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Do what you want but it could as well be argued you just got a taste of commitment and that it scared you more than you expected. Your post didnt read as comfort to me, it read like you were being confronted with challenges in the relationship. LordFalls lifestyle is travelling and exploring options, parties, fun experiences. Thats fair but just know theres a differenxe between that and building a longterm relationship, exploring options will probably not make that easier.

I never said that you shouldnt have to defend your points but you assumed Jirh is an incel and demanded his dating resume and I said just that he doesnt owe anyone his dating history to defend his points. I already pointed out potential downsides of exploring options prematurely in my original post in this thread which is a partial defense of Jirh’s stance. How much do you learn by jumping from person to person without ever trying when it gets hard? Im not saying he should 100% stay with this woman for the rest of his life but i think Jirh’s post is closer to the frame he needs right now than what you’re offering.

Are you certain you're not just trying to defend your own path & worldview? To me it sounds like you went the other way, you explored pickup and dating, climbed the levels and are/was on the path to become a high value man, and to secure the highest quality woman possible? That's a fair quest but Jirh doesn't owe anyone his dating history to prove his point.

You dont have to be an incel to be risk averse. And incel is a loaded word so obviously you do paint a certain biased frame when you assume theyre an incel cause they disagree with your views. There is genuine wisdom in building on what you have rather than always trying to find something better. People who chase opportunities often end up on a rollercoaster that leads them nowhere.

Your problem is relatable to most people who are into contemplation, spirituality etc. it’s hard to answer, it’s one of those things that you can’t reach much clarity on by thinking about it right now, my guess is it needs time. Are there other areas where you connect well for example? Do they accept/appreciate your contemplative sides even if they cant fully meet you there? I think something worth thinking about is that if you meet someone who you can connect on in the areas you feel are missing right now, they might not bring everything this person brings. The simple lifestyle, she taking care of the home, loyalty, authentic & innocent love? Someone who is more complex in their thoughts might bring other difficulties that you didnt foresee. Your current partner might bring strengths or types of intelligence you dont understand fully yet. Youre both introverted so she might also have more depth than you realize. The risk is that you try to find someone whos more like yourself and they might not be the naturally most longterm loyal person because their desire to explore and grow as a person might pull them away from you in the way you’re feeling pulled right now and the question is when will it be enough? If you find someone who matches your intellectual sides better, new problems might appear, or what if theres someone even more intellectually attuned out there? It can easily turn into what if the grass is greener on the other side trap. But it depends what you want out of life. To me it sounds like youve found a good potential long term partner that has the traits needed to build on and that you may benefit from accepting that no one will ever meet you fully intellectually but yourself, but that you do have intellectual needs that are not being met and that you do need some way to meet them. But whether the right way to meet them is finding a different partner is a very hard question to answer. I’m leaning dont give up on it yet as you can see from my answer but to be honest I’m not certain and no one really fully is. My advice would be give it some time, try to solve it from within the relationship, by meeting your intellectual needs through other ways, see if you can make it work. If you try and it leaves you empty, you can let go of the relationship knowing you gave it a fair shot, cause the things you have right now are not to be taken for granted even if all the puzzle pieces arent in place yet!

What type of games did you make?

Your idea of being very scope aware I think is good, I work in the video game industry with sound design, implementation, music and do some programming as of recently. Ive been on both sides of the stick when it comes to minimalistic vs overscoped games and overscoped games or games that introduce complexity with something like multiplayer can easily become a rabbithole nightmare that stalls a project for way longer than anyone thought likely. With that being said I do agree with Leo’s point that theres more to it than the project management & technical programming but to give credit where its due making a game engine in c++ etc are difficult things that make you powerful in a specific way when it comes to making games. But yea if you go at it solo you’re gonna be tested on all dimensions including writing, audio, music, and the tricky “it factor” of game design: making it all come together and have a good feelling to it, something about it that sucks you in, fun, or however you want to frame it. But you cant know if your game has it without making your game so imo you should definitely go for it cause you will never know otherwise

