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Hey @Charlotte thanks for getting back to me, i cant see my post and cant remember exactly what i said but ill take a guess lol Ive tried cbt before which kind of helped but im kinda trying an erp method at the moment but im looking into getting a professional to help with that. Mine are thoughts based as well so ive cut out the physical compulsions ie checking etc but im still ruminating which can get really annoying but im trying to cut that out as i think thats the main thing powering it. I think the microdosing could probably help in general life and if it helps with the ocd then great. Yeah drugs are bad, but if you can dm about 'non-drug' related topics i would be grateful

Sorry guys just saw this havent been on the boards for a while, to answer your posts - @ExodiaGearCEO Good idea but Id prefer to do a live video or a seminar something like that, just to be able to reach more people, but feel free to ask me any questions and ill definitely answer them either on here or in a future podcast @TylerJ yes well spotted @Black Flag hasnt happend yet, but i think you guys should set something up and like i said feel free to ask me anything. No problem, hope you find them useful. I've got my whole, probably too long story, on the podcasts but basically a lot of trial and error and a good 4 years doing ebay prior to starting. Learnt a bit from youtube, blogs and fb groups, theres tried and tested ways to do it but you should always try and develop your own method. Anyway thanks for checking out my ramblings on soundcloud and good luck on your online business journeys, peace and love

Ive been selling on Amazon fba for coming up to 2 years and managed to turnover 6 figures in last 12 months. So ive started a podcast on soundcloud giving advice to anyone whos looking to start up their own side hustle or even full time business. Not that im an expert by any means but just sharing my experiences and lessons ive learnt. Its free and im not selling anything although if anyone really wants it i maybe able to do private coaching. Feel free follow on sc and insta. But anyway check it out if its something youve been thinking about, if you have any questions that arent touched upon in the podcasts let me know and ill answer them fully in a future one. Ive dropped it netflix style so theres 7 episodes up already, this episode 5 but obvs go into the profile to get more - Episode 6

@D13g0 First off well done for pushing your boundaries and doing something like this, approaching a stranger and trying to create attraction is extremely difficult especially when its something you havent really done before, so take a second and think about the accomplishment of even attempting that, most people will never do that in their lives. Your issue seems to be with anxiety, so really its not a case of getting more woman or even getting rid of the anxiety, you have to come to terms with allowing the anxiety to be there. Youre doing something that youve never done before so youre brain is in survival mode trying to get you not to do it, because its something you want but youve survived all this time without doing it your brain just sees it as a threat to your survival. So its going to kick in with lots of anxiety and horrible feelings, theres no way to get rid of them but the more you challenge them by in this case, approaching women the more they should subside, but you have to understand why theyre there and just let them be, dont question them just look at it as a consequence of you pushing outside your comfort zone. The other issue is putting too much on the result, ie a girl texting you back. Whats interesting is that you dont even know whether you like the girl really but it would ruin your day if she doesnt text back. Which says that you are caught up in the result and not the girl or even the process. To really be successful in most things and especially attraction you really have to let go of the end result, practically you can do this by having the mindset that you dont really need this person in your life but if she wants to be it will be a great experience for her. Also another one is having an abundant mentality which is that you can approach and have a relationship with an abundant amount of women, you dont need to just go for the one that accepts your advances. again well done, and i hope this helps in some way

Just posted a podcast on soundcloud to do with fear and how it stops you doing what you want, the podcast series is more business orientated and goes through how to sell on Amazon which i do, but just wanted to give some value so let me know your thoughts on it - Podcast episode 8

@sgn my bad, last try i think its sorted now lol

@sgn Should be fixed now, have a listen you may not even need that much capital

I wasnt really explaining it i was just replying to @Deep

You could say theres a need as we could look at the shadow side of our collective consciousness and work at how to improve ourselves and the reasons why we bring such pain upon ourselves, in an effort to improve ourselves and not make the same mistakes and fall into the same traps we have done for many years. Racism is one way we separate ourselves and a real understanding of this can help us to truly become one through understanding. What youre saying is fine but doesnt really add to the question

We had a lengthy discussion about that here -

But in the video he does say the flow state is the optimum way for us to experience reality. So if you want to call it enlightenment or flow state or whatever the words arent really important its more the perspective youre seeing the world from. Whatever you experience your brain and body are the conduits for that so you will be able to trace activity through that. So to me it would seem that to have our highest chance of perceiving reality we should be in our optimum state and whilst in that optimum state people do say they feel that oneness, so it doesnt make it ultimately true but its the best perspective we can achieve.

