming back to read because I thought after working through much of it my trauma was resolved. I find a level of shame when I lose my head to my heart and the message ends up especially messy or muddled. Shame and Humilation are not yet integrated in me. So I tried to with some success after this but not entirely. @acidgoofy I did. I felt god, as god, I experienced a white light reality and what I will call divine love. I experienced large consciousness and small consciousness. I realised there was nothing but [ ] this, life and sensation. All that persists is perception and that was all that was permanent. Then I argued, fought and my ego came back stronger than ever. Unresolved things move very painfully and fast in that state to hit you in the face. I could seek again, I know all it takes is to be in a state to recieve. Thank you @Mu_ Enjoy it while its there. Flip the perspective. I like that Thank you. Apathy/Acceptance is where I get stuck mostly. Emotions do sometimes cost me my job or relationship. Feelings of shame mostly I would say. I felt it was betrayal last time, going above me to my boss before anyone told me. I think deep down it was that a few people commented on a behavior and my supervisor blindsided me by going straight to the manager. They did not want me to leave but I felt enough shame that I cloaked it as feeling betrayed. I need to work on shame and humilation still. I tried after this post but I was only partially successful integrating and accepting it. @puporing It happens naturally as each of us learns more, we can't help but pass it on. @Loba Lot of material, thanks for taking the time. My family has a lot of addiction in it. My brother does drugs, my father drinks, I exercise and/or eat, or play games, my mother does codependency. So I always appreciate greater insight. Gratitude for the material I will review it again tomorrow. @Javfly33 Yes, but feeling something is better than nothing. I was wondering if i'd made a backstep coming back to this way of being. Again I didn't expect this many replies. Thanks again all of you, good luck with you life and your day.

Its not about claim its about how wars work. They are never limited to a specific region or area, they can often spill out into neighboring countries. Both in terms of refugees, foreign fighters and military or non military aid. Things destabalize and border incidents happen. It just takes one missile or bomb to go astray, and we have an incident. There are reports of foreign fighters already assisting Ukraine unofficially. This is a hard border with Nato that doesn't require officially sanctioned action to cause escalation into a wider war. While I'll say periods of peace are longer than periods of war. On stability I've been alive 40 years+ and the generations before me after WW2 also enjoyed stability. Stability doesn't mean peace. I've seen wars come and go, on top of that I was born in the times of troubles in the UK. This isn't whack-a-mole this is a large nuclear power and a large nuclear alliance of powers. All with a large amount of manpower and resources.. That's why its different to your earlier examples of African nations or regional conflict. Its changing the international order you've dismissed as rare. Well if its rare then its worth hanging on to, because so far its meant I've never lived in fear of being nuked, or seeing people I cared about die. War changes things globally. Nationalism rises, war budgets rise, readinesses rises, other nations take it as a cue to fight their own wars or use it as an opportunity. People suffer from economic downturns, and recessions, groups radicalize and people die. Each and every time this happens we should be concerned, and 'buckle up'. I always have done and I've done every small thing I can to make people aware of the repercussions of each I've seen. There are better ways to release pressure than invading other countries. *Also the Russian Empire does have claim to much of eastern Europe, which is why that rhetoric was notable and dangerous.

That must be tough at the moment. How does a detailed perspective on both sides of something not get overly influenced by your emotional reaction? The more detail I go into the more emotional bias I tend to see in something. The less I speak or expand the more balanced a response I seem to have.

Poland and Romania border Ukraine and wars don't respect lines on a map. To take your own words: This is a potential start of WW3 and is a possible end to the world. Granted its unlikely but to not take the situation seriously and leave it completely up to chance is irresponsible. One of the reasons we ended up here is because Europe were not strong and unified in their responses, and importantly their military or their strategic goals. If countries can just take whatever they want, invade wherever they want, that leads us back to an unstable world and a more dangerous one. Not to mention the human cost, the economic instability, the refugee's. With the weapons countries now have at their disposal such a scenario does lead to the end of world at some point or more likely regional use of nuclear weapons. I remember a respect expert on nuclear weapons stating there was an even chance that the world would see some sort of regional nuclear war. These kinds of things are worth attention and measured responses to them to see they never reach that point.

The more your survival is threatened the less time, need or want you have for seeing a bigger picture, because the here and now become what is critically important. You have to understand people at a minimum go back to what they are comfortable with when they are stressed, but when there is an actual potential to lose your life or at least for me to see war spreading over the continent, its considerably harder to then step back and do systematic thinking.

I'll only add that the kind of treaty i suggested was a possibility for mutual defense until about 24 hours ago. It would have been a potential compromise over Ukraine as well. Now its very much an us verse them moment for the years ahead.