Its untilligent to have cancer, it means you didnt manage to figure out how to cure cancer. Thats of course a stupid claim and its stupid for the same reasons that claiming happinness as an intelligence problem is stupid. You can have a forrunate life: good upbringing, low trauma, good genes, smart, emotionally intelligent, healthy, rich. The conplete absence of any of these can throw life into hard mode. You might have suffered abuse your entire childhood when you were powerless. You might understand sadness is irrational but your trauma and psychological wiring might take years of fighting to resolve. You might have genetic defects that make progress hard such as weak willpower, weak discipline & self control. You struggle sticking through more than most people cause your brain is not doing what you try to make it do, you might essentially be born having to solve a complex neurodivergence problem, your intelligence making you highly aware of what youre lacking and your failures in a way a more simple minded person wouldnt. What Im trying to say is in life the different aspects of life come at varying levels of difficulty thats mostly decided randomly at birth. You may be born in a concentration camp or with a deadly disease where your life is spent in torture. Thats not an intelligence problen.

This is something done by some of the best cycling athletes in there world, and it's not only about muscle glycogen but also about mental power to push yourself. Also Magnus Carlsen used to drink orange juice mixed with water every match for years. Also there's been studies showing sugar improving school test results for people with ADHD. I've used sugar myself to increase mental performance in periods of high workload where I have a lot of problems to solve and stuff to do, what's worked well in terms of energy boost is sugar + a strict deadline. Also a friend of mine who runs a successful YouTube channel swears by energy drinks with sugar such as the redbull sugar version increasing performance significantly more than the no sugar version. In other words I've observed a pattern of there being something to this, I would be curious to hear your results if you try it and report back, regardless of your results.

Why do you think that’s the case? You made serious existential claims about life without explaining anything

Simplification of reality that's not true

Reaper, I use it professionally in sound design and mixing. I paid for it to support them, but you get the full functionality without paying anything which is crazy cause it’s one of the best DAWs. For example it’s amazing at batch processing which is super useful in certain audio cleanup or mixing tasks.

It’s easy to hate on Bryan Johnson just cause he wants to live forever and does everything in the name of longevity. People claiming what he’s doing is meaningless. But why choose hate and belittling his mission? Ask yourself if what you’re doing with your own life is more meaningful, it seems like you’re putting him down to feel better about your own life. Truth is Bryan Johnson is rich, healthy and pursuing a topic that he’s passionate about. If that’s meaningless then 99% of humans on earth are just meaningless lumps of cells. To me this isn’t insightful but just nihilism in disguise.

Right, he's basically justifying his own depraved behavior by using Epstein. "You lost to a scumbag" is just him talking about himself, the multiple girls he manipulated into his camsite business..

Apparently the fire spreads very fast like this and people didn't realize the danger so in less than a minute the fire likely went from small and harmless looking to turning the entire basement into an oven and the one way out turned into a chimney. Horrible way to die..

Cycling is extremely good for this, I don’t do it personally but I’m into running and many runners push hard on cycling to spare their joints etc as too regular maximum effort in running can lead more easily to injuries compared to cycling. In cycling you can push hard more frequently so this might be useful to know for anyone who wants to pursue this. With that being said sprinting and running are both awesome too. I like your connection between this and problem solving and the transferable skill that underpins both that is effort. Interesting idea man!

The idea behind this thread is simple: You answer 7 questions, so that you stop for a moment of reflection. Then you can read others answers for input and perspective. Hopefully it sparks some discussion as well. If you don't want to bother answering all the questions, answer the ones you'd like, I won't bite! The Questions: 1. What area of life are you focused on right now and why? 2. What's a recent change you've made in your approach to personal development and/or spirituality? 3. What's something you wish you knew earlier on in your journey? 4. What's something you think other people should try and why? 5. What practice or habit would you like to cultivate more of in the future and why? 6. What's a book that had a noticeable impact on your personal or spiritual growth? 7. What makes you sad, what brings you joy?