Lol Was gonna bring up the 'black people are proud based on rap music'. That statement tells me everything, heres the thing go out and actually talk to some black people, instead basing your opinions on media cartoon representations. Thats like me saying all white people listen to country music and are hilbillies. And you said that while backtracking on what you said previously lol. I always wonder with people of similar feelings, can you really see things from a different perspective or will you always have these ingrained beliefs?

Completely agree with you, i work at a youth charity as a sessional worker, working with kids from 12 right up to early 20s and the number one factor i see for kids with behavioral issues is home life. Im pretty sure theres a direct correlation between how disruptive a young person is and how bad their home life is. If the kid has a fairly good home life you dont tend to see them having any behavioral issues. To say its solely based on race and genetics is to me incredible. But the thing is @MasterNigel isnt the only person that thinks this way. Like i said hopefully you take some of this on board and question your beliefs esp when confronted with so much evidence

Just so you know, Hitler also believed in genetics in the way you describe, ie different races having generalised superior and inferior attributes, which of course led to the holocaust. If you look at murder rates across the world Central and South American countries are usually the highest, as well as African countries. What you'll also notice is Russia a predominately white country has a higher murder rate than Nigeria, Mali and a number of African countries. Also the USA has a higher murder rate than Rwanda, Niger, Liberia and several other African countries. This isnt the total number of murders (of which USA is 8th with just under 16,000) this is number of murders per 100,000. Actually if you took away 50% of all murders in the USA, which you say are committed by blacks, the USA would only drop down to 13th in total murders in the world. So to jump to such a conclusion about black people being genetically pre disposed to commit murder i think just doesnt add up. Also whats notable about the list is that the higher murder rates belong to poorer countries. Also to @SFRL's point, yes you can make the argument that white people have been brutal in the last few hundred years or so, slavery, holocaust, colonisation, etc etc and thats not even getting into systemic racism, KKK, Black wall street the list goes on. Point is that to generalise people especially through genetics just doesnt work, in fact Hitlers theories have been debunked by modern science. But basically my standpoint is that poverty creates crime and murder amongst other factors, rather than as you say just genetics, if it was just genetics African countries would have the highest murder rates, also its very simplistic to even say its just one factor, especially such a loose debunked factor as youve mentioned. But anyway im not trying to prove im right i just want to encourage you to have a truly open mind about a topic such as this and not just jump to assumptions. Check out the doc anyway

Well the question would then be why are they more likely to commit murders? One argument could be that people in poverty whatever the race are more likely to commit crime and murder, so then it comes down to why are a lot of black people in poverty? Thats a complex issue which ive touched on as well in previous post. Main point is everything imo is causal so there are reasons why things happen this isnt to excuse anything or look at who the victims are, but to get a genuine understanding of why certain people are in certain situations. Its very easy to say (not neccersarily saying this is your point) black are just like this and white people are just like this. But to actually look unbiasedly at why these things are happening is very important to changing the tide. As @SFRL suggested you should watch 13th on netflix and while watching also watch how your mind reacts to it, do you question everything, do you accept it, do you dismiss it, watch what you do.

Lol yeah ok then, so you believe black people are inherently 'bad' and are just more likely to commit murder. Anyway, i honestly hope youve gained sonething from this exchange

Ive kind of laid out the issues if youve been following what i was saying, but essentially its not really about guilting white people or victimizing black people. Its really just about raising awareness (as it usually is) of whats going on in terms of the system we live in, and also having an objective as possible conversation about whats going on without white people getting triggered and feeling guilty/angry or black people getting triggered and feeling like victims/angry. If i can give you a quick example in the US the 13th admendment states something like 'slavery is illegal except if the person is convicted of a crime', essentially meaning if youre in prison, legally you can be used as a slave. Now when you consider that many US prisons are privitised which means thry can sell the labour of the prisoners to other private companies. This means there is a financial incentive for prisons to lock as many people as possible (we all know how much of a driver capitalism is), this plays out in the fact that 25% of the worlds prison population are incarcerated in the US. So what happens if you have a system where there is a racial bias which plays itself out in statistically longer sentances for black people commiting the same crime? Right a disproportionate amount of black people getting locked and carrying out slave labour. In fact 1 in 3 black males has been imprisoned in the US at least once. Add to that the poverty etc etc (if you are interested in this check out the doc 13th on netflix). So you can see from my example this is a very real issue thats happening today, in fact more people are imprisoned now than there were sold into slavery when it was legal. We'd all like to think we'd do something about slavery if we were alive back then but worse is happening now and we sit back. So my overall point is i dont know what the exact solution is but i know its something we should address and not put our head in the sand about and i also think truly understanding where someone else is coming or what they might be going through is a step in the right direction to what you say and which agree with, that we all are one consciousness.

This guy does very interesting psychological breakdowns of game of thrones, you may have to be familiar with the show to fully appreciate it though -

Surly the best way to change your thoughts is to take action though. For example if i wanted to get better at dating, i could read books, go to the gym, meditate etc etc and then when i believe im ready i attempt to ask girls out. Or I could just do it maybe fail a couple times get better and keep doing it while also doing those other positive activities. Because im actually doing the action my sub-conscious is adapting and making this action more normal, reducing the fear, and im getting better all the time. If you check out the book outliers by malcolm gladwell he talks about most or pretty much all people who have become great at something have put in at least 10,000 of actual work in that field, for example the Beatles played live gigs for 3 years straight before they started getting big, bill gates was programming on computers for years from the age of 15. Point is mindfulness and all that will definitely help you but you need to take action on something, whether its your life purpose or not it could be something that brings you to your life purpose. I just see a lot of people focused on just being mindful, which dont get me wrong is very important but so is taking action as well, it has to be a balance.

Yeah i dont look at mainstream media anymore either, which is why i researched the issue for myself. Its amazing that even though i presented facts you still dismissed everything but this speaks to the point i was making, minorities have legitimate issues around being minorities but when the subject is brought up its just as quickly dismissed. So say you were an employer and one of your employees came to you with a legitimate problem around race, you would be, strictly judging from your posts, more likely be dismissive of their complaint as youll think they are playing the victim. Not saying youre necessarily wrong for thinking that, there are a lot of people that think that but then you extrapolate it out and it translates to a lot of minorities with concerns not being listened to. Whether you think they should be or not its obviously going to garner resentment by being dismissive of what are real issues for people. So this is where the problem really lies. On a personal level Id never blame this on me not getting anywhere in life, the question was asked and previously ive looked into it so answered, its not something i really focus on, but that doesnt mean it doesnt exist

All the stuff your saying is good, but it feels like you're just doing them because you feel thats what you should be doing and thats what will take you to a next level. It doesnt really work in linear way as you think, you wont get to a situation where you do all these things and then suddenly things change, mainly the reason for this being is thats what youre expecting to happen, so the desire is still there. What i would suggest is just do what you feel you enjoy and take action on that, so if its being a chef (just guessing from your avatar) then do all you can to make that happen, its always about the journey rather than the destination because the journey is all you really have. Also all the habits youre building could be positive procrastination, in that you think you have to build up all these habits before you do the things you really want to do, forget that just do what it is you want to do. You can still do the habits of course but dont put anything on hold until youre happy with your habits

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I like this question as well. The way I see it is like a glass you fill with water, if your glass is empty then youre always looking at ways to fill the glass, or in other words validate your ego. One of the big ways we use to fill this glass is through getting someone to 'love' us, so with your friend for example she 'loves' this person because they validate her ego but the moment that person doesnt in the way she wants its likely she would get rid of them. So to truly love, your glass would have to be full and overflowing, then you are able to love without expecting anything back because you dont actually need anything from anyone, your cup is already full. Maslow mentions this in the hierarchy of needs (cant remember the title right now lol), basically its to do with an abundant vs a scarcity mindset, so essentially youre either going through life taking or going through life giving. Taking can work in the short term, but really its all about giving