What's the difference between saying it's all mental or physical? Those two examples seems to me to be just a difference in bias and not much different. They both reduce reality down to the physical realm or the mental realm. Does Leo really frame it in that way? To me recognizing both the physical and mental realms seem more balanced

As the title indicates, I'm curious about your experiences with reading books as I'm conflicted about whether the books I've read have paid off or not, I haven't read many books and considering whether I should. A few questions come to mind where I think it would be insightful to see others experiences on here, namely: Have/do you read many books, about what frequency per year? Have you noticed positive effects from reading, if so which, in which domains of your life? Do you find reading books to be a worthwhile endeavour, do you think reading more than you currently do would improve your life? Have you had letdowns or periods where you felt reading wasn't contributing much to your life, potentially leading to breaks from reading or a disillusionment with the value of books?

It's interesting you say they synergize each other, do you mind explaining what you mean by that? I have the booklist and have read a few of the books on there but haven't dug deep into it yet, might give it another shot if more people vouch for seeing improvements from the books on that list.

Too many different goals, too divided focus as a result. In other words lack of commitment to any one path. Which is understandable because he seems to be moreso trying to figure out what he wants to do. He's picking up different skills along the way which is good but if you try a bunch of different things you cant expect to reach many of your goals short term. The real prize he can hope for if continuing on his current path is to eventually find something he wants to do, or to find himself in a position where he could combine the different skills he's picking up to create something unique to his skillset. Another point is potentially lacking practicality which is something I can relate to personally. For example, if he wants to reach his goals such as becoming a movie director. He cant expect to get there fast if he spends most of his time reading comparative mythology and Jung. Knowledge about these topics could add to a filmmaker but it's not the foundation of his chosen craft. In order to become a filmmaker a more pragmatic path might be getting himself involved with indie movie scene, taking on different roles, getting some elbow grease into the film industry, creating contacts, learning different skills useful in movie making such as writing, filming, editing, dialogue editing.

His political stance can't be pinpointed based on that. But sure it could be seen as an indication. But people change their political views and beliefs radically sometimes and given he just tried to kill Trump I don't think it's a far shot that his political views are quite different from when he voted for Trump in 2016.

I have had the same what if experience as I used to make videos on how to improve your computer when I was 12-13 and YouTube was new. Those videos had like 5k views and I thought wow.. imagine if I would have continued down that path. Btw, Runescape absolutely rules, the best game of all time. I enjoyed your moral reflections on it.

Saying meditation increases IQ is partly true, partly not. The long term effect, I think is likely to increase IQ. The short term effect could bring up different things one has to work through, this could be distracting as it would cause a temporary worsened focus. The mind is more tricky than linear progression sometimes, just pointing it out there. Things that improve your IQ.. probably logical, problem solving kind of tasks and practicing them rigorously such as mathematics, physics & computer programming. These would train the mind to become faster att seeing logical pattern and solving problems. Other than that Im in agreement that diet plays a big role. For example there has been studies done that show better test performance for people if they ingest something light which gives them blood sugar spike when writing a test, such as orange juice. Deficiencys can also play a part. If you suffer from nutritional deficiencys that might affect brain performance especially B vitamins.

In my experience not really anything, sadly. It's an experience like any other. An anxious person learns to handle their anxiety through becoming familiar with it, it then becomes less threatening and they learn to accept it even if it's uncomfortable. The same needs to happen with overwhelming psychedelic experience. It's a novel experience that seems overwhelming and it's because of the novelty of it. You cant use a shortcut to tolerate intense novel states, it's a matter of experience and learning to trust yourself. There are distractions and techniques that will sometimes work. You can see people on youtube talking about it, like changing environment etc. These kind of things can work but ultimately the most Intense experiences will have you floored regardless of where you are and what you're trying to focus on. Distractions & shortcuts work until shit hits the fan, then only experience works, in my experience Edit: sorry for double posting, I cant multiquote on my phone because it's an old Huawei