I think you're right the face of western civilization is white, you can take into account that the US, now a super power, was built with African slaves and immigrants, but i know that wasnt your point. So yes its likely that white people will be the default and favour other white at least sub consciously. But actually if you look around the world due to colonisation, slavery etc etc the default around the world is actually white, so for example in many parts of Asia, Africa, South America, its seen as more attractive to be lighter, so much so that skin lightening products are big business. Also Indias caste system puts the lighter skinned people at the top. This is because the white beauty ideal has been exported successfully around the world, which leads to the doll experiment i posted in the my first post. Also another issue is that there was a lot of money spent on anti-black propaganda in the last century which was quite overt, im sure youve seen the cartoons, Jay-z also mentions it and uses it for his 'story of oj' music video. Apart from this there were posters, films, adverts etc etc all showing black people as less intelligent animals, it was even in the US constitution that black people are 3/5's of a human being whatever that means. Point is people grew up with these ideas not that long ago, these ideas would have been foundational ideas for people who then passed it on to their kids, white people believing theyre superior sub consciously and black people believing theyre inferior sub consciously, which then plays out in something like the harvard bias test. Could also be argued that this anti black propaganda still persists today, shows like cops, talk shows, etc is not matched on the other side by positive black role models. But anyway i think youre right to extent but you cant ignore the mountains of evidence that show there is something else going on there, it doesnt make sense that a black five year old kid would think black people are ugly without something else at play. Not saying its a conspiracy necessarily but definitely something we need to be aware of and not sweep under the rug by saying its just something that happens. https://medium.com/school-of-doodle/a-history-of-blackface-and-anti-black-propaganda-in-american-cinema-and-television-b4db376b43f2 http://www.afrizap.com/en/skin-bleaching http://www.newstatesman.com/politics/feminism/2016/01/dark-what-behind-india-s-obsession-skin-whitening

Hey man, fellow black man here lol A few years ago i really looked into what this subtle systemic racial preference/racism is about and where it originated from. Basically what your talking about is implicit racial bias, theres a test you can do called the harvard implicit bias test. Which basically tests peoples unconscious bias', not just on race but other factors, gender, disability etc, theres a separate test for each. Results wise what it tends to show is a huge majority of white people favour white people, which is to be expected but also has ramifications in the real world as most likely they will be the majority in the west, so most employers will be white, most writers, journalists etc etc. Thats not even taking into account that it would be harder for minorities to get jobs anyway. Whats also interesting about the test which speaks to your original point, is that more than half (not sure of numbers) of black people also are biased toward white people. You can take the test yourself here - https://implicit.harvard.edu/implicit/takeatest.html So what are the reasons for this? You have to get your head around that white people are the 'default' race, what i mean by that is they are the hero of the story, the main character etc. So just as a quick example, the program Friends is classed as a sitcom about 20 somethings in New York, if Friends had an all black cast it would be about black 20 somethings in New York and be seen as an 'ethnic' program. Other reasons are indoctrination from parents who may or may not have been even more unconsciously biased as the systemic racism may have been stronger for older generations. Schools play a part as you only ever hear about black people as slaves and servants in history rather than kings and queens which is what you hear about European history. This is despite that there are plenty of black kings and queens and empires, The Moors for example who ruled over Iberia in the middle ages (spain and portugal). The fact that you only know your ancestors to be slaves can have a very real detrimental affect on you. To be honest there are countless reasons but they are just all part of the system we currently living. For me it makes sense and i wouldnt say white people are even wrong for favouring other white people, we've all been indoctrinated to some extent, so i think really its about understanding that these are not necessarily truths, it isnt true that white people are inherently 'better' genetically than other races. Even if you feel that its about questioning that for yourself as a person of any race and coming to an actual conclusion. Also not being afraid of the question or of how it feels, i think these issues should not be shied away from as they will just fester and create more tension.